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In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being mistaken for shy, and how often being introverted is conflated with being shy. Links in this episode: https://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/are-you-shy-or-introverted-science-says-this-is-1-primary-difference.html

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about the challenges of working in an open concept office as an introvert. Links in the episode: https://medium.com/swlh/the-complete-introverts-guide-to-surviving-an-open-plan-office-f21a5e1072c2 https://www.andymort.com/open-plan-office/ https://introvertdear.com/news/5-tips-to-save-your-sanity-in-an-open-office/ https://www.cofcogroup.com/introverts-guide-to-...

In this episode, Jess and Phil come up with strategies to maintain their friendships: from texting, to reminder apps, to (ugh) phone calls. Links in this episode: https://www.theaccessproject.org/friends-with-introverts/ https://www.16personalities.com/articles/keeping-in-touch-when-you-are-an-introvert

Last episode was a little heavy, so this episode is all fun and games: Jess and Phil play Would You Rather, and try to make each other shudder.

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about grieving. CW: This episode contains a lengthy discussion about death and grief, as well as healthy (and maybe not so healthy) coping mechanisms for introverts. This is a topic that some listeners may find difficult to listen to, and discretion is advised. Links in this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-and-the-burden-of-grief/ https://what...

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the gym: a place Phil has seldom been (just enough to reinforce his dislike of it), and a place Jess used to spend time. Also: why are there no introvert friendly gyms? https://medium.com/@mariefranklin/the-introverts-guide-to-going-to-the-gym-e3d5b9454755 https://introvertdear.com/news/how-to-survive-going-to-the-gym-when-youre-an-introvert/ https://blog.goo...

Phil and Jess provide some advice to introverts on surviving everything from holiday parties, to those seasonal familial obligations. Episode Links: https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-christmas-holidays-exhausting/ https://www.quietrev.com/how-an-introvert-does-thanksgiving/

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about dealing with confrontation. Phil admits to being confrontation avoidant, and Jess is a little disappointed. https://www.reddit.com/r/extroverts/comments/6b005k/extroverts_and_dealing_with_introverted_conflict/ https://introvertspring.com/introverts-and-conflict/ https://www.quietrev.com/an-introverts-guide-to-managing-conflict/

In this episode, Jess and Phil grapple with that old nemesis: the phone call. Episode Links: https://www.verywellmind.com/afraid-making-phone-calls-tips-3024317 https://themindsjournal.com/introverts-hate-talking-on-phone/ https://introvertdear.com/news/introvert-phone-call-tips/

This summer Jess got Married. Phil didn't, but he's been to a lot of weddings. In this episode: wedding survival tips. https://www.brides.com/story/wedding-day-survival-tips-for-introverted-brides https://www.marriagenamechange.com/blog/wedding-introvert/ https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2017/08/30/6-ways-to-make-weddings-more-fun-for-introverts/

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about moving to a new city, and how not to be isolated when you don't know anyone. Links in this episode: https://verilymag.com/2018/09/an-introverts-guide-to-finding-friends-in-a-new-city https://www.bustle.com/p/how-to-make-friends-when-you-move-to-a-new-place-as-adult-9086541 https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510350/how-to-make-friends

Jess and Phil return to the topic that still plagues them (and many introverts): parties. Episode Links: https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/introverts-and-parties_n_562e9982e4b06317990f1037 https://thesocialman.com/the-introverts-guide-to-acing-parties/ https://medium.com/@mollysmithone/how-to-blend-in-at-a-party-when-youre-an-introvert-427f478015c

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about how to know that you're an introvert. https://introvertdear.com/news/introvert-undeniable-signs/ https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-are-an-introvert-2795427 https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-know-if-I-am-an-introvert-1 http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2015/06/apparently-there-are-four-kinds-of-introversion.html

Episode Notes On this episode, Jess and Phil talk about learning to love being an introvert. Links in this episode: https://thoughtcatalog.com/bineet-kaur/2017/02/why-i-wholeheartedly-love-being-an-introvert/ https://www.scarymommy.com/benefits-being-introvert/ https://www.theodysseyonline.com/like-being-introvert

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about group work, both at school and work, and how to survive it.

Episode Notes On this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the stories we tell when we break plans. Both things we tell other people, and the stories we tell ourselves. Links in this episode: https://shesaid.com/23-excuses-every-introvert-has-used-to-get-out-of-goi https://livewellworryless.com/2016/06/10/being-an-introvert-was-my-excuse-to-disengage/ https://austin.citymomsblog.com/2016/07/27/introvers...

Episode Notes In this episode Jess and Phil explore ways for Introvert's to recharge after exhausting social interactions. Links from this episode: https://www.popsugar.com/smart-living/Ways-Introverts-Recharge-39990746 https://louderminds.com/recharge-introvert/ https://strongsensitivesouls.com/recharge-your-energy/ https://www.powerofpositivity.com/5-recharging-techniques-for-introverts/

Episode Notes In this episode: Valentines Day. Jess and Phil talk about whether Valentines is awesome, or whether it's terrible, and then: some coping mechanisms for dealing with Valentines Day as a single introvert. Links in this episode: https://introvertspring.com/still-single/ https://introvertdear.com/news/introvert-alone-on-valentines-day/

Episode Notes In this episode Jess and Phil talk about how to survive small talk. Links from this episode: http://intentblog.com/10-creative-ways-to-survive-small-talk/ https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinapark/2015/03/30/an-introverts-guide-to-small-talk-eight-painless-tips/#4601ff2574a7 https://journal.media/tips-for-introverts-on-surviving-small-talk https://lifehacker.com/5913355/how-can-i-tu...

Episode Notes In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about how to deal with those "helpful" people who try and fix your introversion. Links from this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/cant-fix-introverts-not-broken/ https://www.theodysseyonline.com/im-an-introvert-and-dont-need-to-be-fixed https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-overcome-the-problem-of-being-an-introvert https://introvertspring.com/open...

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess & Phil tackle that most terrible of introvert problems: ordering take out. Also: here's the silly "are you an introvert or an extrovert based on your pizza order" quiz they talk about in the episode: http://quizly.co/order-a-pizza-introvert-or-extrovert/

Episode Notes In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about surviving holiday shopping, self care, and more. https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-christmas-holidays-exhausting/ https://introvertdear.com/news/salespeople-introvert-shop/

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess & Phil talk about the challenges of being in relationships, both with other introverts and with a gasp Extrovert! Also, an important announcement! https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/how-to-love-an-introvert_us_58ade64de4b0d0a6ef476aa3 https://psych2go.net/10-things-introverts-need-relationship/ https://introvertspring.com/the-ultimate-introverts-dilemma-in-...

Episode Notes In this episode Jess and Phil talk about house guests, both being and hosting. Also, they share some horror stories about being guests, and also get hung up on the fact that some people don't keep coffee in the house. http://introvertretreat.com/822/introverted-houseguest-host-without-driving-crazy/ https://www.theadventurouswriter.com/blog/enjoying-house-guests-when-you-rather-they-...

Episode Notes Jess just got back from performing her show in two cities, and so we sit down to talk about putting herself out there, and the challenges, difficulties and triumphs of pushing against your natural tendencies as an introvert.