The Gentle Village

Jamie and Neil discuss their therapy explorations and insights and ask what makes a good and bad therapist or a mismatched therapeutic alliance?  A slightly shorter episode today to appease the ADHD among us.  Offerings: Neil has a 12 week course beginning 23rd April: Building Secure Attachments - Get in quick to learn and heal your attachment styles: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-se...

Topics we explore: The martyr / rescuer / compulsive pleaser What is healthy and even selfish generosity? Working with and integrating the inner critic Jamie's stuff: Jamie’s opening the doors to Bring It! - his teacher (preacher) training for facilitators, leaders, coaches and clowns. If you’re ready to bring your unique gifts to the world with lightness and playfulness, while making some lifelon...

What do you do when you wake up feeling blue… but life still expects you to show up strong? In this episode of The Gentle Village , we explore the emotional reality of low mornings, the vulnerability of receiving negative feedback ( including a juicy barrister story ), and the subtle ways relationships either help us grow… or slowly shrink us. We unpack the power of appreciation as a green flag ,...

Jamie and Neil discuss the nature of god as the sadist in the sky which leads us into explorations of power, privilege and exploring our choice vs vulnerability . We sit in some challenging questions about rescuing, victim and perpetrator narratives. As always we try to be in the question instead of knowing all the answers and we would love to hear your feedback. Links: Wheel of Power Ram Dass - H...

Jamie and Neil discuss issues around sex, pornography and performance anxiety - how can we be with these in relationship in the modern era, especially with the advent of AI? Offerings Jamie will be offering his world renowned course very soon - find our more and sign up here: Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people): https://www.posit...

Jamie and Neil discussed personal relationships and our feelings of unworthiness. When we reflect on our own and others' flaws can we reveal and play with our shadow aspects? How can we use games and kink to make this fun, arousing and connecting? We discuss the impact of childhood experiences and parental influences on developing beliefs about oneself. If we are able to focus on the positive aspe...

This month Jamie enters a new chapter in relating and discusses with Neil what we can do when in the dip (an ebb of tiredness, fatigue or low emotions) to manage our thoughts and emotions, without causing harm to our relationships. Neil opens by discussing a Ram Dass clip he is inspired by: The Yoga of Relationship: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0xuRbOcmQUAOxT4dsHg6sm?si=ab539ef4e403455d ------...

In this episode Jamie and Neil discuss:  Let's give ourselves the chance to get a little freaky now and then Not all about relationships this time... Musings on teaching and facilitation  Masochism in workshops vs exploring spiritually Laughter and comfort zone changes and healings Transforming neurosis Neuroplasticity  Fantasies The 10-day Vipassana Is pushing ourselves a good thing?  It’s ok to...

In this episode we chat about: Neil has just posted a whole curriculum of 'spicy' workshops that he calls CARING K1NK . You can also find Neil at Positively-Mindful Jamie is offering his world famous  Bring It  facilitator training at jamiecatto.com/bringit

In this episode both Jamie and Neil have big news about their lives and are diving deep into attachment. We discuss god and how belief can affect recovery of our trust in love, in life and in our partners. Little nuggets of Jamie and Neil wisdom lie within, we think. Neil has just posted a whole curriculum of 'spicy' workshops that he calls CARING K1NK. If you're interested to know more click here...

In this episode we summarise our own intense summers of learning, growth and processing of relationships and explore more nuggets of Jamie and Neil wisdom and mixed opinions. ------------------------------------------------------------ Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curi...

In this episode we meander between subjects including death, kink, daughters, parenting, going deeper into relationships consciousness and opportunities cloaked as disaster. Little nuggets of Jamie and Neil wisdom lie within, we think. To come to Neil's in-person workshop in Bristol: 2024: April 27th:  Blindfolded Sensation Seeking Where you'll get to experience being blindfolded for hours...

This episode is HOT! We loved to talk about desire and pleasure and we know you'll get a lot from this one. If you're interested to work with Neil or Jamie in groups or 1:1 click to connect with us. Enjoy us talking about: Losing respect for people who love us as a result of low self-esteem The power of someone believing in you Receiving love, praise and pleasure Design flaw no1. We de-val...

We are back, after a few months pause. In this episode we discuss: Learned Secure Attachment Neil's changing attachment strategies Over-Sharing vs Mutual Care Emotional dumping, lubricating with logic Speech, language our lens of awareness Deserving and privilege Helping ourselves and others from Victim mindset using tentative offerings Rupture and repair Labelling and pigeon-hole-ing Triggers...

What is a reasonable request and how do we make them? Where is the balance between expressing our feelings and needs vs controlling another's actions? We explore these questions in our conversational style as we reflect on our own relationship adventures, requests, boundaries... Some references in the podcast: - Love Languages by Gary Chapman, adapted by Neil into his 6 love languages: ⁠HEARTS...

Where is the line between healthy support and co-dependence? Can we reasonably put restrictions on our partner's behaviour? Can we expect our partners to care for us, including our own 'inner children'? How do we become a team and work together well? These are some of the questions we explore in this episode of the podcast (in rough order, so you can skip through and find them) - Dange...

Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023 In this podcast,  Jamie Catto ( Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and  Neil Morbey  (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop...

Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023 In this podcast, Jamie Catto ( Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop Facili...

Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023 In this podcast, Jamie Catto ( Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop Facili...