The Imperfect Blend

Season two opens with something new: hearing directly from the kids. Abi and Alex welcome Helena — Alex’s eldest daughter — to talk about life inside a blended family, just as she heads off to university. From finding out her mum was pregnant again, to navigating two homes, to calling her stepdad “Matty,” Helena reflects on what it means to grow up through change, loyalty, and love. This episode i...

Back to school, back to chaos. In this episode, we're returning to routine - sort of. We chat about starting school again, the admin overload that comes with big families, and how even the smallest traditions (like a sugar cone full of sweets) help everyone feel grounded again. Abi shares a tough decision about rehoming their rescue dog, how that affected the kids, and what it's like suppo...

Well overdue, but we are back and finishing off our first season a little delayed (more on the podcast, so make sure you listen in). In this episode of the Imperfect Blend podcast we discuss our experiences on navigating the complexities of blended family life, particularly during the summer holidays. We share personal stories about the challenges and joys of parenting, managing family dynamics, a...

In this episode we explore the emotional weight of the questions kids ask when navigating complex family dynamics - and how those moments can unravel even the most"put-together" parent. Whether it's about loss, absence, resentment, race or just trying to understand who's who in the family-these conversations are tough, raw, and often unpredictable.

In this episode of the Imperfect Blend podcast, our focus is on our marriages in the Mayhem. We discuss the importance of communication, trust, and creating couple time amidst the chaos of parenting. The conversation highlights the challenges and joys of managing family dynamics, while also emphasising the need for appreciation and connection in relationships. As we look ahead, we would like to in...

In this deeply personal episode, Abi opens up about her journey to becoming a mum through adoption. From healing after toxic relationships to deciding—almost instinctively—to adopt as a single woman, she shares how her two boys came into her life, how different their stories were, and the lessons she’s learned along the way. Abi talks honestly about attachment issues, losing her job days after bec...

This week’s episode was an emotional one. We’re talking about what it feels like when the kids go to their other home—and the house goes quiet. From the early days of solo weekends to navigating handovers, guilt, grief, and all the awkward in-betweens, Alex opens up about the hardest part of shared custody: learning how to be on your own again. We talk about identity loss, those weirdly painful li...

This week, we’re talking about what happens after the blending begins—when it’s not just kids and partners, but aunties, uncles, in-laws, grandparents, and all the rest. Because let’s be honest: extended family can bring so much love… and sometimes, a fair bit of tension too. We dive into the funny, complicated, emotional business of being introduced to your partner’s family, building trust with p...

In this heart-open episode, Abi and Alex get real about the reality of becoming a stepmum. From feeling like an outsider in your own home to being unsure how (or when) to discipline children who aren’t your own, they unpack the emotional complexities of forging a bond without overstepping boundaries. Along the way, they share survival tips—like how ‘kill the ants’ (automatic negative thoughts) has...

In this episode of The Imperfect Blend, we delve into the complexities of co-parenting and parallel parenting. We explore the differences between the two styles, the challenges of maintaining communication and consistency across households, and the importance of setting boundaries. The conversation also touches on practical issues such as screen time, clothing choices, and the values that guide ou...

In this conversation we discuss the complexities of navigating family dynamics in blended families. We share our experiences of integrating siblings, establishing routines, and communicating changes to the children. The conversation also touches on the challenges of introducing new family members and the emotional responses of children during these transitions. Ultimately, we reflect on our journe...

In this episode Abi and Alex share a little more about their lives before blending families and how they met their new partners. Starting from painful divorces to the healing process, and on that journey covering losing friends, gaining new ones and the children's first impressions when meeting the new partner.

Welcome ! This is The Imperfect Blend - the podcast where two mums, 11 kids and a whole lot of love come together in the most wonderfully chaotic way. We are Abi and Alex, two friends navigating the highs and lows of blended family life - through second marriages, stepchildren, adoption, and big kids from first loves..and just to top it off, we both had our little babies at the same time! From the...