The Girl Defined Show

Send a text Life is full of disappointment, unfulfilled longings, and heartbreaking moments. It's so hard to have hope when life feels so hopeless. It's hard to trust that God is good when you've been praying for something for YEARS and He never gives it to you. It's hard to continue on when you see everyone else laving out their dream and you're still struggling. In today...

Send a text The messages of self-love, follow your heart, and be true to yourself are permeating our culture today. But this formula of looking inward to find value within our own goodness isn’t working. Many of us are finding ourselves on a never-ending cycle of striving to be good enough but never measuring up. This is not what God intended for us. He never asks us to be enough or to love oursel...

Send a text Once a year the Girl Defined Sisterhood gathers in person for a time of encouragement, fellowship, worship and fun hangs together. The dates are set. The venue is ready.  Join us in San Antonio, TX on July 30-31 for the 2021 Girl Defined Conference. We will be covering main stage sessions like:  SESSION ONE: Living as a Daughter of the Light. SESSION TWO: Your Truest Identity Doesn’t C...

Send a text Ep. 036 - With almost a decade of  marriage and unexplained infertility, Kristen and Zack struggled to trust God. Why would He withhold something so good from this godly couple? Why would He leave them searching with no answers? Doesn't God want godly couples to raise up godly children? If so, why isn't He blessing them with the desires of their heart? Little did they know th...

Send a text Ep. 035 - Does your happiness currently feel dependent on someone else's presence in your life? Do you feel like your world would fall apart if a certain person was no longer your friend? Are your thoughts consumed by this person day-in-and-day-out? If so, your relationship has become skewed.  We want you to find freedom before it becomes a relational prison. In today's conve...

Send a text Ep. 034 - Sex and sexuality are two of the hottest topics in society right now. With so many voices expressing opinions, it can be confusing to know what's truth and what's not. What did God actually say about our sexuality in comparison to what we're seeing happen in our society? If we, as Christian women, are not vigilant to discern lies from truths, we will will end u...

Send a text Ep. 033 - In many ways, it feels like having an open and honest conversation about homosexuality, transgenderism and/or abortion, is off limits. If the thoughts don't line up with the cultural norm, you better keep them to yourself. Despite the pressure to stay silent on these issues, we're not staying silent. There is too much at stake. God's Word isn't silent on t...

Send a text Ep. 032 - When was the first time you really noticed a guy? What about your first crush? Most of us never take the time to figure out how we ended up where we are today. If you find yourself boy-crazy, how did you get there? When did it happen? In today's episode, Paula takes us on her own boy-crazy journey. She shares how her obsession with getting  guys to notice her, completely...

Send a text Living out God's radically good design for womanhood doesn't just happen. You won't drift into biblical womanhood. You won't accidentally land into following God and His Word. It takes pursuit. Effort. Focus. And a willingness to humble yourself before God and submit to His design for your life. If you desire to learn more about your Creator's beautiful design...

Send a text Ep. 030 - Getting married is one of the biggest moments in a woman's life. The engagement, wedding prep, premarital counseling, and honeymoon anticipation, is exciting and totally overwhelming. That's why it's crucial to enter those first few weeks of marriage with a solid biblical understanding of sex and intimacy. Instead of going into marriage based on what you'v...

Send a text Ep. 29 - What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy? This conversation with Gary Thomas on The Girl Defined Show will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique...

Send a text Ep. 28 - Growing up in a loving Christian home can often make someone feel invincible. Almost like the struggles of the world world will never be their own personal struggles. Gretchen Saffles knows what that's like. She remembers hearing about eating disorders and thinking to herself "that's something I will never struggle with." How did she go from thinking those...

Send a text Ep. 027 - Social media is a tool that can be used for good or for bad. We've seen some amazing good come out of it (that's how we stay connected to most of you), but we've also seen it misused as well. Should we ditch it? Should we have it? Should we use it? In today's episode, we chat with Tara Snyder. She's the founder of Truth Talks with Tara and an avid pro...

Send a text Ep. 26 - Kim Jaggers has experienced more trauma, pain and heartbreak than most of us can even imagine. After being told that she might lose her son due to his extreme health issues, she was faced with the tragedy of suicide. While grieving the potential loss of her baby, she now had to grieve the loss of her husband. Being a single mom was never even a possibility in her mind. But tha...

Send a text Ep. 025 - She had everything a young woman could dream of. The perfect house, dream husband, and a sweet little newborn baby. This was Kim Jaggers fairytale life. Her dreams were coming true and she was planning to live happily ever after. Little did she know that her entire world was about to turn upside down. Everything she knew and loved was about to get ripped away. In today's...

Send a text Ep. 24 - Going on a first date can be super exciting and totally awkward at the same time. Let's talk about how to best prepare for a first date. Questions to ask. Things to look for. How deep to take the conversation. The goal of the date.  And more.  With the right questions and mindset in place, it's possible to figure out if you should even go on a second date with this g...

Send a text With so much pressure to conform to cultural norms and popular trends, it’s hard to live out your faith each day. That’s why you need to stay connected to the source of truth and power. By staying grounded in your relationship with Christ, you’ll have the daily strength you need to live boldly as a Girl Defined by God. Our new devotional, Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl Define...

Send a text Ep. 23 - If you’re a girl or woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, you’re not alone. Millions of Christian women (single and married) are facing similar temptations every day. And by God’s grace, many of them are finding freedom and victory over their struggles! I (Kristen) am going to be very open and transparent in this post because I want you to know that Chris...

Send a text Ep. 022 - What’s the harm in dating a non-Christian guy? What if he’s a highly moral guy, but he’s not a Christian. Is dating okay? We love each other and love is bigger than religion, right? We get asked these questions and more on a regular basis.  Christian girls want to know if it's biblically okay for a christian girl to date a non-christian guy. The argument goes, "It&a...

Send a text Ep. 021 - Having the opportunity to sit under the wisdom of a godly woman is a huge blessing. Don’t try to figure life out on your own. Don’t look to social media, magazines, movies, or music to be your guide. Don’t only surround yourself with peers. Instead, take some time to begin praying and asking God to provide a godly older woman to mentor you. It’s been a huge help in our lives...

Send a text Ep. 020 - Do your emotions sometimes feel like a roller coaster of ups and downs? Do you ever feel so tightly wound up that you just want to scream? Do tears often seep into your pillow at night? If so, you’re not alone. For most of us as girls, emotions can feel like our greatest friend one minute and our deepest enemy the next. Thankfully, God isn’t surprised by this. He created us w...

Send a text Ep. 019 - I never thought  I'd wait until I was 30 to experience my first kiss on my wedding day. I made the decision when I was a teenager, but I thought I'd get married in my early twenties. God had a different plan though. A few weeks ago I posted a reel to Instagram of me and my husband kissing for the first time at the altar. For whatever reason, it sparked a ton of inte...

Send a text Ep. 018 - Has your sexuality ever felt more like a curse rather than a blessing? Have you ever wondered why God gave single guys and gals a sex drive? Have you ever strived to truly overcome and find freedom from masturbation, porn, or some other habit? These are concerns and questions that most every single woman thinks or asks at some point in her life. They are important thoughts an...

Send a text Ep. 046 - Enjoy this replay! Many Christian women wonder if being a virgin on their wedding night will be awkward. Saving sex for marriage sounds great, but is it really that great? OR is it mostly super awkward and weird? Is saving sex for marriage actually worth it? Does God really care that much?  In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories of saving sex for...

Send a text Ep. 016 - As women, we ALL want to be happy, fulfilled, content, worthy, and loved… but so many women (whether Christian or not) find themselves feeling the opposite. In fact, in researching for Kristen and Bethany's first book, Girl Defined, they came across a study published in the UK Daily Mail which stated, quote: “Women are less happy nowadays despite 40 years of feminism. De...