The High Cost of Anonymity Podcast: Exploring the Cost of Keeping Your Life Experience to Yourself

If you’re getting objections, you are probably failing to pull the venom out up front. In other words, you need to answer questions and go over topics that you know might come up later in the pitch, in the form of an objection.

I was listening to an interview with Garyvee and Tom Bilyeu (link below) and they were talking about the false impression thinking about doing something gives you vs actually doing it. I have to say, I suffer from that... A thinking problem. I've talked about it before, and it's still true. Thinking, worrying and sometimes obsessing about what may or may not happen in my life makes me feel busy. Y...

After the episode about Dave Chapelle and a quote of his about success, a friend of mine reached out and asked, “I’m curious, what does success look like for you?” Over the years, my answer has become more complicated. Maybe complicated isn’t the right word. Maybe it’s just, different. There was a time when my view of success was tied to a dollar figure. And a time when it was simply being happy....

I was watching an interview with Oprah and Dave Chappelle and David dropped some 🔥🔥. He said, ”success will take you to a place where your character can't sustain you”. Oprah follows with how important it is to ”really know who you are” before you hit the bigtime bc of how many directions you're pulled once you pop. It's profound because I've been trying, unsuccessfully, to articulate how I feel...

The thing I am coming around to more and more in our counseling sessions are, what are the areas in which I've drawn a hard line in the sand that need to be softened... Especially with regards to my family. In this episode, I talk about few of those areas. And as I'm writing this, I can't remember what they are... but I know they're good, lol! Also, If I can leave you with one thing, it would be,...

One of my favorite podcast moments thus far has been a two hour conversation with my friend Aaron Laine, on his podcast, Tragedy to Triumph. On his podcast, he has people on the tell their story of going from a down and out tragedy involving drug and alcohol addiction to the triumph of getting into recovery. Going from hopeless to hopeful. Not only are the stories truly inspirational but they give...

I recently had a conversation with a friend and realized, as much as I intellectually know the phrase, life is a journey. I really don’t want it to apply to me! In other words, I want there to come a time where I figure it all out, I reach the mountain top of self-actualization and I don’t have to do anymore ”self-reflective work”!! Is that too much to ask!? I also know I would be robbing myself o...

It’s been a long time since I’ve had a hangover but I had one yesterday. Unfortunately, it wasn’t from a good night of partying, it was from a damn counseling session... with my wife! As much as I love counseling, personal development, coaching, and therapy, wading through uncomfortable issues are never fun. Especially when it's your issues! The conversation wasn’t new. Even the topics we were cov...

Finally, peace and quiet! I’m home alone, in my robe with my favorite beverage... coffee. I read a great article on the medium app called “what really happens when you become an overnight millionaire” by Stephanie Clifford (Sorry Stephanie, I misquoted you on this episode. I gave credit to your photographer for writing your article. My bad). This is a story about the founder of RX bars, Peter Raha...

I know the things that help me feel most grounded, grateful at ease is meditation, prayer and journaling. Yet, many days I do everything in my power not to do it. The challenge is, it’s my subconscious doing all the work! Intellectually, I know what I need to do to rid myself of fear and insecurity but my subconscious is to powerful! Oh the dilemma.

Here’s a quick one about what it means if fear is present in your life. If you’re anything like me, fear is around me all the freakin time. And if I consider Gabby Bernstein’s perspective on a quote from A Course in Miracles, I’d say she’s 100% accurate. What do you think??

On this episode, I talk about the difference between using my intellect and thinking to propel my way through life versus using intuition, to respond to life instead of reacting to challenges. Many times I have the ability to make good decisions by doing the next right thing or simply thinking my way through what I view as the “right” way. One of the problems that I face is, I will often become re...

What a great experience getting interviewed by someone I didn’t know. It’s was interesting the things that came out I hadn’t talked about before and the additional perspective I got from speaking to someone new. Check the interview out on iTunes https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/shine-a-light/id1451501265?i=1000450171176 or for google https://bit.ly/2mFXggl ..... Preston has been sober for 18...

On this episode I talk about why I find it difficult to identify my feelings and wondering if I have things that have happened in my past that I’ve suppressed.

Ever wonder why you always seem to think you’ve done something wrong, like “they’re going to find out” or you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop? It could be a fear of authority. Whether it’s a boss, the cops, my wife or my parents, I seem to have a knot in my gut that’s attached to “doing something wrong “. I equally rebel against anyone I think may be “trying to tell me what to do”. Talk abou...

18 years ago today was the last time I used drugs or alcohol in any form... Not having some form of substance in my life, especially alcohol, wasn't even in the realm of possibility of considering. In other words, I couldn't even consider considering it. I thought my life was over and yet, it was just starting. Today, I'm on another path of discovery. I'm experiencing new levels of vulnerability a...

I have had so many a-ha moments in the last couple of weeks. With that has come some high highs and some low lows. I didn’t realize it and probably wouldn’t admit it to you but when I experience a wide range of emotions, my instinct is to retreat to my safe place. The safe place for me is, do whatever I need to do to remain calm and relaxed so I don’t experience emotions that are too intense. By c...

Ever start making changes in you life then, after a while, you're worse off than you were before you started? That's where I am at this exact moment! I've been working on being more kind and compassionate at home with my wife and son and I'll be damned if it doesn't seem to be getting worse. I felt great for about 2 weeks but lately, I feel more on edge, more restless and less compassionate than e...

On this episode we cover Spirituality, Religion and the Supernatural. I often wonder how I can be more inclusive when it comes to spirituality. There are so many lines drawn in the sand today where one is forced to choose... to be in or out. The problem I find is, I don’t agree with any one way or one side 100% of the time. This not only happens for me regarding religion and spirituality but also...

On this episode I share some of the step work that I’m working on. Some of the areas I’ve been struggling with. And, how I have been addicted to fear, authority, perfectionism and low self-worth. I cover a vicious cycle that I have set up in my relationships at home and at work. And how shocked I am that I didn’t know any of this! If you have any questions or would like me to cover something speci...

This was the second time I spoke at Heartland Recovery High School. It’s always a pleasure to speak to the youth and ‘attempt’ to make a difference. I made a good connection with one of the seniors there. It was an intimate conversation about masculinity and the propensity to put myself in situations I say I don’t want to be in. There are a few things I covered that are different than the last tim...

I told myself I was going to share everything, my thoughts, speaking opportunities and things I find interesting. Well, here’s the story about how I ended up in Columbus Ohio... my first Toastmasters speech.

On this episode I cover childhood confusion, shame, guilt, abandonment, generational dysfunction, mental health, strict military families, strict religious families, children raised in foster care and more. I’ve been devouring the Big Red Book of ACA. I’m shocked at how many similarities there are to my childhood. The moment I became a parent, I realized, NO ONE KNOWS WHAT THEY’RE DOING! We are al...

Most mornings I wake up full of fear. It doesn’t always feel like fear but it’s there... more like an uneasiness in my gut, like a low hum. I’m always worried that “they’re” going to find out. You know, find out that I don’t know what I’m doing!!! I also consistently feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. One of the reasons I tell you this is, many times I think everyone else has “it” t...

Shout out to Megan Landry with the Shine a Light Podcast. Just had a great conversation with her and love what she's doing. Megan is opening conversations about topics that many of people are scared to talk about like, foster care, fear, anxiety, infertility, etc. join the conversation and support Megan wherever you get your podcasts! Secondly, hear what happened when I got up to give a speech and...