The Girl Defined Show

Send a text Marrying a man of godly character sounds amazing... but how can you know if he’s actually walking the walk — not just talking the talk?   You need more than good vibes and sweet words. You need real answers to questions like: “What kind of character does this guy really have?” “Where does his heart stand when it comes to God’s Word?” “Is his love for the Lord visible in his daily actio...

Send a text Is it possible to pursue godly femininity without getting tangled in legalism, fear, or performance-driven faith?  In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with best-selling author and speaker Leslie Ludy to unpack the subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) ways legalism can creep into conservative Christian womanhood. We talk about the pressure to "look the part," the danger of...

Send a text You’ve seen the headlines: “Her Wildest Night Yet!” or “10 Secrets to Epic Pleasure.” Cosmo and other mainstream magazines have been feeding women these so-called empowering stories for decades. But what if those stories aren’t even real? What if they're simply propaganda?  In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on the glossy lies and exposing how these narratives are sha...

Send a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true…? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred? What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture, the differences betwee...

Send a text We’re constantly told men and women are the same — just interchangeable parts in a genderless machine. But is that actually true… or just cultural noise? What if gender roles aren’t sexist, but sacred?  What if God meant for men to surge with testosterone and for women to overflow with estrogen? What if wombs and muscles weren’t random, but radically intentional? According to Scripture...

Send a text Women struggle with porn too. Have you ever experienced the fear and shame that follows the vortex of graphic movies, erotica, promiscuity, or porn sites? You may think you’re alone and feel like hiding. But you’re not alone—and there is hope and healing. We are all sexually broken. And we are all invited to participate in the love, forgiveness, and healing of Jesus. The great joy and...

Send a text Let’s be honest—pursuing purity while dating someone you’re seriously into can feel next to impossible .  The butterflies are real, the chemistry is strong, and suddenly you’re wondering... is kissing too far? What about cuddling on the couch? Holding hands? Where's the line?! Navigating physical boundaries in a dating relationship isn’t always black and white—and it can be so con...

Send a text Can you be fully "crunchy" while staying fully committed to Christ? Is there such a thing as being too crunchy? How do we juggle our health goals without losing sight of our faith? Elizabeth Parsons is here to help us navigate this balance. As a popular "crunchy" mom and passionate Christian, Elizabeth shares her wisdom on how to live out both wellness and faith wit...

Send a text Is saving sex for marriage really worth it? Will the wedding night be totally awkward if we don’t "practice" first? And what about sexual compatibility—doesn’t that matter?? We’re two Christian sisters who made the choice to wait until marriage, and trust us—we’ve heard all the questions (and plenty of skeptical comments). So let’s have an open, honest, and totally unfiltered...

Send a text It seems like everyone is sending nude photos these days...even Christians. So what's the big deal? Isn't it good for me to keep a little spice in my dating relationship? What about the fact that I'm engaged and going to marry this guy? What's the harm anyway?  Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaimin...

Send a text On a scale of one to ten, how prepared do you think you are for marriage? Seriously. Most women who get marriage look back on their single years and WISH they had done more to prepare for being a wife. So...why not get prepared? Here are four things you can do right now to begin preparing for married life.  LOVE DEFINED BOOK 170 QUESTIONS TO ASK IN A RELATIONSHIP Support the show RESOU...

Send a text Ep. 197 - This is a replay. Let's be honest. Valentine's Day isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Regardless of what we see on the Hallmark Channel, rarely do things turn out that perfectly. In singleness, we often feel bummed because we don't have that special someone. Then in marriage, we often feel bummed because our special day isn't turning out to...

Send a text God created women be beautiful AND to posses the allure of feminine seduction. But beauty and seduction are not the same thing. In our celebrity society today, beauty and seduction have become synonymous. In this episode, Kristen and Bethany react LIVE to their 2016 video about this topic and share honestly where they stand today. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual T...

Send a text Ep 195 - Many conservative Christian women saved sex for marriage only to wake up on the other side of their honeymoon feeling disappointed and disillusioned. What happened? Why is sex such a huge disappointment to many Christian women?  Take a deep dive with us on all things sex, intimacy, orgasm and how to make it GREAT.  NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE  Support the show RESOURCES: Made to...

Send a text 194 - Modesty used to be a foundational topic here at Girl Defined. We become known as the "modesty ministry." Looking back, here's what we got right and wrong about Christian modesty. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE  Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Sat...

Send a text Today is the release of our newest book, "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity." Fighting men won't solve the deepest longings of a woman's heart. Turning to Christ and finding your complete identity in Him is the answer. NEW BOOK - MADE TO BE SHE  Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femin...

Send a text Ep. 193 - Liberal women have been in full on panic mode since Donald Trump was elected President of the United States. Many of these women are refusing to date men, have sex with men, get pregnant or have babies. They are in full on strike against men. What exactly will this plan accomplish? Let's find out.  MADE TO BE SHE ---> PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She:...

Send a text Ep 192 - What's a good age to start dating? What is the purpose of a romantic relationship? These are some of the questions we answered in our 2016 YouTube video titled, "Answering Your Guy Questions About Dating, Bad Relationships, and Guy Friends." And today, we're looking back and reacting to this content for the FIRST time. How do we feel NOW about what we said...

Send a text Ep. 191 - The issue of gender has exploded over the past few years. Can a man become a woman? Can a woman become a man? Should we support the trans movement? In today's episode, the two of us are looking back at one of our first YouTube videos ever where we ask the question, "Is Gender a Personal Choice." Here's our reaction.    PRE ORDER BONUSES NEW BOOK: "Mad...

Send a text Ep. 190 - The two of us grew up at the height of the purity culture movement. We read the classic "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and every other Christian book on courtship. We dated intentionally, wore our purity rings religiously and saved our kisses for marriage.  Do we regret wearing our purity rings?  What was the impact of purity culture in our lives?  How are we going to ra...

Send a text Ep 189 - We’ve had other YouTube creators reacting to us since we posted our very first official vlog/YouTube video on May 25, 2016 titled “Is it okay to be Obsessed with Guys?” I think it’s time for the two of us to react to that video ourselves. We’re going to be releasing two new YouTube videos every month where we react to our earliest / most controversial YouTube videos. We’re goi...

Send a text After 3 miscarriages and 12 years of infertility, having a baby seemed like an impossible dream. Then, to my complete astonishment, God answered our prayer! In the summer of 2024, I gave birth to our precious daughter, Caroline Marie.  Holding my daughter for the first time was a moment I will never forget. Here’s my birth story. WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/8CXKWgTDTK4 KRISTEN&a...

Send a text Ep 187 - Women have been told that men are the "standard of success" and we should do what they do. In the name of "equality" of course. Women have been pulled out of their homes, rejected their fertility, and are killing themselves to get accolades from their corporate bosses. What if you've been lied to about womanhood? What if you've been sold a bill of...

Send a text Ep. 186 - Alex Clark has risen to fame through her daily pop culture show, Poplitics. She's a conservative Christian woman with a deep desire to get married and start a family. Sadly, that hasn't happened yet. Despite going on dates and putting herself out there. I'm taking a deep dive into her life and asking questions like: Do you think men struggle to commit? Does sin...

Send a text Ep. 185 - You're single, but you don't want to be. You want a man. You want a leader. You want a protector. You want a LOVER. So why isn't it happening? Why hasn't God brought marriage into your life?  The nagging question for many... "Is it my fault I'm still single?"  In today's episode, the two of us share our own experiences and offer practic...