The Introvert's Guide to...

In this episode, Jess and Phil answer a listener question about the difficulty of dealing with an Extroverted Family member.

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about those talents that tend to be strongest in introverts: the introvert super powers. Links in this episode: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/a-love-note-to-introverts-10-superpowers-that-make-you-amazing/

We asked our listeners to send us their burning questions about their introvert lives, and we would give our best advice. In this episode, Jess and Phil answer listener questions.

Why do so many introverts have difficulty asking for help, whether it's trying to carry too many grocery bags home from the store by yourself, or trying to learn something new. In this episode, Jess and Phil admit their struggles with asking for help, and try to find ways to ask for help when they need it. Links in this episode: https://www.16personalities.com/articles/asking-for-help-part-i-harde...

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about hunting for an apartment as an introvert, as well as the strange relationship between tenant and landlord, and what (for them) makes a good landlord relationship.

Jess and Phil are taking a brief hiatus over the holidays, so no new episode this week. But we will be back in January, with more episodes of The Introvert's Guide To...

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess and Phil dig into that phrase that so many introverts hear, "You're so quiet" and try to dig into the truth behind that idea about introverts. Links in this episode: https://www.cnbc.com/2019/09/19/acting-extroverted-improves-introverts-wellbeing-happiness.html https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/quiet-disadvantage-study-finds-extroverts-are-hap...

Episode Notes In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about finding themselves in leadership roles, what makes a good leader, and how introverts (contrary to some) make great leaders. Links in this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/10-survival-tips-for-introverted-leaders/

In this episode, Jess and Phil respond to a letter from a listener, and dive into how an introvert can feed their relationships, both with friends and partners. Links in the episode: https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/13-things-you-can-make-introvert-feel-loved.html

Sometimes it is necessary to break up with a friend. This can be a difficult thing to approach, and can lead to confrontations which many of us would rather avoid. In this episode, Jess and Phil provide helpful hints for how to approach a friend break up. Links in the episode: https://psych2go.net/10-signs-youve-pissed-introvert-off/

In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about being selective about their friendships, and keeping their circle of friends small. Phil also learns that he is not a complete a**hole, Jess tells a story about potentially ghosting a friend, and they both get the giggles. Links in this episode: https://www.makemebetter.net/why-should-you-choose-your-friends-carefully/

In this episode, Jess and Phil invited their friend, storyteller, actor, playwright, Carlyn Rhamey to come and discuss life living between the two extremes of Introvert and Extrovert: life as an Ambivert. Links in this episode: https://www.wellandgood.com/what-is-an-ambivert/

In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about dealing with self esteem and self confidence issues. How the stories we tell ourselves matter, and how to be kinder to ourselves. Links in this episode: https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/affirmations.htm

In this episode, Phil and Jess talk about how to do that thing they are always reminding us to do: say what you need. This isn't always easy, so Jess and Phil try to provide helpful advice on how to do this. Also, rather than finding helpful advice on the internet, Jess digs deep into google's nether pages to find terrible advice that you should definintely not follow.

In this episode, Phil & Jess talk about the FOMO (fear of missing out) that can come from seeing others post on Social Media, as well as the self consciousness that some introverts feel about posting. Links in this episode: https://www.theodysseyonline.com/how-use-fomo-motivation-when-you-are-introvert https://www.bustle.com/articles/153339-how-to-avoid-fomo-when-youre-an-introvert

On this episode, Jess and Phil face the difficulties of Job hunting for the introvert. Both Phil and Jess have been in a position to do hiring as well, so they also offer some suggestions for the job hunter. Links in this episode: https://www.glassdoor.com/blog/introverts-guide-to-job-hunting/

In this episode, Jess and Phil check in to talk about how they are "surviving" the quarantine life. Turns out, they are doing pretty well. They also hear from other introverts about how they are doing.

In this episode, Jess and Phil discuss the difficulty of team building events and the introvert. Phil has a lot to say on the topic. Jess discovers to her surprise that Phil would be up for a bus ride sing along. https://www.scienceofpeople.com/team-building-activities/ https://teambonding.com.au/blog/i-hate-team-building-icebreaker-games-for-introverts-and-sceptics/

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being people pleasers. Phil realizes that maybe he's more of a people pleaser than he thought. And Jess discovers that she's learned more about how to say no than she thought! Links in this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/the-people-pleasers-guide-to-pleasing-people/ https://www.thathummingbirdlife.com/blog/a-permission-slip-for-friendly-people-ple...

In this time of Social Distancing and calls to stay home, some introverts are feeling trapped with their families or roommates. With no escape from children, partners, roomies, and who ever else they share space with, it can be difficult to find the space and time to recharge your batteries. This can lead to frayed nerves and tension in the household. It's has never been more important to be able...

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about being cool and popular as an introvert, what is “cool”, and whether an introvert can be popular. We also learn that Phil made some unfortunate choices in high school in his quest to be cool, and that Jess was always pretty cool. Links in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wHHwE8Y-pqk https://medium.com/@connectzapp/how-to-be-popular-when-youre-a...

On this episode, Jess and Phil talk about video games, and if either of them is "dependent" on them. Jess discovers that perhaps Phil isn't quite as dependent as she thought, and Phil discovers that Jess might have a slight addiction to a certain game of crafting in mines. Links in this episode: https://www.16personalities.com/articles/game-on-which-personality-types-enjoy-video-games

In this episode, Jess and Phil answer questions that extroverts have for introverts. Questions were solicited from r/extroverts and from social media.

In this episode, Jess and Phil talk about living with roommates, and how to handle roommate socializing as an introvert. Links in this episode: https://introvertdear.com/news/introverts-guide-dealing-roommates/ https://ohmyapt.apartmentratings.com/living-with-roommates-as-an-introvert.html https://www.truity.com/blog/survival-guide-introverts-who-live-extroverts-and-vice-versa

In our first ever bonus episode, Jess and Phil have some suggestions for our extroverts who might be struggling with social distancing.