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Most of us identify as either male or female. They're labels which mean different things to different people, but our gender undoubtedly affects us all in very big, very real ways. So what if you don't fit with what it means to be male or female. Psychologist Nina Melksham joins us to chat about what living as gender non-binary or gender fluid means, and we're joined by Jonno Revanche and Ti Butle...

Studies continually show that young people are not using condoms regularly enough. Other studies are showing quite a few condom failures because of the user. Why don't people use them, and how can you help stop them breaking or coming off? Dr Mary Stewart from Family Planning NSW joins us to discuss and answer some of your questions.

Do you say yes to sex on the first date or do you stick to tradition and leave it for later on. And what does biology have to do with it?? Psychologist Dr Melanie Schilling will discuss with us what it means, and writer Alyx Gorman talks about some other traditional dating rules.

What do you do if you really can't stand your mate's new partner. Do you say something or let it go and hope they also see their flaws? On the podcast to discuss is clinical psychologist Dr Alicia Franklin and James Colley to share his story. Plus, we hear from a listener who has quite the conundrum!

December 1 is World AIDS Day. The day raises awareness across the world about the issues surrounding HIV and AIDS. It's a day for people to show their support for people living with HIV and to commemorate people who have died. We speak to Campbell Clarkson who's 25 and living with HIV, as well as James Gray from ACON to talk through advances in treatment and laws around living with HIV.

We heard from a listener who didn't know how to disclose their sexual assault to their parents. This came after the she was triggered by reports on the news about the election of Donald Trump after the allegations of sexual assault. We're joined by psychologist Ursula Benstead and Detective Senior Sergeant Anthony Mercer to talk through how to disclose and report sexual assault. This podcast conta...

Why are men getting their foreskins removed as adults? Have you considered it? Have you had to get it done? In this podcast, we'll hear from someone who's had it done recently, a guy who wants his back, plus some advice on what to do if your foreskin is too tight. Dr Brad McKay provides all the specialist knowledge when it comes to getting the snip!

Do you believe in sex magic? We're opening our minds for a bit and look at the spiritual practice of tantric sex. What is it, how does it work, and why would someone use a crystal dildo. Joining us is tantric expert Pam Ella.

In a recent triple j surveyed of more than 10,000 people aged between 18-29, 11 per cent said they identify as bisexual. That figure is much higher than the broader Australian population, which according to the Australian Study of Health and Relationships, is 1.1 per cent of men and 2.2 per cent of women. We were joined by Dr Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli who's a writer, researcher, lecturer and consul...

Is it ok to not go down on your partner after they've gone down on you? Some people hate going down on their partners, and others just don't feel comfortable receiving it. Sex Therapist Tanya Koens gives us the heads up on head etiquette. We also hear from a couple of callers who are having issues in that department.

How do you feel about being single? The idea of being alone might send you into a sweat, or you could be out there having the time of your life! Psychologist Danielle Maloney talks us through how to navigate singledom and Tom Ballard shares his experiences. We also hear from a listener who is so caught up in his work, he doesn't have time for a relationship - but still really wants one! We'll find...

Telling someone you've slept with you have an STI (and they might too!) can be a total nightmare. Even though it shouldn't be, it's embarrassing when maybe you don't know someone that well. Dr Chris Bourne from the NSW STI unit joins us with advice on the best way to tell someone you've got an STI.

Are you friends with your ex? Maybe you can't stand the sight of them. Psychologist Anne Hunter joins to coach us through it.

Living in a share house can be fun, but are you or your housemates having TOO much fun? And - should you sleep with your housemates? Find out what some of our listeners encountered in their share houses.

At some point in your life you will probably experience grief at the loss of someone you love, and you'll likely be a wreck. But what if you meet someone? How soon should you start dating again? And what are the dangers of falling in love when you're at your most emotionally vulnerable? Recently we received a letter from Patrick in rural NSW who needed some help, so we brought in clinical psycholo...

Been curious about how to go about organising a threesome? Wanted to have one with your partner but not sure how to bring it up or who to pick? Sex worker and porn performer Lucie Bee gives us all the ins and outs of the threeway.

On this podcast we're talking to a 25 year old guy who's much older partner's friends assumed he was an escort, and a self-proclaimed MILF on why she prefers younger men. Also, relationships expert and psychologist Elisabeth Shaw joins us to discuss why people make a fuss, how it can work, and what can go wrong.

A new Danish study of over a million women suggests depression is a potential adverse effect of hormonal contraceptive use, especially if you're under 25. On the podcast we speak to Dr Elizabeth Farrell from women's health centre Jean Hailes about the study, and Dr Karen Osborne from Clinic 66 in Sydney to answer some of your questions.

There's a possibility you've met a few assholes in your time, but have you ever looked at one up close? Do they all look the same and what and why is anal bleaching a thing? On this podcast, we'll hear from an endoscopy nurse to find out exactly what assholes are like up close, Alena the skin whitener tells us about 'anal bleaching' and Dr Brad McKay helps us understand this sacred and taboo area...

What's the line between knowing what you want, having high standards, and being a bit of a judgemental piece of work? Psychosexual Therapist Jacqueline Hellyer will decipher this for us and comedian Eddie Sharp share some of his.

When's the best time to move in with your partner? Do lesbians really move in with their partners too early? We chat to comedians David Quirk and Charlotte Meldrum-Hannah for their experiences on taking the urge to merge.

Nearly all women have or will receive some form of sexual harassment on the street. But is there such thing as a complimentary cat-call, or should it always be avoided?

Everyone wants to feel like they belong and finding your peeps is hard enough. Imagine being gay in a small town, the only gay in the village, if you will.

Most porn has a predominantly male perspective, the makers are usually men, and a lot is made FOR men. But did you know there's an ethical alternative? Feminist porn!

It's expensive, it takes heaps of time and it hurts. Why do we put so much effort into maintaining body hair? And what can happen when you decide not to anymore?