The Grown-Ups Are Talking

After 70 episodes, The Grown-Ups Are Talking is coming to an end-- but before you panic, this isn't really a goodbye. It's a rebrand. In this solo episode, I'm opening up about why the podcast that's followed me through my twenties- through career changes, city moves, and everyday adulting- doesn't quite fit where my life is headed next. So I'm talking through the real reasons TGUAT is ending, wha...

In a few weeks I'm starting at Harvard Law School, and it's hard to overstate just how big a change that actually is. I'm moving countries, moving cities, stepping into one of the most rigorous academic environments out there, and going back to being a full-time student after years of building a career and a life that looked nothing like that. In this solo episode, I'm talking hone...

We're talking about beauty today-- but really, we're talking about growing up and figuring out how to take care of yourself for the first time. I sit down with Maya Nalawade the person responsible for my entire skincare shelf, to talk about everything nobody teaches you: skincare basics, the biggest myths, where to splurge vs. save, and how a good routine connects to feeling good mentally. Because...

A year ago, I wrote myself a letter. I sealed it, set a calendar reminder, and forgot about it almost entirely. In this episode, I open it for the first time and reckon with how much has changed: leaving my corporate law job to bet on myself, the dream of Harvard Law School that at one point I questioned, and the winding, uncertain path that somehow led me here. It's an episode about growing up on...

What does it actually mean to reinvent yourself-- and do you need to know who you are before you let someone else in? This week, I'm joined by my friend Elena for one of those conversations that started as a chat about her upcoming engagement and turned into something much bigger: a proper deep-dive into identity, change, and what it means to know yourself. We talk about what reinvention actually...

New York City gave me a lot last week: a beautiful wedding, reunions with people I don't see nearly enough, and a constant background hum of "do I love this or does this exhaust me?" In this solo episode, I'm talking through what it was like to be back in the chaos, the strange mix of emotions that comes with watching your friends hit big life milestones, and why catching up with...

If you've ever finished undergrad and thought what now? !— this episode is for you. A master's degree can feel like the obvious next step. It sounds impressive, it keeps you in education a little longer, and it gives you something to say when people ask about your plans. But is it actually worth it? And are you doing it for the right reasons? In this episode, I'm joined by two friends...

This is Part 3 of the Dream Self series-- and this is where everything you've been building finally comes to life. If you've been following along, you've already done the deeper work. In Part 1, you got honest about what you actually want from your life- not what you think you should want, but what genuinely lights you up. In Part 2, you started getting to know the version of yourself you're worki...

This episode is the bridge between dreaming and doing. Last week, we designed your dream life; this week, we're talking about how to actually prepare to build it. But before we dive into tools and systems, there's a big caveat I want to get into first: the most successful people have the smallest gap between idea and action. You don't need to know everything before you start. The learning happens...

How to Design Your Dream Life (Part 1 of 3) | Finding Your Purpose, Identifying Your Values & Building a Life You Actually Love Do you feel stuck in a job you don't love-- but you also don't really know what you want to do instead? Uninspired, unsatisfied, or just going through the motions? This episode is for you. The good news? You've already done most of the work. The answers ar...

Today's episode is a little different. I'm introducing something I've been building-- The Grown-Ups Are Writing , a brand new Substack newsletter and companion to this podcast. In this episode, I'm reading my very first post: why I started it, what I want to create, what you can expect, and why, in a world drowning in content, I think building something of your own still matters. I...

Everyone has an opinion on what you should do with your 20s. Work harder. Travel more. Say yes to everything. Build your savings. Figure yourself out. But what if nobody's actually stopped to ask the right question first? In this episode, I'm laying out the three camps many of us fall into: the grinder, the experience collector, and the traveller- and taking an honest look at what each one...

What does it mean to spend most of your 20s in education? After finishing my master's degree and staring down three more years of law school, I've been sitting with a feeling I haven't talked about on this podcast before-- the quiet fear that I'm always going to be a student. Or that I'm behind and it feels like everyone else is further along. In this episode, I'm reflectin...

What does it really mean to grow up when you're caught between cultures, expectations, and versions of yourself? In this episode, I'm joined by a guest who knows that tension intimately. We get into what it looks like to come of age as a second-generation South Asian woman in the West-navigating the push and pull of feeling "too Western" in some rooms and "too traditional&qu...

Do you actually know what you want from your life- or are you chasing someone else's version of happy? In this episode, I'm getting into how to figure out what genuinely lights you up, not what looks good on paper or what society tells you to want. Because I truly believe most of us already have the clues. We're just not paying attention to them. I'm sharing three ways you can star...

Lately, my sleep- and my routine- has been completely off. In this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking , I’m talking about sleep, morning routines, and nighttime habits, and what happens when adult life gets busy enough that your rhythm quietly disappears. After a hectic period filled with work, rehearsals, social plans, and constant activity, I found myself feeling exhausted, struggling to wake...

Whether it’s a podcast, a Substack, a YouTube channel, or a business, this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking is about starting the thing. Starting can feel surprisingly hard- not because you’re lazy, but because beginning requires vulnerability, self-trust, and the courage to do something before you feel fully ready. In this episode, I share the story of how this podcast began, the projects I a...

This week, I found myself thinking about a question we rarely ask in our twenties: what can the end of life teach us about how to live right now? After attending a beautiful memorial this week, I found myself thinking about something we rarely talk about in our twenties: what the end of life can teach us about how to live well right now. Why do so many people reach the end of their lives with simi...

As spring arrives, everything starts to feel a little lighter: the days get longer, routines shift, and suddenly we feel the urge to reset. In this short solo episode, Abby reflects on how seasonal change mirrors the experience of early adulthood: learning to start again, clear space, and grow into new versions of ourselves. From spring cleaning our homes (and minds), to revisiting goals that didn...

In your 20s- and in early adulthood more broadly- it can feel like you’re expected to do everything at once. Build your career. Stay fit. Maintain friendships and relationships. Grow personally. Plan for the future. And somehow avoid burnout while doing it all. In this episode, we’re talking about how to balance it all, and realistically. This isn’t about toxic productivity or maximising every hou...

In this episode, I’m taking you through every major decision I’ve made about my life and career so far- the moments where I felt completely certain I had it all figured out… and how those certainties kept evolving. From creative writing and theatre to law school dreams, big law ambitions, financial litigation, burnout, podcasting, and producing, I’ve changed my mind more times than I can count. An...

February is the month of L-O-V-E but this episode isn’t about Valentine’s plans or dating advice (though it might help with those too!) It’s about the relationship that comes first, above all others: the one you have with yourself. In this episode, I talk about why self-love isn’t just a buzzword or a personality trait; it’s a necessary foundation for every relationship in your life, and for going...

If you want 2026 to be the year you actually achieve all your goals, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking , I’m breaking down the things that will actually transform your life: systems, consistency, and the right mindset. I talk about how to build habits that stick, how to design your environment so success becomes easier, and why living as your future self today m...

In early adulthood, we’re often told to push through stress, power through anxiety, keep going, and achieve a ton, even when our bodies are clearly asking us to slow down or things are getting a bit much. But what if the foundation for a calmer, more stable, and more fulfilling life isn’t doing more… but learning how to feel safe in your own body and self? With the pressure of a new year, many of...

We’re well into 2026 now, and if there’s one thing adulthood teaches you quickly, it’s how fast a year can disappear. But before we rush forward, it’s worth pausing, because 2025 was full of lessons we don’t want to leave behind. This is Part 2 of a two-part highlights episode of The Grown-Ups Are Talking , where I’ve gone back through every guest conversation from 2025 to pull out the advice, mom...