The Good Girl Game Changers

In this episode Sue shares the practical side of secure relating: how to move back toward connection from the red and blue zones, what rewiring actually requires, and why "safe enough" might be the most honest and liberating goal any of us can reach for. 0:01 — Evie and Chelle welcome listeners back and recap the three zones from episode five: green, red, and blue 3:33 — Evie and Chelle...

Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠https://shop.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio⁠⁠ What if the reason you keep shrinking yourself, over-explaining, or shutting down emotionally has nothing to do with a character flaw — and everything to do with your nervous syst...

Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠⁠https://shop.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio⁠⁠ What if your inner critic isn't the enemy and the real work isn't silencing it, but learning to be in a healthier relationship with it? In this episode, Evie and Chelle di...

Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days free at The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠https://shop.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio⁠ What if failing didn't mean you were fundamentally flawed but simply that you were human? In this episode, Chelle revisits her favourite conversation with Stanford professor and...

If you have questions, challenges, or favorite tools of your own, ⁠⁠email us⁠⁠ — we'll feature them in the episodes ahead. Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days freeat The Breaking Free Studio: ⁠https://shop.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio⁠ Have you ever noticed how easy it is to say something w...

If you have questions, challenges, or favorite tools of your own, ⁠email us⁠ — we'll feature them in the episodes ahead. Are you looking for a group of like-minded women to do this messy, beautiful work with? Come and join us for 30 days freeat The Breaking Free Studio: https://shop.thegoodgirlgamechangers.com/the-breaking-free-studio⁠ When you remember a recent moment of tryingto be a ‘good g...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation about men and women feeling more stuck than when you started? You made your point. They made theirs. And somehow you both ended up further apart than before. It’s exhausting — the same arguments, the same defensiveness, the same feeling that for someone to win the other side has to lose. After a while, you start wondering: is there another way to do th...

Have you noticed how quickly gender conversations turn into battles we can’t seem to win? She said this, he did that, who has it worse, who should apologize first. But once we’re locked in—your suffering versus mine, who should apologize first—we’re trapped in a zero-sum game. So how do we free our energy from the gender wars, not by hating the players but by changing the game? [00:00] Chelle intr...

Have you noticed how quickly conversations about gender turn into competitions about who has it worse? One side insists men are the real victims—look at the loneliness epidemic, the education gaps, the suicide rates. The other side counters that women are the real victims—look at the violence statistics, the unpaid labor, the centuries of having our voices silenced. Both sides race to claim the pr...

Ever noticed how much pressure there is for ‘good girls’ to perform compassion and for ‘strong boys’ to avoid it? [00:00] Evie & Chelle share the gender expectations they're shaking off. [02:00] Chelle shares Ah Ha #1: how early socialization creates deeply different relationships with compassion—women often perform it to earn love, while men armor up against it for survival. [06:20] Evie...

Accountability isn’t about blame. It’s not about compliance. It’s actually about clarity, integrity, and honoring what matters in our relationships with each other. This is how compassion and accountability work together. [01:28] Chelle welcomes Paige and reflects on their past cliff-top conversation that inspired this episode. [02:27] Paige and Chelle explore how performance, protection, and disc...

Have you noticed how quickly conversations about gender turn into arguments about who has it worse? How we lose the ability to hear each other when we’re busy defending our own pain? This isn’t just emotionally draining—it’s neurologically impossible to connect this way. So how do we reach for compassion with each other? [01:50] Chelle and Chris define compassion and explore the four steps that he...

In our last two episodes, we spoke with Dr. Carol Gilligan and Dr. Niobe Way , whose forty years of research show how society’s gender expectations of being “good girls” and “strong boys” are creating a crisis of connection that’s costing all of us. So what do we do when we recognize so many of us are trapped by society’s gender expectations that were never ours to begin with? [0:02] Evie and Chel...

Have you noticed how often the boys and men in your life struggle with emotional intimacy? They tend to pull away when feelings run high. They insist they’re fine when clearly they’re not. They seem unable to say what’s really going on. [0:02] Chelle introduces Season 3, Episode 3 and welcomes Dr. Niobe Way. [1:47] Niobe shares a 'good girl' expectation she's shaking off. [2:44] Niobe...

Have you ever felt stuck between two impossible choices—speak up and worry people will think you’re too much, or stay quiet and lose touch with who you really are? This is what Dr. Carol Gilligan calls a crisis of connection—caught between staying connected to others and staying connected to yourself. [1:35] Carol shares the ‘good girl’ belief she’s shaking off. [2:44] Carol explains how her resea...

How do we protect each other? What do we all need to feel safe, seen, and valued—and how do we stop letting society’s gender expectations blind us to each other’s humanity? [0.50] Chelle introduces Season 3 of The Good Girl Game Changers podcast [1.49] Evie & Chelle share the gender expectations they're shaking off. [2.37] Chelle explains the theme of this season - gender compassion - and...

As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of  ⁠⁠⁠The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl⁠⁠⁠ , we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this episode, we explore why protecti...

As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of  ⁠⁠The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl⁠⁠ , we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this episode, we explore why pleasing o...

As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of  ⁠The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl⁠ , we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this episode, we explore why silencing ou...

As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of  The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl , we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this episode, we explore why silencing our...

To celebrate the launch of the children's version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl , we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this first episode, we explore the question: When, whe...

Do you find yourself feeling increasingly isolated despite being surrounded by people? How many opportunities for connection do you miss each day? What if the antidote to our social disconnection was as simple as pausing to notice the humanity in the stranger beside you? [02:02] Mo shares her concept of "rewilding" instead of retiring in her 70s. [07:38] Chelle and Mo discuss how they began huddli...

When you micromanage your team, do you explain it away as your "controlling part" without making amends? When you snap at a friend, do you blame it on your "defensive part" and move on? Or do you find ways to both honor these parts of you while taking responsibility for how they affect others? [02:47] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 about Gabby's four-step check-in process for connecting with parts[10.21]...

LISTEN NOW: 4 steps to turn reactivity into thoughtful responses When was the last time you felt stretched so thin you could snap? Maybe someone dismissed your hard work with a casual criticism? Or perhaps one tiny detail fell through and suddenly you heard yourself unleashing a torrent of blame that didn't even sound like you? [0:52]: Chelle provides a quick recap of Internal Family Systems for l...

When was the last time you felt tempted to walk away from someone in your community who thinks differently than you? Maybe they have opposing political views, communicate in ways that frustrate you, or prioritize values that don't align with yours. In a world that feels increasingly polarized, it's tempting to believe that drawing hard lines and protecting our territory is the only way forward. [2...