The JK But Gay Show

Is being gay inherently political, or does it just feel that way because our lives keep getting debated? In this episode of the JK But Gay Show, we talk about identity, voting, political exhaustion, and what happens when being gay becomes part of every political conversation. We get into whether your identity should shape how you vote, what it means when people vote against their own community, an...

In this episode of The JK But Gay Show, Tony joins us to talk about visibility, family, internet fame, and what it means to be Latino, gay, proud, and fully seen. We get into when he realized he was a brand, how Texas compares to California, and what it feels like to be recognized online while still wanting to be fully understood by the people closest to you. This conversation goes beyond being an...

What does Pride actually mean today? In this episode of the JK But Gay Show, we reflect on our first Pride experiences, the moments that shaped us, and why Pride continues to matter for the LGBTQ community. We also unpack the changing role of corporate Pride, why some companies are pulling back, and what that means for LGBTQ visibility. This conversation isn't just about Pride Month. It's...

What does dating actually look like for gay men today? This week we're joined by the hosts of the Messy Thoughts Podcast to talk about attraction, race, dating apps, and the realities of dating as Black and Latino gay men. From preferences and first impressions to the conversations people avoid having out loud, we unpack the things that shape modern dating in the LGBTQ community. We also get into...

How much of masculinity is actually real… and how much of it did we learn to survive? In this episode of The JK But Gay Show, we talk about machismo, code switching, and the pressure to present ourselves a certain way. From changing our voices to navigating femininity and masculinity in Latino culture, we unpack how much of identity is shaped by expectations, survival, and performance. We also get...

What happens when you don’t fit the mold of the culture you come from? In this episode of The JK But Gay Show, we sit down with Tejano singer Eric Lee (@soyericlee) to talk about identity, machismo, and what it’s like being openly gay in a space that hasn’t always made room for you. From growing up around Tejano music royalty like Los Desperadoz to navigating family expectations, this conversation...

When did your relationship with your body stop feeling normal? In this episode of The JK But Gay Show, we get into body dysmorphia and why so many of us feel like we’re never fully satisfied with how we look. From constantly chasing new goals to never feeling like we’ve “arrived,” we talk about what that cycle actually feels like. We also unpack how being gay and Latino shapes body image, the pres...

This is Jose Angel’s first time ever on a podcast… and it’s not what you expect. Known as @onlywayjose on TikTok, Jose Angel has built a following of over 100K people, but there’s a side of him his audience hasn’t seen. In this episode, we get into his upbringing, coming out story, what it means to be a gay Latino man, and how his life changed once TikTok found him. We also talk about dating, bein...

What does self-care actually look like… and are we doing it right? In this episode of the JK But Gay Show, we talk about what self-care really means in the gay community and how easy it is to confuse it with avoidance. From perfectionism and validation to spending time alone, we unpack the habits that feel good in the moment but might not actually be helping us. We also get into how growing up gay...

We brought on San Antonio’s Best Drag Performer, Kristi Waters, and this conversation is everything. We get into how she started drag, what led her to leave teaching, and what life is actually like behind the scenes. From the best parts of drag to the things no one talks about, Kristi breaks down the reality of the art, the identity, and the work that goes into it. We also talk about how people tr...

Do gays have high standards… or are we just confusing standards with pressure? In this episode, we get into why gay standards feel so extreme. From expecting perfection to accepting the bare minimum, we talk about the gap so many of us live in. We ask ourselves the hard question. If we met ourselves, would we even meet our own standards? We also get into dating patterns, red flags, why so many gay...

For the first time ever, we are not doing this alone. We brought our husbands on the show to kick off Season 2. We talk about how we met, when we knew it was real, and what marriage actually looks like behind the scenes. From favorite traits to first impressions, and the dynamic of being two couples who became best friends, this episode gets honest, funny, and a little chaotic. Featuring Roger and...

Bonus Episode: We’re closing out the year of The JK But Gay Show with a conversation about new beginnings. In this episode, we talk about why queer people are often forced to start over, and why we get so good at it. From coming out again and again, to rebuilding chosen family, to reinventing ourselves after heartbreak, loss, or burnout, starting over is almost a queer skill set. We also explore h...

Bonus Episode: We’re back with another drop in The JK But Gay Show and this time we’re talking boundaries. Boundaries we grew up with. Boundaries we didn’t. And the boundaries we’re still figuring out. From Latino family rules to messy gay friendships to the tricky art of saying “no” as adults, we share the moments that made us question everything from privacy to people pleasing. We talk about blu...

Bonus Episode: The JK But Gay Show continues our JK But Holiday mini-series with Red Flags, But Gay. In this episode we talk about the red flags we have ignored, the ones that make us run, and the standards we have learned to raise. From dating and relationships to gay friendships, we break down what healthy boundaries actually look like and what behaviors should send you packing. We also get real...

Bonus Episode: JK But Holiday continues with Spooky, But Gay . In this episode of The JK But Gay Show we talk about the fears and phobias that shaped us as gay men, the spiritual beliefs we grew up with as Latinos, and the Mexican traditions we hold close this time of year. From candlelight altars and colorful marigolds to costumes, parties, and chaos, we share why Halloween is basically gay Chris...

Bonus Episode: JK But Holiday continues with Stanning, But Gay where we talk about pop stars, fandoms, and why gays are so obsessed with them. From Beyoncé to Taylor Swift, we unpack why queer people see themselves in larger-than-life pop icons who are bold, expressive, and unapologetic. We also talk about our first pop star obsessions, what our fandoms say about us, and when stanning goes too far...

Bonus Episode: The JK But Gay Show is launching a new mini-series called JK But Holiday. In this bonus drop we talk about the traditions we grew up with, the ones we have made our own with chosen family, and the superstitions and beliefs that shaped us. From Latino family rituals to gay traditions like Friendsgiving, pageant watch parties, and Halloween as gay Christmas, we share which traditions...

Season 1 Episode 16 of The JK But Gay Show is about queer joy and why it matters. We share the first times we felt true queer joy, how it is different from straight joy, and what we would bottle it up into if we could, which for us is true gay friendships. We talk about queer joy in the Latino space, the power of Pride, and the unexpected joy this show has brought us along the way. 🎧 Listen now a...

Season 1 Episode 15 of The JK But Gay Show is about gay nightlife and how it shaped us. We talk about our first nights at gay bars, the scenes that defined us like clubs and bar spaces, and how going out has changed as we have gotten older. We also open up about what it feels like when straight people enter queer spaces and why nightlife is still so important to the LGBTQ community. 🎧 Listen now...

In Health, But Gay we explore the ways our community has been shaped by the HIV/AIDS epidemic and the stigma it left behind. From the lack of sex education that addressed queer lives to the bias we face when walking into a doctor’s office, this episode gets real about what it means to take care of ourselves as gay men. We break down: • The legacy of HIV stigma and its impact on mental and physical...

In Machismo, But Gay we dive deep into machismo, toxic masculinity, and how these forces shaped us as gay Latinos. From childhood lessons about “acting like a man” to the pressure to conform to hypermasculine norms in queer spaces, this episode is a raw and honest reflection on our journeys. We break down: • The cultural roots of machismo and its impact on identity • The pressure to hide vulnerabi...

Season 1 Episode 12 of The JK But Gay Show is about aging and what it means to grow older as gay men. We reflect on the moment we realized we are not the young gays anymore and how a new generation is coming up behind us. From aching backs to feeling behind in life we talk about what aging really feels like in the LGBTQ community. We also explore the in between years when you are not young nor old...

Season 1, Episode 11 of The JK But Gay Show is all about coming out at work and what it takes to navigate the workplace as openly gay Latinos. We share our stories, the fears that came with them, and how we decided when and if to bring our full selves into professional spaces. From first jobs where we stayed quiet to the moments we stepped into our identities, we talk about the subtle and not so s...

Season 1, Episode 10 of The JK But Gay Show is all about love and what it means for us as gay Latinos. We get real about learning to love ourselves, what our inner voice says (and whether it’s on our side or not), and the examples of love we grew up with. From the messages our families taught us about affection to discovering our love languages and debating if soulmates are real, this episode digs...