The Girl Defined Show

Send a text Ep. 110 - Enjoy this replay! It often feels like having an open and honest conversation about homosexuality, transgenderism, and/or abortion, is off limits. If the thoughts don't line up with the cultural norm, you better keep them to yourself. Despite the pressure to stay silent on these issues, we're not staying silent. There is too much at stake. God's Word isn't...

Send a text Ep. 109 - As Christian women of this modern generation, we breathe the air and ideology of feminism without even realizing it. What's normal today (sexual autonomy, gender fluidity, cohabitating) wasn't normal a few decades ago. Our view of femininity and womanhood has been radically impacted by feminist thinking in more ways than we often realize. In today's episode, we...

Send a text Ep. 108 - It's the most wonderful time of the year. This is the time where we get to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior. Where would any of us be without His amazing birth, life, sacrifice, and resurrection? This is why we celebrate big. Family. Traditions. Food. Gifts. All the things. This episode is filled with fresh ideas to make this Christmas season special. NEW Perso...

Send a text Ep. 107 - It’s been over a year since Zack and Kristen brought their boys home from Ukraine and finalized the adoption. Life has been full, fun, and wild with lots of joys and some challenges. In this down-to-earth conversation, they share openly about how becoming an “instant family” has impacted their marriage, and what life looks like today as a family of four. NEW Personal Retreat...

Send a text Ep. 106 - Enjoy this replay. Almost every young Christian woman asks this question at some point in her life. Saving sex for marriage sounds great, but is it really great? OR is it mostly super awkward and weird? Is saving sex for marriage actually worth it? Does God really care that much? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories of saving sex for marriage a...

Send a text Ep. 105 - Enjoy this incredible replay. Same sex attraction is a topic we've been wanting to cover for a long time. Many of you have DM'd us asking us to bring biblical truth and gospel centered hope to this conversation. We know this can be a very sensitive topic... that's why we've waited this long to bring the right person onto the show. Ellen Dykas has spent yea...

Send a text Ep. 104 - Christian women often feel extremely uncomfortable talking about sex. It seems there is an unspoken rule to keep everything super "hush-hush." This is ridiculous. Most women have big questions about sex and we (as Christians) should be the first to talk about this area of life. God designed sex. There should be no shame in trying to understand the ins-and-outs of Hi...

Send a text Ep. 103 - Christian women are notorious for giving "feel good" encouragement. It might not be true. It might not be biblical. But, it makes us feel good in the moment. "You're enough." "Your turn is next!" "You'll get that baby soon." "Marriage is in your future." "Good things are coming your way." These all sound ni...

Send a text Feminism has been the loudest voice in culture for women. Feminism acts like ALL women want abortion, autonomy, careers, power over men and more. But is that really true for ALL women? No. We took a poll on Instagram and you all submitted things you DO NOT WANT. Things like "hustle culture" and "being a boss babe." If you value femininity, motherhood, and chivalry,...

Send a text Many Christian single women wonder if they have the gift of singleness. If marriage hasn't happened yet... maybe singleness is God's calling on your life. This is a legit line of thinking and one that deserves good/biblical answers. Join Kristen and Bethany as they bring clarity to this confusing conversation. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Gir...

Send a text Ep. 100 - Lets celebrate the 100th episode with an extra special conversation. We've covered some pretty intense topics over the lifespan of this podcast. Masturbation, feminism, birth control, drag queens, marriage, biblical womanhood and more. It's time to take a little break and have some fun. In today's episode, we're answering your assumptions about us! Everyth...

Send a text Ep. 099 - The history of "the birth control pill" is something most women are not familiar with. Most women simply listen to their Dr. (without question) when they're told to get on the pill for one reason or other.  Oral contraception has become the go-to for preventing pregnancy with little understanding of the potential negative health impacts to the woman taking it....

Send a text Ep. 098 - Have safe sex. Don't get pregnant. And build your career. That's the mantra women have been told from the time they were teen girls. Birth control is the go-to prescription to assist in this process of raising career minded women who put family on the back burner. This entire way of thinking needs to be tossed out and rebuilt. That's where Candice Watters comes...

Send a text Ep 097 - Purity culture gets a major bad rap amongst millennials who grew up in the church.  I get that. Purity culture had some major pitfalls and did a lot of damage. But, what about public health sex education? What about the sex ed class you took in school? It's time to give both purity culture and sex ed their fair evaluation. In today's episode we are chatting with publ...

Send a text Ep. 096 - If you are familiar with our ministry you know that, we created GirlDefined Ministries to help girls “get BACK to God’s design.” As a whole, Christian girls are really struggling to understand what God’s design is for their lives and how to practically live that out. In short, we don’t believe feminism is the answer to our womanhood questions. Yes, feminism has done some good...

Send a text Ep. 095 - Dating should always be done with intention and careful consideration. Dating should always work toward answering the question, "should we get married?" A successful dating relationship either moves forward toward marriage OR ends because you've discovered it's not the right thing. What questions should you ask to help you figure out if he's "the...

Send a text Ep 094 - The two of us found ourselves without children for all of our thirties. That gave us plenty of time to focus on Girl Defined Ministries and all that running a non-profit entails. The past two years changed all of that though. We both became mothers and our lives suddenly looked very different. We wondered, "How can we balance both motherhood and running a ministry?"...

Send a text Ep. 093 - This wildly popular episode is back for a much needed replay. Dr. Rosaria Butterfield was an English professor at Syracuse University, specializing in queer theory, lobbying for LGBTQ+ groups, was in a committed lesbian relationship and living the life she thought would bring her true happiness. Until the day she was confronted with the true gospel of Jesus Christ. In an effo...

Send a text Ep 092 - Does life ever seem unfair to you? Do you ever wonder why certain people seem to get an extra dose of suffering? In today's conversation with Nicole, we're going to hear one of those stories of overwhelming suffering. Nicole opens up and shares about the raw and vulnerable moments in her life. The moments she wasn't sure she'd actually make it through. The...

Send a text Ep. 091 - What is the deal with Drag Queens? It's like they've tripled in numbers over the past few years and have taken front and center on the stage. Even parents are taking their young children to hear drag queens read children's books.... and watch them twerk. This is NOT okay. Drag Queens are an insult to women and a complete mockery of God's design for womanho...

Send a text Ep. 090 - This wildly popular episode is back for a much needed replay. If you’re a girl or woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, you’re not alone. Millions of Christian women (single and married) are facing similar temptations every day. And by God’s grace, many of them are finding freedom and victory over their struggles! I (Kristen) am going to be very open and...

Send a text Ep. 089 - It's time for a VERY exciting announcement. Many of you have followed my life journey here on Girl Defined. I started out talking about singleness and how to thrive in that season of life. I then took you on my dating and engagement journey with my now husband Dav. Motherhood followed shortly after marriage and you were right there with me. Sadly, three miscarriages came...

Send a text Ep. 088 - Modesty is one of those topics that most Christians won't touch with a 10ft pole. It's controversial. It's divisive. It's confusing. It's just hard to talk about.  We get it. That's why we haven't talked about it much over the past few years either. That all changes today though. We're jumping back in the deep and going there. We'r...

Send a text Ep. 087 - You read that right. A man has been nominated for the NCAA Woman of the Year award. This is a huge honor and one any biological woman would be honored to receive. But... no. There isn't room for real women any more. Men have entered the scene and they are taking over. They are literally erasing women before our eyes. In today's show, we're discussing the sad st...

Send a text Ep. 086 - Lust isn't a guy problem. It's a human problem. That means that Christian women struggle with sexual sin as well. Yes, Christian women struggle with addiction to porn. You may find yourself viewing porn on a regular basis and wondering if it's okay. You may find yourself viewing porn and desperately wanting freedom. Maybe you're not struggling at all, but...