The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

If you're just joining the podcast now, I recommend going back to the beginning of Season 2 to gain some context for what I'm about to cover in this episode. We have an epidemic of conflict-free, passion-free relationships going on right now. My prescription for an intimate marriage evolved out of my medical training, years of experience coaching other couples, my own anecdotal research, and what...

Compromise is by far the most common relationship advice that's given. In order to have a happy marriage you have to be good at compromising, right? Wrong! What really happens when you compromise is that you're holding parts of yourself back from your relationship, and that doesn't bode well. When you stop compromising and bring your entire self into your relationship, when you learn to accept all...

Do you want to spend more time with your partner, believing it will contribute to you both feeling desire, and feeling desire for one another? Are you feeling numb, disconnected, and lacking the intimacy your marriage once had? Newsflash: going on a fancy vacation, getting new lingerie, getting your hair done, and/or losing a few pounds will NOT fix the problem. Those are short-term, external, tem...

If you're having trouble in your relationship, it's probably because you believe one of the prominent lies that are commonly accepted as de facto truth. If you're not feeling the sexual chemistry you used to feel, very often people will believe they married the wrong person. More likely, you both just haven't learned how to be with each other through each phase of your relationship. This is a lear...

It's fitting that I'm launching Season 2 on the day of my 26th wedding anniversary. Part of my celebration is to share with you what an intimate marriage really is. My mission is to change the cultural narrative that long-term relationships are where passions go to dwindle off and die. On the contrary, I want the collective world at large to see that in a long lasting relationship, there is the mo...

I hope you had a really wonderful Valentine's Day that was special, delicious, and sensual. I hope you were able to use what you learned in Episode 61 to connect with your partner. If it did not go as planned, this episode is for you! A client of mine has a wonderful relationship most of the time, but in February they fight and get on each other's nerves a lot. They've come to dread February becau...

Welcome to Part 2 of our Valentine Bonus Series! In the last episode we talked about setting yourself up for a great day. Now Valentine's Day is here, and I want to talk about how to really enjoy the day, no matter what happens. Plan time to prep yourself. Not just getting dressed, but really relaxing with a hot bath, some meditation or yoga, or even a strip tease for yourself before the date. Loo...

Valentine's Day is often painted as a rosy, beautiful, romantic, fairytale time. Sometimes that's true, but often it's much more complicated. Today, I'll share some ways to set yourself up for a Happy Valentine's Day. This is not theoretical- it really will help! Spend some time thinking about what Valentine's Day really means to you. Journal about it if you want. Notice if you are bracing yoursel...

Today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast marks the end of Season 1. As I look back at the richness of the season, it's clear that there is no specific formula for a happy marriage. Each couple that I interviewed shared different things that contribute to their happiness. It's a creative process unique to the individuals involved in terms of how they pursue and cultivate more joy, more plea...

In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I am joined by Jonathan and Sascha Schlossberg who got married, started a business, and had their first child all at the same time. How do they do it? How do they cultivate a healthy balance between work and family? Is it possible for a relationship to be both disciplined and chaotic? Listen in as this dynamic duo shares insight into what it is...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Ryan and Dr. Carly Crewe about raising twin girls, traveling the world, and managing their full-time family businesses. Carly is a family doctor & MD psychotherapist, author, podcast host and CEO of a virtual mental health clinic for women. Her husband, Ryan, is a stay at home dad and helps support their family businesses. They have be...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Gail Bruce, a wise, spunky, honest, articulate, vivacious 80 year old woman. She speaks as a friend, a student of life, and a crone as Gail discusses her 50-year marriage to the love of her life and talks about the ways each new decade brought more growth and more depth to their relationship. After a surfing accident left her late husb...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Travia Steward about the many steps she took on her quest to be ready for, and find, her partner. Travia and her wife have been together for 15 years, married for 7 years. We talk about Travia's journey to accepting her sexuality and how she experiences reinvention through her marriage. Travia is a transformation and reinvention coach...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Alisa DiLorenzo about marriage, intimacy, and the effect of pornography on a marriage. Alisa and her husband, Tony, co-host the #1 rated ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast. They have been married for 25 years and have recently released their latest book, The Six Pillars of Intimacy. Today, we discuss the six forms of intimacy: emo...

Oftentimes, when we ask our spouses for something, it can lead to disappointment, frustration and feeling that your spouse doesn't care about your wants and needs. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm sharing four steps to use to improve communication when asking your partner for what you want, using the example of couples coaching. This is not a method to manipulate your partner....

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Nick and Dr. Elaine Stageberg about how they re-energized their marriage and the ways it has drastically improved their family and business. They own a very successful real estate investment company although they believe that they invest not in just property, but in relationships. Nick and Elaine have learned to invest in each oth...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm talking about how high achieving women can access more joy during the holidays – without all of the stress! Instead of dreading all the tasks associated with this time of year, I want to show you how to have fun and discover new delights in the season, because it is possible! In my new program, "Uncompromising Intimacy--How High Achieving Women...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with the incredible Nneka Chineme Unachukwa, MD, commonly known as Dr. Una. She is a pediatrician, podcast host, entrepreneur coach to physicians all over the world, and CEO and Founder of Ivy League Pediatrics in Lawrenceville, Georgia. On top of all that, she is also a wife of 15 years and mom to four children. In this insightful and...

As parents, we sometimes forget just how much our relationships, especially our relationship with our partner, impacts our children. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I interview my nine-year-old son, Matthew. We have a very frank, unscripted conversation where I ask him questions about our family, his friends, and life in general. He shares some insightful thoughts about how the s...

How do you feel about scheduled intimacy? Many couples feel it's only necessary for those who lack passion or have marital issues. However, I'm here to tell you that's just not true. We make time for other things we value, like exercise and eating regularly. Why shouldn't we also carve out designated time for intimacy? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm talking about the misconc...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Dr. Brent Lacey about marriage, money, and more! Professionally, Brent is a gastroenterologist who is passionate about helping physicians succeed with business and personal finances. In his personal life, he and his wife have cultivated a magnificent marriage based on honesty, clarity, and humility. In his words, "Marriage is the...

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm exploring Jada Pinkett and Will Smith's marriage and how they have created a dynamic and fulfilling relationship. In looking at their relationship and other couples I have coached, we begin to see how important it is to establish what the foundation is for your marriage and clarify what keeps you and your partner together. Identifying the answe...

Today's episode is the exciting start of all of the juicy newness of The Intimate Marriage Podcast . I've invited my husband, Rodd Stockwell, MD, back to the podcast to discuss how we've kept our marriage feeling new and fresh over the last 25 years. We dive into the nature of how desires naturally change over time, overcoming the fear of expressing those desires, and cultivating uncompromising in...

It's time for some exciting new changes! In this episode, I'm sharing all of the updates and plans for the podcast. From the name and cover art, to the format of the episodes, I want to make sure that you're up to date with where we're heading next. I'm thrilled to share these changes with you, and I look forward to the next expression and pleasure in this phase of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. E...

In anticipation of Josephine's 25th birthday, Alexandra interviews her daughter on the experience of being a child in a family where the parents have an evolving, hot, intimate marriage. They talk about the clarity and internal confidence it has provided Josephine as she herself navigates life and relationships. While there is a lot of juicy content and amazing insights in the episode, it's hearin...