The Grown & Liberated Love Club™

You did everything they told you to do. Built the career, did the real therapy, became the woman everyone leans on. So why is the seat across the table still empty? This week, Candice counts down the 15 signs you're not ready to receive your Divine Equal Match... yet, and the one at the base of the list might be the last thing you expected. And no, sis, it is not your fault. With the receipts to p...

The most well-read woman in the room can still be the most anxiously attached woman in the room. This week, Candice opens up her own fifteen-year journey as the "queen of self-help", and the early-forties breakdown that finally taught her the one thing no book could. We get into the behavioral research behind the knowing-doing gap, why your nervous system overrides your insight every single time,...

How to talk to men in the early stages of dating in a way that has you learning all you need to know. Songs featured: "On & On" Erykah Badu ( Baduizm, 1997). "Doo Wop (That Thing)" Lauryn Hill ( The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill, 1998). Apply for The Grown & Liberated Love Club: https://candiceharperlovecoach.com/grown-liberated-love Hack the Dating Apps: https://candiceharperlovecoach.com/h...

Here's what nobody teaches: getting your needs met is an art and a skill, not luck or charm. This week, ten practical ways to see the trees AND the forest, let the sweetness in, and finally receive the love that's already reaching for you, at any stage of your dating life. For the women who give everything. And the men who need to hear it too. EPISODE NOTES Scripture Referenced: Galatians 6:9 (KJV...

"Spend so much time trying to be right that I was dead wrong." India. Arie said it. Today's episode unpacks it. Accountability is the only true love, and most of us have been doing it wrong. We're breaking down what it is, what it's not, why you can't demand it from someone else, and the 10 questions that will tell you if YOU are bringing it to your dating life. Plus Dr. Jennifer Freyd's DARVO res...

Sis. Let's talk about the cringy stuff you're doing in your love life that you don't even know you're doing. Like auto-promoting one date into a whole relationship in your head before he even knows he's in it. Or shapeshifting yourself into something "wifeable" instead of just being a whole woman. Or driving past his apartment at midnight because you can NAME your attachment style, but you can't s...

She's been talking to you. The question is whether you've been listening. This week on The Grown & Liberated Love Club... the wise voice of your vagina. What she sounds like, when she's lyin', when she's telling the truth, and the four ways she's been trying to flag you down... medically, emotionally, spiritually, and that fourth one is going to wake you up. Find out what your vagina sounds li...

If you've ever wondered if you should go back after you've been rejected or cheated on... Tune in for this episode and find out the 5 steps that will give you the most definitive clarity you've ever had. Listen in and tap into your own answers with confidence. Links: Apply for The Grown & Liberated Love Club: candiceharperlovecoach.com/grown-liberated-love Hack the Dating Apps ($27): https://c...

Y'all know Black Americans were MORE married than white folks for 70 years until the 1960s? Yeah. Me either, until I went looking. This week we're talking about what actually happened to Black marriage, why the gender war is engagement-farmed erasure, what healthy Black partnership actually looks like (it's NOT submission), and why "Spend My Life With You" by Tamia and Eric Benet is the assignment...

[REPLAY] Episode 4 - Sis, let's talk about that visceral feeling you get when someone drops the word helpmeet into a conversation. Is it church trauma? The patriarchy? Or maybe... just maybe, your spirit knows it was never about shrinking yourself to be someone's life assistant.  In this episode, we're unpacking where that cringe comes from and, more importantly, how redefining helpmeet throu...

Where the hell IS your husband? Spoiler: he is NOT on a bro podcast, in a Reddit thread, or at an incel meeting trying to figure out if you're a 7 or an 8. This week we're inspired by Raye's brass-band anthem and using actual Harvard-adjacent science to talk about why specificity is the cheat code, why "I just want a good man" is settling energy, and why your husband isn't late... you just may not...

Gurl!! You're out here thinking your only options are "die alone with dogs and cats" or "shrink yourself small enough to fit into his mediocrity." Ma'am. There are at least seven other arrangements available to you, and we're getting into all of them. Harvard cosigns. A previous Surgeon General cosigns. Jill Scott's "Golden" cosigns. Now pull up.  Research Citations: U.S. Surgeon General's Ad...

The first relationship you ever had was with your mother. And whether you realize it or not, that relationship is the blueprint your nervous system is still using to decide whether love is safe. In this episode, Candice breaks down the signs of an unhealed mommy wound, the 10 signs you're healing from it, what the research says about how maternal attachment shapes adult romantic relationships, and...

And what a self-loving woman, who wants to be in a relationship, can do to bypass all of it. (No "pick me" energy required.  The patriarchy doesn't only hurt women... it destroys men's ability to have healthy, loving relationships. In this episode, Candice counts down the Top 10 most destructive things the patriarchy teaches men, from equating strength with emotional numbness to reducing thei...

The Truth About Physical Attraction, D*ckmatization, and Why the Man You Almost Swiped Left On Might Be Your Divine Equal Match Wanna stop letting fine-ness ruin your love life? In this episode, Candice breaks down the psychology of physical attraction, why your obsession with a man's looks might be sabotaging your chances at real love, and how the man you almost dismissed could become the most at...

For when you've been trying to build men from scratch. In this episode, Candice shares matchmaking industry stories where "This Ain't Build-A-Bear" was the unofficial motto, breaks down the psychology behind why powerful women become Builders in their relationships, and teaches you how to recognize real potential versus someone who just needs a lot of fixing and finishing. Plus, a deep dive into L...

The women in a man's life... His mother, sisters, daughters, ex-wives, and baby mamas, etc... can tell you everything you need to know about the man you're dating. Whether they like you or not, they're always communicating valuable information through their words and behaviors. In this episode, Candice shares personal stories about what she learned from the women around her exes, discusses researc...

What if STIs arent about recklessness... but about shame? This week on The Grown & Liberated Love Club, we're going somewhere uncomfortable. We're connecting the dots between patriarchy, purity culture, sexual shame, and sexually transmitted infections. In this episode, you'll learn: Why purity pledges actually INCREASE STI risk (the research will shock you) The 3 ways patriarchy creates sexua...

You graduated top of your class. Built your career. Bought the house. Made the money. So why does your love life look like a series of decisions made by someone who has no direction? This week on The Grown & Liberated Love Podcast, Candice Harper breaks down why smart, successful women keep ending up in relationships that don't serve them, and why it's not a character flaw. It's a setup. Inspi...

Men are lonely. Women are exhausted. And somehow YOU'RE supposed to fix it by lowering your standards? No ma'am. This week on The Grown & Liberated Love Club, we're unpacking the "male loneliness epidemic and why the internet's proposed solution (more patriarchy, more submission, more women shrinking) is actually the problem dressed in a new outfit. Find out why men are mad at Lisa Raye and ho...

Happy Valentines Day!! Should he pay on the first date? What if he suggests splitting? Does how he handles the check tell you everything you need to know about him? If you're a high-achieving woman who's been told that "a man who doesn't pay isn't serious"... this episode is about to shift everything. Today we're breaking down why "Did he pay?" is the wrong question and what you should actually be...

In this episode, were chatting about what it means to  deprogram from patriarchal relationship conditioning  and create  Liberated Love...  the kind thats built on trust, joy, safety, and mutual respect. If youve ever felt like you're doing everything right but still attracting emotionally unavailable men, or like you have to dim your brilliance just to be desirable... this epi...

In a world that constantly demands you conform to old paradigms, patriarchal roles, and traditions that never made sense to your spirit... How do you create a love life that actually feels good ? This week on The Grown & Liberated Love Club , Coach Candice breaks down what it really means to design your relationship on purpose, no performance.  Find out... Why being muted on a TikTok live...

Sis, lets talk about that visceral reaction you get when someone drops the word helpmeet into a conversation. Is it the church trauma? The patriarchy? Or maybe... just maybe, your spirit knows it was never about shrinking yourself to be someones life assistant. In this episode, we're unpacking where that cringe comes from and, more importantly, how redefining helpmeet through a liberated lens can...

Whew, the betrayal! In this episode of The Grown & Liberated Love Club , were defining cheating.... Inspired by the recent Kristy & Desmond Scott news... I clarify what it is so you can set a proper boundary early on, and in the Girl, What Chu Going Through segment, we breakdown Beyonc's Irreplaceable . Grab your tea, Sis. This ones for every woman who's ever needed to direct someone "To T...