The Kevin Miller Podcast

I’m looking at who you are when you’re uninhibited, because it’s a tell-tale sign of what is really driving you. And so often we are blind. I’m not making light of being drunk, drugged, having dementia or dying, but these are methods or altered states that generally bring down people’s shields and we see what is underneath the persona. I’ve witnessed people in all these states and I’ve experienced...

In this episode I’m looking at a concept that may be far more effective for motivating us than goal setting. There was a study that showed 80% of people are more motivated by problem solving than goals. What is a problem to consider? Dying. Imagine if you knew you had one year to live? What would you want to do? What would you stop doing? What would matter and what would not? After my recent conve...

The point of this podcast is to better fuel your drive so you achieve more fulfillment. I’ve met few people who want to talk about death. We avoid it like…death. It’s black and dark and to be feared. At least in our culture. But seven months ago my Dad got a surprise cancer diagnosis, and he died six weeks later. I was fortunate to walk with him daily until his last breath. I went from zero exposu...

Guilt is a primary hidden driver that we’ve accepted as a norm. How much of your lives and actions are being driven by this life draining motive? Probably more than you are aware of. But why, is the question. And how can you stop it? I’m with Valorie Burton. Valorie is founder of the Coaching and Positive Psychology (CaPP) Institute and has written more than a dozen books on personal development....

I don’t know many people who are sitting around bored. Who have ample free time and lots of margin. Between work, self-care, parenting, home and car maintenance and even socializing and entertainment, we generally have more we want to do and get done than time allows. So we stay at status quo and can feel fairly stuck. What’s interesting is we love to watch people at the top of their game. Athlete...

This is a warning for our culture as we are falling into a mode of far more consuming and far less creating. Two episodes ago I had business strategist and purpose expert, Mike Zeller, author of The Genius Within. A profound statement he wrote in his book, that I find to be a great challenge to us all, is this, “You don’t become great by reading other people’s great thoughts, shouting mantras and...

We frequently hurt our pursuit of purpose with two, polarized myths. One is that our purpose will be nothing but fun and play and passion. Or two, that our great purpose, our mission in life, will be great toil and sacrifice. After having over 250 of our world’s most influential people on this show, I haven’t found any who felt what they did was all play or all toil. And I haven’t found this in my...

We’d all like to know the one assignment, the mission, the purpose that was just for us. That we were made for. We’d like a stone tablet to fall out of the sky that said, “This is what you are here to do. Go do it.” What confidence we’d have! We love to watch movies where life and death is on the line and it’s clear what everyone needs to do. But life is not like that. You wake up today to way too...

Clinically we hear about gut health and the microbiome. I’m not a doctor. So in layman's terms, the idea is, we eat food. We chew it up and swallow and it goes down into our system. The processing plant. How is the processing plant doing? Is it able to break things down? Get out nutrients? Turn things into energy and vitality? I’m with Randy James, medical doctor and Functional Medicine practition...

We often find ourselves at the end of our rope, burnt out in our work or a relationship, usually citing some game ending event or circumstance. When in reality, this was building up for a long time. I’m still pondering insights from my conversation with Mark Groves, Human Connection Specialist and founder of Create the Love. He’s host of the Mark Groves Podcast and co-author of a new book, Liberat...

We all desire to be our authentic selves. To be our fullest selves. You hear these messages and promises from the personal growth industry because it's such a desire of aspiring people like you and me. Many message talk about coming back to yourself and finding yourself again. In my experience however, we have never been close to being our true selves, as our true selves have never existed. No, no...

All of us have things we dislike. Things we seem to hold some fear of. And as someone who is seeking self awareness, you will likely get stumped as to why you have some of these feelings. We have all the phobias. Literal fears. But then we have a list of things we just dislike. Things that make us uncomfortable. Things that frustrate us. Things that cause us negative reactions and feelings and it...

You are in a variety of relationships. How liberated do you feel? How free to be yourself and think and speak freely do you feel? Especially in your closest relationships. My experience in my own life and in walking closely with so many others is we come together and morph to fit and please each other, and continue a cycle of morphing for the length of the relationship. If we can handle it. And of...

Recovering from injury is a popular topic, whether it’s a broken bone, a soft tissue sprain, pull, or tear, or a severe illness or disease. Yet as you’ll hear in this episode, we hit on the reality that living itself is injury. Every morning you wake up, hopefully having gotten quality sleep that was healing. Let’s say you start at 100%, which is impossible, but whatever level you start out, from...

My headline of doing only what you want will seem facetious and likely with a catch. But I commit to you that it’s possible, right now and today, to only do what you want. Or at least give you a dramatic launch in that direction and help you get there completely in short order. Does that mean you then achieve perfect happiness and joy? Not at all, because you’ll end up facing the reality that you...

Taking responsibility doesn’t come from some grand maturity or discipline as much as it comes from our identity and perspective. It’s a security issue. When you find yourself amidst a negative emotion and the temptation to place blame on someone or something else, it’s because something feels at risk. There are two questions you can ask to get to the root issue and generally alleviate the problem,...

In this episode I’m flipping our concept of taking control. The normal perspective on taking control is to stand up tall and assert yourself. Take a firm grip and bend things to your will. This concept is generally related to your external life when you are striving to control things that are often not controllable or not your responsibility to control. But even internally this is the concept we c...

The conversation explores the concept of responsibility versus blame. The participants discuss the opportunities and payoffs of taking responsibility for oneself, such as empowerment, self-fulfillment, and personal growth. They also examine the cultural factors that may contribute to a lack of responsibility, including a litigious society and the impact of social media. The importance of knowing o...

In this episode we talk about play. Non-productive activities, in essence, though what you’ll find is these activities greatly support our overall productivity. I spent a lot of years with no room for play. I saw it as unproductive. It took a while to notice the joy my friends who played had, and how it seemed to coincide with their success everywhere else. It can be a hard issue for the aspiring...

In this episode I want to help you clarify the problem you solve for others. Think about the nonfiction books you purchase. You get them in hopes they will help you solve a problem you have. You often think we are fulfilling desires, but it’s been well proven that our greatest and primary motivators are problems. And I’m going to help you look at some so-called desires and show how they are really...

In this episode we look at one of the key ways to become a famous resource. We started with a masterclass in becoming known, with brand guru Rory Vaden. Rory is known for the topic of obscurity, and helping mission driven messengers not remain a best kept secret. In the last episode I drilled further into Rory’s counsel to become known for one thing. I hope you’ve been working on what you are, or...

In this episode I’ll give you the number one way to become a famous resource. When I share it, you will immediately agree. I’m not being flippant or confident, as I didn’t come up with this, I’m just the messenger. The answer is one of those super simple truths that you hear and go, “Oh, of course.” Super simple, yet it’s amazing how hard it is for us to clarify, choose, and stick to. Drive with m...

In this episode I'm giving you the recipe for being known. Notice the word recipe. It's actually a term we need to use more in this personal growth space. Everyone is promoting to you that they have the answer for you. The secret. The perfectly baked cake to give you all you want. It doesn't exist. The best you can get is a recipe so you can bake your own cake. So here we have a profound recipe fo...

In this episode we want to gain clarity on what we are in fact, becoming. You are working to grow, which means you are looking to become…something. Something more, but what? If you don’t have a clear destination in mind, you are likely to wander. Imagine going out in your car to travel, but without a clear place to go. “I’m just traveling!” But we often do this in our growth. “I’m just seeking gro...

In this episode I’m looking at one more angle on this topic of disappointment and ways to mitigate the negative feelings that can haunt and hinder us. I’m striving to find balance between letting disappointments handicap us, and minimizing feelings that have relevance as well. I’m going to continue a story and offer you some relevant human experiences so we can look at different angles of our pers...