The High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast

In this episode Brook and Michelle  take another deeper dive into the subject of preparing for and dealing with the stresses of the holidays. When dealing with high conflict co-parentis it is important to have an open mindset of solving the problems out front and deep understanding of how you are stuck trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Challenging your beliefs about what is important vs...

In this episode Brook has special guest Nicola Ranson L.C.S.W. Brook and Nicola discuss the concepts of Transference and Projection as pertain to working with a coach or therapist. These are always taking place in all relationships and unconsciously affect the interaction. When working with a coach or therapist it is important the coach or therapist is trained to consciously identify it and not ge...

In this Episode Brook has as his special guest Attorney Kelli Avallone in to discuss the frustrations that clients have when dealing with their attorneys as well as those frustrations of the attorney with their clients, in high conflict custody cases. The discussion explores the topics that can cause the frustration and how using a qualified coach can go a long way in keeping both the client and t...

In this episode Brook and Tony delve into the notion of how anxiety  is one of if not the main driver of conflict and at the base understanding this and learning how to navigate the terrain of ones own anxiety is the avenue toward a  high threshold of tolerance can make the difference in disengaging. The basis in the defensive response even in those with narcissism and other personality disorders...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the narcissistic practice of email Carpet Bombing. This is the practice of incessantly sending repeated emails in order to hook you into an argument, to tell you are doing it wrong, to harass and demean you and to cause as much chaos as possible to get you to engage. This is an important concept to understand and to get the tools needed to navigate the ba...

In this episode Brook has special guest Lisa Johnson from  Been There Got Out to discuss how High Conflict Personalities can drive legal abuse in the family court system and how to organize yourself to be able to go it with out an attorney. Lisa brings some good information to a scary subject.  You can contact Lisa through their website beentheregotout.com or follow them on instagram, Youtube and...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the struggles that come with dealing with a ex that isn't on the same page and exhibits narcissist like behaviors and how to navigate keeping the kids out of the middle of ongoing conflict. Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendations for...

In this episode Brook Olsen and Kelli Avallone Join the Talking Parents team on their Co-Parenting and Coffee webinar to discuss Parallel Parenting and the use of Co-Parenting Apps. During High Conflict Co-Parenting and dealing with Narcissism and other personality disorders the use of Co-Parenting Apps like Talking Parents can be a useful tool in getting the conflict under control and tracking th...

In this episode of the High Conflict Co-Parenting Podcast Brook and Tony discuss the difference between Capacity and Competency and that building of the container ( Capacity) has to happen first and then from there Competency can build.  Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free masterclasses •personalized recommendation...

In this episode Brook speaks with Attorney Kelli Avallone about the in's and out's, Features and Down sides of teaching for "Hidden Assets". Finding Assets can be difficult and deciding to do so should be a "Return On Investment" inquiry. Enjoy!!!! You can reach Kelli at kelli@atty-avallone.com Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast...

In this episode Brook speaks with guest Forest Bronzon from Digital Detox. Forest is the CEO of Digital Detox whose goal and purpose is to educate parents, schools and children in the differing ways to use the digital environment in a healthy and connected manner. During divorce and high conflict custody battles it is often hard to navigate boundaries regarding electronics  and rules are often dif...

In this episode Brook has special guest David Forrestall CEO of SecurIT360 to talk about how to best secure you and you children from the ability of your Ex or for that matter anyone else from being able to track/cyberstalk. Mr. Forrestall give practical and useable information on securing you devices, social media, cloud based storage and applications. Also in the notes below he has provided link...

In this episode Brook has special guest Divorce Financial Planner Justin Reckers to discuss the importance of understanding your financial future and having a professional helping you map it out. Enjoy!!! You can contact Justin Reckers at https://wellspringdivorce.com/san-diego/ Join "The Disengagement Zone" Membership! Gain access to:  •daily value-packed emails •exclusive podcast episodes •free...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the variety of ways we get stuck in power differential when trying to navigate financial and custody fights, both old and new. The stickiness of the battle or the lack of information, outside forces often keeps us from finding off ramps to the fight that keep the children stuck and you from moving on. There or costs and benefits to each approach and the o...

In this episode Brook and Tony have a deep discussion about the responsibility of parents to take notice of where they get lost in the chaos of the high conflict situations the arise during divorce and custody battles and sometimes simply separation. This chaos leaves the child having to deal with the sense that no one is paying attention to their experience and they have deal with that alone. Par...

In this episode Brook talks about the need to periodically stop and reflect on where we have been, the journey we have traveled to this point and the mistakes and success we have experienced. This is an important part of our growth that takes us away from our own narcissism and allows us to see the world through the eyes of others and to see ourselves in a clearer light. The reflective process is...

In this episode Brook and Tony take another look at parenting and the importance of attainment with your children and the special attention that is essential to building as strong sense of self and self esteem in you kids. This Episode is directed at all parents not just those in High Conflict and not just a parallel parenting model. Please share this one with other parents you know as I think it...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss how the process of conflict as it unfolds as a condition of anxiety and often a want for expediency with one or both parties. Brook and Michelle discuss how using Mind Mapping and the exploration of all aspects of the situation, (although it may take more time) and by using a coach to help get through the weeds can actually be the faster more complete way...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the Blind Spots that arise from having unrealistic expectations about the other parents reactions to a given situation. These unrealistic expectations often can be expose early, prior to making critical mistakes if there is a sense making process put in place, one that uses past experiences that have been had with that parent that we have either forgotten...

In this episode Brook and Tony take another dive into the concepts and traps of belief systems and how they lock us into conflict and are in fact the center of how conflict comes into manifestation. Understanding our own beliefs, where they originated and doing sense making is core to finding our way out of conflict. Also making space for the other persons beliefs, whether or not it makes sense is...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the conflict mind trap the parents find themselves in when they try to look at the parenting conflicts through the lens of Fairness. The differing perspective and the cognitive dissonance of one or both of the parents involved in the conflict creates an arena of conflict because neither one of the parents sees the situation the same. I therefore becomes i...

In this episode Brook and Tony discuss the need for seasonal preparedness in getting ready for the challenges that come with Spring and Summer travel, not having things in place with a good parenting plan and having a plan in place when things go wrong. Also getting ready to get the kids in place for the next school year because if court is needed you best get started now. Enjoy!!! Join "The Disen...

In this episode Brook and Tony discuss how children often use Emotional Blackmail and put their parents in areas of discomfort to get what the want. This is especially prevalent during parental discourse and conflict. The parent doesn't want to make the child feel uncomfortable during times of change and allow for things they might not normally. This can lead to the Child's sense of Entitlement an...

In this episode Brook and Michelle discuss the behaviors and signs that come along with the Covert Narcissists defensive presentations. This is an extensive and interesting discussion that deserves listening to multiple times. As always this information is meant to help our listeners identify behaviors so as not to get caught in the engagement with them and not for the listener you go into judgmen...

In this episode Brook has special author Sara Olsher to discuss the importance for parents to have special language to speak with their children about hard subject.  When children are caught in the middle of High Conflict parents they need a parent to be able to speak to them in a way that helps them navigate the unconscious behaviors of a parent that has narcissist or borderline tendencies in ord...