The Gutsy Ladies Podcast

"What you don't do determines what you can do." – Tim Ferriss Most midlife women I know find it very difficult to say "no" to things – to requests from family, to being on unpaid committees, to taking on extra work. But I wholeheartedly believe that quote from Tim Ferriss – what we say "no" to determines what we can say "yes" to. So if you want a life where you're saying "yes" only to the things t...

Guilt is such a powerful trigger for emotional habit loops that keep us stuck doing what we think we "should" be doing. But why? In this episode I want to talk about what's behind this guilt, and how to leave it behind little by little each day. So, let's chat about: three of the main reasons (among many!) that we can feel guilty for prioritising ourselves why it's important to push through t...

After almost 50 episodes, this is my very first interview! Today I want to introduce you to Robyn Beeston, one of the original Gutsy Ladies. In the past year or so, every one of the dreams that Robyn expressed to me has come true. She has recently published her first book, she's built a studio at the back of her new property in the Noosa hinterlands, and she's continuing to achieve and d...

You know how you start a new habit full of excitement? Monday morning, you're all in! You can do this! And then by Thursday, you've fallen back to your old way of doing things. I call this a Change U-Turn. And there's a specific Change U-Turn I think we need to look out for, so in this episode, I'm talking about: how to decide if the work required to make a change is worth the bother (and when it...

This episode is a little pep talk based on my own observations building an online business in midlife. Building Gutsy Ladies has been a steep learning curve, and has made me realise that we all have what I'm going to call a "tech identity". So in this episode I share:   the three sneaky ways that you could be sabotaging yourself through your tech identity my theory on why this is specifically...

My favourite "aha" for my clients is when a grinding midlifer realises she has choices. Especially when it comes to whether she listens to her inner critic or her coach – basically, what she allows herself to think about  herself.  In this episode, I talk about: the difference between our inner coach and our inner critic why I think a sliding scale is more import...

I talk about journalling a lot for a reason: it has helped every single client I've worked with! That's a pretty strong track record, right? But I also know lots of clients have put it off for years out of confusion or overwhelm, so in this episode I talk about: why trying to do journalling "well" or "properly" is a waste of your time the three very compelling reasons I recommend everyone journal...

Why the effing hell can't I sleep anymore?! What a great question to be asking! Is my burnout leading me to sleep poorly or is my poor sleep leading me to feeling burnt out? Time to start befriending your biology, and work out what's going on. Sleep deprivation – either chronic or short-term – effects so many midlife women, so in this episode I talk about: the serious health issues that stem from...

In a follow on from last week's episode on "all or nothing" mindsets, I wanted to talk about the importance of self-compassion. I see self-compassion as an antidote to things like an all or nothing mindset and even perfectionism. So in this episode, I want to share: the three reasons why self-compassion is a powerful antidote to all or nothing thinking the three habits to bring in for greater self...

All or nothing thinking is a tricky little habit. Rigid thinking keeps us stuck, because we think our options are either complete success or complete failure. In this episode, I talk about: where this thinking comes from and why it keeps us "grinding" the sneaky side issue of perfectionism that often sneaks in too three ways to antidote this way of thinking, and why it's essential for making big l...

In my 4 Laws to Levelling Up framework, there's one area in particular that I see the most "ahas". In addition to setting REAL Goals (Relevant, Enriching, Aligned, Lights You Up Goals), befriending your biology, and building your custom toolkit, I help women clean up their crap. So in this episode, I talk about: what I mean by "clean up your crap" and what crap even needs cleaning up! how we devel...

There's one tool that I teach my clients that is so deceptively simple, yet I would say has been the biggest game-changer across the board. Many of my clients come to me in the midst of burnout (or heading there with the accelerator on!), and this tool has had a massive impact on them. So in this episode, I talk about: working out why you feel the need for more "space" in your day why burnout is a...

I am yet to coach anyone who couldn't have what they wanted from the day we spoke. The issue is always the lack of self-belief, and so my support entails helping my clients to bridge that belief. To see themselves as the person they want to be. In this episode, I talk about: how if you can conceive of what you want, you can have it (and I've never met an exception to this rule!) three po...

On a recent discovery call, a woman told me that she had decided coaching is what she needed to "bring her brave back". That phrase really stuck with me, and got me thinking about my own experiences with feeling brave. In this episode, I talk about: the three common traits of Gutsy Ladies who are jumping on a free discovery call a recent experience where I was forced inadvertently t...

"Why is this happening to me?!" I have said these words, and I'll bet you have as well. When life hands us a blindsiding, it's easy to feel like we have no control and everything happening is external to us. So this this episode, I wanted to talk about: how changing my perspective was a game-changer in my own personal journey through blindsidings five benefits of shifting your thinking to this way...

What actually  is  The Gutsy Ladies Club? You hear me talk about it all the time in my podcast and in this newsletter, so in this week's episode, I wanted to really explain to you what The Gutsy Ladies Club is (and isn't!). To claim your free 48 hour trial to The Gutsy Ladies Club , go to bellareynolds.com.au/gutsy-ladies  and click on the very first link when you arrive. In this ep...

I want to continue the conversation where my episode on financial shame left off. So many midlifers come to me saying they don't have enough money to live their best midlife and beyond, and my first port of call is to encourage them to change their mindset and ask " How can I afford my dream midlife and beyond?" In this episode, I talk about: Moving from the statement "I cannot afford" to a questi...

I've mentioned in previous episodes that about five years ago, I had such severe burn out that I literally couldn't get up off the couch. I've never fully shared the story though, not in detail, so in this episode, I talk about: the three reasons I think burning out was one of the best things to happen to me the number one symptom to watch out for in yourself and others, because this one is e...

About a year ago, I started working with a running coach in preparation for my ultramarathon – and he gave me some tools that changed my life.   You've maybe heard me talk about epigenetics on this podcast before, but in this episode I want to go a bit deeper, because I have decided to incorporate this tool into my business (as well as my personal life)! So in this episode, I talk about: how...

If you've been around for a little while, you will no doubt have heard me talk about "grinding" and "gliding" through midlife.   I've had a few women reach out for some clarity on this idea, so in this episode, I talk about: three signs that you're grinding your way through midlife how gliding (the opposite of "grinding") feels the three things to do to stop grinding and start gliding from to...

Limiting beliefs are what keep us from having the life we want. I honestly truly, truly believe that. And a huge part of limiting beliefs – where I see this come up again and again for my clients – is about money. So in this episode, I talk about: the two reasons negative money beliefs can keep you grinding your gears the five most common negative money beliefs to watch out for and why they are so...

I get told by a lot of Gutsy Ladies, "I don't know what I want... I just don't want this any more." And honestly, that's great! We need to pay attention to these clues, because what we want is simply the opposite of what we don't want – it's just that we often cannot see that! So in this episode, I talk about: the three reasons why not knowing what you want is a great starting point how "I don't k...

As a Big Zero Birthday gets closer, we can start to think of it as a line in the sand. But if we haven't met our own expectations of who we'd be by that birthday, then these birthdays can hold a lot of extra weight. So in this episode, I want to show you how to think of these birthdays (or any milestones) with enthusiasm, not something to get down about. I talk about: the three reasons we find Big...

Thinking you can't afford to retire brings forward actions that only lead to that exact result. Financial shame is keeping far too many midlife women stuck and grinding! So in this episode, I want to show you how to use one simple tool to start getting unstuck and start to glide through midlife with financial dignity. I talk about: how the shame about not having enough money stops so many women fr...

I often say that knowing where you want to go is more than half the battle, but truth be told, having a plan doesn’t fix everything! I want to introduce you to Ms. Frustrated, a client of mine. Ms F, as I call her in this episode, came to me when she started to feel like life was getting in the way of her reaching her new goals – and wanted some coaching on what to do about that. So in this episod...