The Good Girl Game Changers

When it comes to setting and honoring the healthy boundaries you need in your life, are you scared of how other people will respond? Will your family be mad? Will your friends be hurt? Will your colleagues be upset? [1.49] Michelle recaps episode #15 with Juliane Taylor Shore on the six steps to boundary setting. [5.59] Michelle shares Ah-ha #1 and Evie & Michelle walk through the six steps to...

When it comes to setting boundaries, do you send others mixed signals instead of clear messages? Are your efforts to communicate what you need packed with awkward moments or kind connections? Do you come away second-guessing yourself or full of self-respect? 1.33 Chelle & Juliane review the four different types of boundaries we need for our brains to feel safe. 2.20 Step 1: Find your big why 1...

When it comes to setting better boundaries, it helps to start by figuring out exactly what kind of boundary you most need. Is it an external boundary (between you and someone else), an internal boundary (the work you do to support yourself), or both? And how do you figure this out? [2.24] Michelle recaps Episode 13 with Juliane Taylor Shore on setting healthy boundaries. [4.13] Michelle shares Ah-...

When it comes to feeling respected and valued in your relationships, do you know when to make requests and when to set boundaries? Or do you spin your wheels making complaints or issuing demands instead? [0.57] Michelle introduces Juliane Taylor Shore. [1.52] Juliane shares her Uniquely You moment with us. [4.51] Juliane explains why boundaries are a way for people to be more connected to one anot...

When it comes to connecting with others, does your nervous system tend to run “too hot” or “too cold”? Or are you able to live in the secure relating sweet spot of “just right”, even when your relationships become challenging? [1.52] Michelle recaps Episode 11 - Part 2 of the podcast with Sue Marriott on Secure Relating. [2.54] Evie reintroduces the "zones of relating", in particular The...

Do you find it hard to trust others? Do you long to have closer relationships but find yourself overwhelmed with anxiety and fear when people want you to open up? Do you find being emotionally close with others confusing and exhausting? [1.18] Michelle and Sue summarise part 1 of the conversation around secure relating and the "zones" of relating. [4.40] Sue helps us understand more abou...

When your interactions with others become challenging, how does your nervous system respond? Are you able to stay grounded with your connection circuits turned on? Or do your protection circuits take over and turn you into a people-pleasing or protecting machine? [3.14] Michelle recaps episode 9 with Sue Marriott, starting with the definition of secure attachment. [5.38] Michelle shares Sue's...

When it comes to your relationships, do you bend over backwards to please others in the hope they’ll love you in return? Do you play it cool and silence your needs in the hope they’ll admire and respect you? Or, are you able to interact in ways that embody trust and love for yourself and others? [4.20] Sue explains secure attachment and how it impacts our relationships. [7.14] Sue shares how '...

When you feel envy or anger, how do you respond? Do you put on your kindest face for everyone to admire, while viciously criticizing yourself for being petty and mean on the inside? Or do try to rid yourself of these emotions by shaming and blaming the people who made you feel this way? [2.20] - Chelle & Evie unpack the recent podcast with Elise Leohnen and how she helped us to unpack how our...

Growing up, were you encouraged to be a ‘good girl’? Do you find yourself, even as an adult, still struggling to meet this impossible set of expectations? Where do these beliefs come from, and why are they so hard to free ourselves of? [1.36] Elise shares a 'good girl' belief she has been working on recently. [4.05] Elise explains why so many women believe they need to be 'good girls&#...

When someone offers you feedback or criticism, how does your body respond? Do you brace yourself for the sharp pain of hearing you’re not good enough? Or does your heart open up with appreciation, and your mind fire up with curiosity for the opportunity to learn? How might a growth mindset help you listen to feedback with self-compassion? [2.34] - Chelle & Evie unpack Dr. Carol Dweck's def...

Do you hustle through your days chasing perfection? Does the prospect of failing fill you with fear? Is feedback and criticism painful to hear? Then, practicing a growth mindset could help free you from your 'good girl' hustle for perfection. [2.33] Carol defines the difference between a fixed and a growth mindset. [3.38] Carol shares how fixed and growth mindsets impact our confidence. [5...

When you’re struggling what do you say to yourself? Studies suggest many of us say horrible things to ourselves in these moments like: “You're so stupid!”, “You’re such a loser!”, “No wonder no one loves you!" or worse. But what's the best question to ask ourselves in these moments? [2.40] The most common tool women report using to break free of their 'good girl' beliefs and e...

Do you find it difficult to say “no”? Are you scared of setting boundaries? Can you confidently and calmly stand up for yourself? If mastering these skills feels like it might stretch you well outside your comfort zone, then Dr. Kristin Neff's skills of fierce self-compassion may help. [1.31] Kristin explains why studies suggest women struggle more with self-compassion more than men. [5.24] Kr...

The two questions every 'good girl' needs to ask. We’ve been asking woman all over the world what being a ‘good girl’ means to them. Most of them shared early childhood memories between the ages of 6 – 11 where usually a family member or a teacher had encouraged them to be a ‘good girl’ if they wanted to be safe, successful, and loved. We've found for many women this early childhood ex...