The Kevin Miller Podcast

In this episode I'm looking at lost opportunities and questioning the stories we have around them. We've been looking at how we view disappointment and there is a lot of content around just telling a different story. But I don't feel the message benefits us much. We felt what we felt and feel what we feel and it feels reasonable. I think it is...reasonable. But I have a question I feel will cause...

In this episode I'm going to confess how something I thought was a great strength, revealed itself as a weakness. And I see it so often with people who are more aware of themselves and concepts of healthy relating. They have learned not to react emotionally toward other people. They can regulate their behavior and in essence, bite their tongues. This can be good for not exacerbating a conflict in...

Some people relate to trauma. Some to grief. But everyone will admit to disappointment, even if you’re a chronic minimizer like me. We’re not here to exaggerate and inflate anything, and nobody wants to give attention to disappointment so it limits them. That however is my concern. Are we healthfully dealing with disappointments or are we repressing unresolved feelings that are in fact, limiting u...

In this episode we want to help you increase your wellness by elevating your desired healthy habits and routines into cherished rituals. Sacred even, if you will. We talk about diet and exercise and sleep we can often fall into viewing them as a chore. A should. Instead of a reverent endeavor we choose for our glorious well being. Rituals transcend mere chores and instill a reverence and even sacr...

In this episode I want to draw you to the things you care about. The things you value and believe in. And challenge you with your responsibility to sell them. Zig Ziglar famously said, “If you believe your product or service can fulfill a true need, it’s your moral obligation to sell it.” Now that doesn’t necessarily mean you must take a job selling a product or service you love. It may be a life...

In this episode I want to erase the myth and polarization of selflessness. I grew up in the Bible Belt and heard so much about dying to self. Altruism and serving others was held up as the holy grail of human achievement. I and so many others got the message that if an action or activity gave you any joy it was selfish and the goal was to abstain from any desire and only fulfill the desires and ne...

In this episode we look at the motives around procrastination. I received some new information that's made me question whether we're really avoiding something and putting it off, or in fact, just giving in to a greater desire. The concept can turn the idea of procrastination upside down. It reminds me of people who don't do something because they are afraid of failing, but sometimes you find out w...

In this episode I'm unveiling a very common motivator for your drive that I'd not adequately conceptualized before. We all realize that negative feelings can often be a powerful motivator for us. The desire to prove ourselves to the world. But my guest took it a step further and it was an "Ah ha!" Moment for me. Self-development leader Joel Brown cited that even among the top performers he's hired...

In this episode we continue our walk through a fairly comprehensive list of menu items on treatments for depression, apathy, or even just feeling blue and unmotivated and fatigued. In last week’s episode, we discussed solitude, outside time, exercise, positive input, having purpose and surrounding yourself with inspiration. Here we continue on with about nine other menu items you can pick and choo...

In this episode I want you to consider the disappointments of your life. You may not perceive them as that critical. Like me, you don’t feel you’ve really had big trauma in your life. You feel you don’t have much real pain or hardship to cite and you should just be good. But you live with a good amount of frustration and discontent. That’s the tell tale sign. I have an intriguing story about torna...

In this episode I want to address all of you who feel you have it pretty good. You really don’t have much to complain about. And you’re struggling with some guilt for wanting more and feeling some dissatisfaction. With all due respect, if you are hearing this podcast then you are called to more. Not to prove yourself or be worthy. But just cause you hear that call. Period. Let me explain, and yes,...

In this episode I cover your true heart’s desire. It’s to make a difference. To contribute to the world. Not because you are Captain Altruistic, but because you are human and selfishly this is what we most want. We want to matter to others. If you study the rich and famous, you’ll generally find them at two ends of the spectrum later in life. They are miserable and their lives are a shambles. A go...

In this episode we’re delivering steps for you to stand out and be remarkable. So you don’t get lost in the shuffle of noise out there. To get much of anywhere today, we must be remarkable. But what does that mean? My guest defines it not as being famous or rich, having tons of followers or being a genius, but as making a difference. Making the world a better place. His podcast is actually called...

In this episode we talk about other treatments for depression. Depression doesn’t take away your drive. It just leaves you stuck in park. Idling. Therapy and medications are the primary treatments for depression. This leaves out many other treatments and doesn’t address habits we often have that can massively dilute the efficacy of any amount of therapy and meds. We’re going to give you about 13....

In this episode I’m going to enlighten you to another cultural illness we have. It’s explaining our decisions and actions to get other’s affirmations and validations. We want everyone’s approval and we spend copious amounts of time explaining ourselves and encountering anxiety about having our friend’s, family’s and the world’s blessings about everything we decide to do. And you may often be asked...

In this short episode I want to uncover the insidious role of expectations and shoulds that often make up much of our personal and cultural drive. And, it shouldn’t. Whatever you are driving after that is fueled by a should will bear bad fruit. One of three things will happen. One, you’ll achieve the objective, but with bitterness and exhaustion. Call it collateral damage. This is what leads to bu...

In this episode I’m going to give you a shortcut to making sure you find the best fit, whether you’re seeking a new job, a date, or any new opportunity. It doesn’t guarantee you’ll get the thing you want, but it gives you the best chance, and it will nearly guarantee you don’t end up in a situation you don’t want. In the last episode I had interviewing guru Anna Papalia on the show and we talked t...

In this episode we give focus to our drive, in our work. Our work is a primary, if not the primary focus of our lives, at least from a daily time and energy devotion. The message here is in relation to the interviewing process, but as you’ll hear, so much of it relates to our lives overall. In any relationship and opportunity there is an aspect of selling yourself and often a struggle between bein...

In this episode look at our physical wellness, as our bodies are the vehicle that houses everything we drive toward. Few things drive our appetites like…sugar. We see sugar as a gift and honor it like we honor wine. And like wine, it’s probably not best to have it in excess. For the greater span of time, humans went most of their lives with little to no sugar outside of the occasional fruit when i...

In this episode I address our drive to improve. If you didn’t have that drive, you wouldn’t be listening now. You want to improve. Better yourself. And the point is getting better results from your life and more joy and fulfillment in your soul. Yet we can fall into the trap of striving and striving and never being ok with ourselves right now. As we humans tend to do, we polarize and are prone to...

I want to help you, and me, be aware that our brain is programmed to take everything that happens during our day, every source of input, and immediately run it through a filter of self-protection. And we don’t get our authentic selves from it. I saw a post recently that said “Awakening is not changing who we are, but discarding who we are not.” Our natural, self-protective selves are not our authe...

What if most or all of your feelings were actually vibrations? And what you vibe with, is a similar frequency that you resonate with. And what feels off is a vibe you don’t resonate with? No right or wrong, but recognizing a tangible way to understand why some environments, circumstances, and people, feel good or bad to you? This has become a powerful understanding and tool to help me surround mys...

I've forever had my paradigm shifted with a new category of attributes. What are attributes? They are inherent qualities you possess. We all do. And they inform everything we do. Here is the story. Rich Diviney spent 20 years as a Navy SEAL, completing more than a dozen overseas deployments, eleven in Iraq and Afghanistan. He went on to be intimately involved in a specialized SEAL selection proces...

As your body is the physical vehicle for all you do here on earth, this episode is about having it in great working order. As we continue to look at the best foods to fuel our bodies, we now turn to fat. Most of grew up where fat was the enemy, so everything went to no fat or zero fat and we Americans got…fatter. As quoted by the NCBI, National Center for Biotechnology Information: The prevalence...

Friends, this is a conviction I’m frustrated by and hopeful with. We are all wanting to better ourselves. We want it so we think differently and act differently and get better results. This is what fulfills us, and it’s what serves others best. So we truly want to grow and progress, but we take in untold amounts of information, we get inspired, and the months go by and we wonder, “Have I changed?”...