The Imperfect Parents

In this episode, I (Yvette) gets real—like messy bun, overstimulated, “did I just yell at the dog?” kind of real—about what it’s like being loved while unlearning narcissistic tendencies. I share how my husband Christian shows up daily with patience, hugs, and humor as I works through old habits like defensiveness, control, and over-explaining everything. From sacred black table conversations to e...

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the real work of reparenting and rewiring, what it looks like to unlearn what hurt us and relearn what heals us. We talk about how the way we were raised shaped our beliefs, our reactions, and our parenting, and how we can  consciously  choose to do it differently. From the everyday moments where our triggers show up, to the internal rewiring it takes to bre...

Ever find yourself spiraling because your partner got quiet or seemed distant and your first thought was,  “What did I do wrong?”  In this episode, we unpack how trauma makes you take things personally, misread the moment, and shut down emotionally.  We talk through real-life examples from our marriage and how we’re learning to pause the spiral, regulate our reactions, and reconnect.  It’s not alw...

In this powerful episode we sit down for a raw, necessary conversation about phone safety, and why it’s so much deeper than just screen time. We talk about the first time we handed our child a phone… the fears that came with it… and the uncomfortable but essential conversations we had around social media, predators, inappropriate content, peer pressure, and privacy. If you’ve ever wondered "How mu...

This morning, I faced a choice: Stay in bed and stay comfortable.... Or get up and keep building the dream I keep saying I want. In this episode, I walk you through the mental tug of war I had with myself and how choosing discipline over comfort, just this once, set the tone for my entire day. We talk about what it means to truly show up for yourself, your family, and the vision you're creating, e...

In this episode I (Yvette) share how the characters in Thunderbolts especially Bob and Yelena reflect real struggles with mental health, anger, and trauma. Through raw storytelling and vulnerability, I open up about my own battles with depression and the importance of finding the right support. This episode is a powerful reminder that healing isn't meant to be done alone and you are never too brok...

In this powerful episode, I (Christian) open up about the importance of having real, honest conversations with our kids about drugs— before they’re faced with peer pressure or risky situations. From fentanyl awareness to boundary-setting, this episode covers how proactive, age-appropriate talks can literally be life-saving. If you’ve ever wondered when or how to start these conversations, this one...

In this Heartfelt episode, I (Yvette) share my personal story about showing up for our daughter's school concert. How saying yes to the small moments, like dancing the chicken dance, creates lasting memories. A powerful reminder to parents that presence, not perfection, is what matters most. The little things really are the BIG things.

This Mother’s Day started in scrubs and ended in tears—but not the kind you’d expect. In this episode, I share how a mid-shift coffee delivery, a surprise video from Christian’s family, and a driveway full of love cracked my heart wide open. A raw and healing reminder that sometimes, the love we’ve always needed is already there, we just have to let it in.

Ever found yourself thrown into an uncomfortable situation at work, in life, in a new role and thought, 'What the hell am I doing here?' In this raw and real episode, we're talking about how to keep your cool when everything inside you wants to scream, cry or walk away. You'll hear how discomfort doesn't mean you're failing, its proof you're growing. Tune in for an honest reminder that you're stro...

In this heartfelt and uplifting mini-episode of Messy Bun, Big Heart , we’re speaking straight to the mamas waking up with mom guilt weighing heavy on their hearts. If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t hug enough, play enough, or love enough the day before—this is your reminder that today is a brand new day! Join me as we trade guilt for grace, perfection for presence, and remind ourselves that our...

In this heartfelt solo episode of the Imperfect Parents podcast, Christian dives into the profound role fathers play in their daughters' lives. He emphasizes the importance of being emotionally available, celebrating victories, and teaching resilience. Christian reflects on his experiences raising two daughters and shares personal insights on fostering strong relationships. He highlights the signi...

In this episode Yvette opens up about her personal journey from living with narcissistic behaviors to actively working on self-healing and improving their marriage. With honesty and vulnerability, they dive into the patterns learned from past environments, stressing the importance of awareness and accountability. By acknowledging these traits and committing to change, they emphasize the transforma...

In this podcast episode, Yvette discusses the often-overlooked positive aspects of working on mental health. Yvette shares her personal experience, highlighting the combination of struggles and triumphs in her healing journey. She emphasizes that while therapy and self-reflection can be challenging, they come with moments of joy, growth, and newfound self-awareness. The conversation delves into th...

This episode dives deep into the art of balancing family dynamics and personal growth. Yvette and her friend Shannon candidly discuss the challenges of parenting, addressing the misconceptions of needing to be 'perfect' parents. They focus on the transformation that comes with being present and open to every phase of life. Through exercises such as drawing affirmation cards, they explore themes of...

Through a light-hearted Q&A session, we reveal our aspirations, such as Christian's goal to stay calm and Yvette's commitment to loyalty in friendships. We also discuss practical matters, like building generational wealth and the importance of family time. The episode is filled with relatable moments and spontaneous adventures, all aimed at showing that while perfection isn't attainable, being...

Join Christian and Yvette, as they delve into 12 years of parenthood with their daughter, Phena. In this heartfelt episode, they reminisce about unforgettable firsts, like Phena's first steps and her cherished trip to Disney. With an emphasis on being present over perfect, the couple shares stories of personal growth, from playful childhood quirks to brave bike rides. They reflect on the challenge...

This podcast episode emphasizes the crucial role of self-forgiveness in personal growth, healing, and the overall family dynamic. I recount how this step to self-forgiveness has positively transformed my live, shifted my mindset, and improved my relationships with family members.

In this solo episode, I discuss my personal journey of recognizing and addressing my narcissistic behaviors. Through reflective conversations with friends and my own self-awareness, I explore the importance of taking accountability for one's actions rather than blaming others. By facing my behaviors head-on, I am aiming to heal and improve my life and my relationships.

Living a simple life can bring immense joy and contentment in a world filled with chaos and complexity. By embracing simplicity, one can find peace and balance in the midst of the busy demands of parenthood. This podcast episode explores the concept of simplicity and how it can positively impact marriage, family, and personal growth. Christian and Yvette share their own experiences of living a sim...

In this podcast episode, Christian and Yvette share their journey of raffling off a 2007 Ford Explorer Eddie Bauer edition on Mother's Day. Initially uncertain about what to do with the vehicle, they decided to sell it via Facebook marketplace. But then the idea of a raffle came up, and they took a chance. To their surprise, the response was overwhelming, and they chose a random winner on a live F...

This episode takes a refreshing turn as we engage in a random Q&A session, asking each other fun and deep questions from an unknown list. From discussing our worst teachers to sharing our favorite sex scenes from movies, our closeness and lighthearted banter shine through. With honesty and humor, we reveal our insecurities and dreams for the future, reminding listeners that no relationship or...

This podcast episode focuses on the importance of installing confidence in children. The hosts, Christian and Yvette, discuss their experiences as parents. They emphasize the significance of positive communication, reassurance, and hyping up their kids. Christian shares the impact of his father's unconditional love on his own self-confidence and strives to provide the same for his children. Yvette...

In this podcast episode, we introduce our new family show 'The Imperfect Parents.' We share our journey of balancing marriage, family, and personal growth, discussing the ups and downs of parenthood. Reflecting on our experience as parents for over a decade, we emphasize the importance of being present parents and finding a balance in our lives. We highlights the challenges of raising kids. We exp...

Lets dive back into this fun 2 part conversation with my friend and coach Josie Smith. As we continue to reflect on our Denver trip.