The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

When thinking about flirting, it's common to think of initial meetings, picking someone up in a public place, dating, or when getting to know a partner. But flirting is not something that should be restricted to the early stage of a relationship; it should be present through the decades of a long-lasting, intimate marriage! Logan reached out to me on Facebook seeking advice on how to flirt with hi...

One of the biggest struggles individuals face within a relationship is the experience of losing one's own identity. When a couple goes into business together it can become even more prominent, exacerbated by having very little separation from one another throughout the day. Enter Lee and Lee Cordell. This is a couple who have been together for 17 years, and not only do they share a life and career...

What's the number one biggest concern that people have in the marriage? Boredom in long-lasting relationships. The fear of getting bored spending time with one another, feeling bored with the intimacy in the relationship, or just the overall fear that what was once juicy and dynamic will eventually become stale and flat. It can feel inevitable and unavoidable. Fortunately, that's simply not true....

All relationships undergo ups and downs and major changes, especially once you've been together for decades. Doctors Robyn Tiger and Eric Tiger are no strangers to that, having met early in their radiology careers when they quickly noticed how many parallels their lives had. But when the stress of practicing medicine began impacting her emotional and physical well-being, Robyn's career took a turn...

My husband and I had a solid, collaborative, and intimate marriage. Our foundation was strong and we could envision what it would be like to go from good to great, and were on our way there… However, suddenly, things started to feel strange to me. I experienced a disconnect in our marriage but couldn't see a single reason why this was happening. The cause, however, had nothing to do with a present...

In intimate relationships, we must navigate our differences and often that happens through conflict. But imagine if we allowed these areas of tension to be a source of nourishment and expansion instead? What would become possible for both of you? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Marie-Elizabeth Mali and Patrick Price (former clients of mine and relationship experts the...

When I became an entrepreneur, integrating my entrepreneur self and my physician self was complicated. I knew how to be either one, but being both didn't come naturally—I felt pulled in opposite directions. But I knew I had to figure out how to be both a physician and a coach. And how to be a wife and an entrepreneur. Bringing our whole multi-passionate selves to something is part of creating succ...

In this episode, Alexandra goes deep into the details of what is meant by "uncompromising intimacy". She defines compromise and describes the kind of relationship it creates: bland, neutral, comfortable companionship. In contrast, uncompromising intimacy leads to deep emotional connection, dynamic expansion, self-expression, and passion! Listen in for more details and what this actually looks like...

What if being selfish is one of the best ways to improve your relationship? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Balance & Relationship Advisor, Naketa Ren Thigpen, for a conversation about the best practices to build your relationship which are almost never discussed. Anywhere! Because we dive into what intentional selfishness (yes, it's a thing!) is all about, why achiev...

After some years of bliss, your relationship is likely to encounter some tough times. Could be due to infertility, financial stress, infidelity, illness, or something else. Regardless of what caused the intense season with your partner, now that it's over you expect everything to be back to a happy normal. But they aren't - things just aren't the same as they were. And you're left wondering why. I...

Do you desire the next level of deep connection and growth with your partner? I have 3 words for you: surrender, collaboration & play. In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Marla Mattenson and Julian Colker aka "The Intimacy Experts", join me to share some beautiful advice & wisdom about these three intimate relationship essentials, and so much more! These love, life & business part...

Intimacy is a familiar concept, but the word is actually not that well understood. Even though we're not always clear on what intimacy means in our relationships, we can definitely sense when it's present - and when it's not, right? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm diving into the 3 types of intimacy, so you can identify where to put your attention in order to cultivate dee...

Are you making sure everyone else's needs and wants are met, but forgetting your own? Feeling disconnected or even hollow inside? Maybe you're struggling to just identify what exactly you want. If you feel a big yes or a small yes to these questions, I assure you that you are not alone. I also assure you that I can help you reconnect with yourself and your vibrancy. Join me today for a story about...

If you've been around here for any length of time, you've probably heard this from me before - Relationships are the ultimate vehicle for personal growth (it's so true)! In today's episode, I invite a couple on the show who exemplifies this concept in a big way. Derick and Dr. Liz Aquirre have been married for 12 years and have built an intentional, pleasure-filled & collaborative marriage that ha...

If you want to experience more connection and intimacy in your marriage, you have to know what you want. But, in a society that is so focused on doing, productivity, and achieving goals - it can be hard to connect to your deeper desires, or even find the time to start discovering & exploring your needs. So what can you do to make more room to connect with yourself, know your desires & feel more cl...

Why do so many marriages fail? I know it can seem like a super complicated question. But whether it's poor communication, a dissatisfying sex life, not enough money, or a struggle to work together in parenting - marriages fail because of one BIGGER reason. In today's episode, I'm digging into that reason, the magic formula for building a lasting and intimate marriage, and how you can use it to str...

Marriage can be rich and juicy after the first decade. And after the second, the third, the fourth…And the FIFTH! Don't believe me? Get ready to meet Jim & Ruth Sharon, co-creators of a connected & delicious 50+ year marriage. They generously share the beginnings of their love story (which was prompted by an out-of-character moment from Jim!) and the tools and practices they use to sustain their o...

This season I've gone into depth about the 6 Keys To An Intimate Marriage that I use in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. If you're just joining us, I highly recommend you go back to Episode 5 and learn more about the keys. Today, I'm going to talk about 4 couples that have taken my course and used the skills they learned and as a result, their marriages are hotter than ever. They were facing pro...

Today I have a special gift for you. My husband Rodd is here to talk about how we keep our relationship intimate and thriving. We're very busy people and we don't have a ton of extra time for date nights and romantic getaways, but we do know how to prioritize one another and feed our relationship. We know how to let the erotic energy flow and enjoy our emotional connection. We used to spend too mu...

When children are young, it's fascinating to watch their growth and milestones. It's easy to be excited about watching them learn how to roll over, crawl, talk, walk, and tie their shoes. As we all get older, there's a sameness about us that isn't so exciting. The sixth and final Key to an Intimate Marriage is to "Seek Growth". In your marriage, that means: If you're doing the same things over and...

The fifth Key to an Intimate Marriage is "Take Responsibility". That may be a loaded phrase for some, but hear me out. Very often among educated, successful couples, we have this idea that everything should be split 50/50, fair and equal. You may be familiar with the phrases, "it takes two to tango," and "we are both in this together." While those are true in their context, meeting each other half...

During my studies in college, I took many philosophy courses and one constant all the way from Ancient Greece to the present was that all human beings seek happiness. Based on what I had seen in my life so far, I didn't really believe that was true. Now, after my decades of work with clients and couples, I agree with the wisdom of that assertion. The problem is that most people don't really know h...

​​The most common relationship advice all over the world is to compromise. If you want a bland, conflict-free companionship, then yes. If you want the spice and spark of an intimate marriage, you need to make your desires known. DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ As women, we are conditioned to disconnect from our desires. When I came to understand the imp...

The second key to an intimate marriage is Embrace Honesty. In this episode I won't be addressing the major dishonesties such as infidelity, hidden bank accounts, et cetera. I'm talking about the small resentments that build up over time, knowing that your relationship is pretty good but things could be a lot better. Whenever you answer "how are you?" with "I'm fine," and you're not, it builds a wa...

The first key to an intimate marriage is: Cultivate Curiosity. Early in a relationship, it's easy to be curious about everything from scars, favorite foods, wild stories, spirituality and beyond. Then, as a relationship matures, the curiosity fades and you become more comfortable. You already know how they'll order their coffee or how they'll answer a question before you even ask. It's beautiful t...