The Fox and the Phoenix

In this episode, Savannah regales Julie with a treacherous tale of intrigue and existential crisis that all stemmed from the want to help an up-and-coming fellow podcaster. When Savannah reads a post from a local Facebook community group in her hometown concerning another local resident looking to start an LGBT+ podcast, Savannah struggles with whether to reply privately or publicly, then struggle...

In this episode, Julie discusses with Savannah the topic of the importance of biological CIS-female friends for gender-expansive people. The conversation starts with insecurities from trolling negative comments playing a key part in taking down a social media post about the topic, followed by a multi-faceted conversation in-air about the sense of safety and belonging that biological female friends...

In this episode, Savannah shares with Julie the fact that her friends, when in town for the weekend, asked if all the male-to-female crossdressers in the room could be considered LARPers. Live Action Role Players embody fantasy and sci/fi characters of their own creation, coming together as a community to "live" out their fantasy realm in real life ... whether that be as a convention cen...

In this episode, Savannah asks Julie whether its fair that marginalized groups should need to hold themselves to a higher standard of empathy and social expectations in the face of a society that prefers to attack and marginalize those groups? In a just world, no — it is not fair. Marginalized groups should not have to hold themselves to a higher standard of empathy or moral behavior than those wh...

In this episode, Julie shares with Savannah a recent client experience that highlighted the need for the trans-expansive partner to always remember their significant one while they, themselves, are going through their own journey of discovery. Julie and Savannah discuss what its like for partners to feel left out and left behind, all the time knowing that each partner can feel seen and heard in ta...

In this episode, Julie and Savannah discuss a topic that a couple listeners and fans have been asking about ... autogynephilia. Popularized as a theory by Ray Blanchard in the 1980s and 1990s, this paraphilia is based on the idea that heterosexual transexuals want to transition to the female gender because they are aroused by the notion of being female. While this paraphilia persists even today, t...

In this episode, Julie and Savannah dig deep into the archives to read aloud a transcript that was supposed to the blogging project that they had decided to embark on. What started off as a Facebook messenger text string conversation turn website blog post did finally turn into the pivoting and pursuit of creating a more enriched podcast together. Check out our duo's more than humble beginnings! -...

In this episode, Savannah brings up the concept of defining people by a mental projection of a box with a label on it. Stemming from both a conversation with her therapist and from her TEDX Emory talk, " 13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression ", the idea that people instantly create an opinion of others based on what they know about somebody based on descriptors or how they presen...

In this episode, Savannah and Julie pull a meme from the interwebs that asks the question of whether crossing is a choice while being transgender is not a choice. Our hosts weigh in about the hardships both categories of folx endure and the efforts it takes to embody one's truest self beyond societal norms. At the end of the day, in both cases, while the pursuing one's authenticity may be a choice...

In this second of two episodes, Savannah and Julie continue to discuss the same topic! After the March excitement of the 2025 Keystone Conference in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, our cohosts delve deeper into a question that was brought up during Savannah's workshop, "Why might a cis-gender female partner think that their crossdressing counterpart is objectifying womanhood and femininity when...

In this episode, Savannah and Julie want to discuss the same topic! After the March excitement of the 2025 Keystone Conference in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, our cohosts delve deeper into a question that was brought up during Savannah's workshop, "Why might a cis-gender female partner think that their crossdressing counterpart is objectifying womanhood and femininity when they dress up as a female"?...

In this episode, Julie and Savannah discuss more in depth the event known as the 2025 Keystone Conference! From what to pack to what to see, and from where to search for your friends to where to meet new people, Julie Spills the Tea about the conference like never before! ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discove...

In this episode, Julie asks Savannah to chat about body language for the male-to-female gender expansive person. From the way we walk and talk to the way we eat and use our hands, adopting and perfecting a feminine demeanor in public is a critical component for so many of us. Also, Julie and Savannah talk about generational feminine stereotypes ands how to emulate the established feminine manneris...

In this episode, Savannah talks to Julie about the intersectionality of a crossdresser's understanding of their feminine Identity against a cosplayer's feminine presentation of a known character meant as a homage to that character. This dynamic duo gear up, set batteries to power, turbines to speed, and discuss the similarities and differences between embodying one's own inherent femin...

In this episode, Julie reads Savannah a comment from a listener who speaks to their inner feminine child, finally accepting and embracing that little girl, and vowing to walk hand in hand together as they navigate the future. Savannah and Julie discuss the fundamentals of inner chid work, the importance of professional therapy, and how that work is both similar and different from cis-folks' re...

In this episode, Savannah asks Julie to chat about what drives male-to-female crossdressers to adopt a feminine presentation. What was the spark that initially led to the first and, ultimately, ongoing experiences of femdom? Did the thoughts come from a natural subconscious space or were there extenuating circumstances that conditioned the body to use femininity as a suit of armor against certain...

In this episode, Julie talks to Savannah about the more sensory components of dressing enfemme. From the feel of silk, satin, leather, and lace, to teh compression of bodycon dresses and shapewear, to the scent of makeup and perfume, to the taste of lipgloss, and to the sound of dangling jewelry, the swish of stockings, and the click of heels, the experience of feminine dressing is a full sensory...

In this episode, Savannah asks Julie what the benefits are when a person gains self-acceptance of their gender diversity. From self-confidence to self-awareness, to a better understanding of owns moral code and a newfound capacity for empathy and compassion for others, accepting our authenticity and truth of who we are inside goes a long way to creating a more robust and resilient human being! ---...

In this episode, Savannah asks Julie the most pertinent question you can ask another human being ... 'Why'? Why do men have a need to present in a feminine way? Why must they continue to go against their masculine biology? The act of asking questions that start with 'why' tend to come across as judgmental or critical. When it comes to the art of crossdressing and of being gender di...

In this episode, Savannah reads a subReddit excerpt to Julie, outlining a Significant One's message to the group about their crossdressing partner and asking the group why he still prefers to dress in secret and in private without telling her. Why DO crossdressing men prefer to dress in private, even after their partners show them support? From shame and embarrassment, to protecting the feelin...

In this episode, Julie talks about the California LA wild fires, as well as the new Hateful Conduct policies being employed in 2025 for all META social media products. From the stripping away from hard-fought-for LGBTQIA+ community protections to the end of Facebook third-party fact checking, those in the queer community are facing some fundamental changes that require individuals to make the deci...

In this episode, Savannah reads a Quora.com posting to Julie. entitled, "For us crossdressers, would we be considered LGBTQ?". The comments to the posts ranged from a resounding "Yes!" to an absolute "No!" Savannah and Julie dig in to discuss where crossdressers belong and how, in reality, nobody can tell you who you are ... that decision is wholly reserved for you to make! Links: https://www.quor...

In this episode, Savannah tells Julie a little ole story of a heroine who saves a feminine damsel in distress when said damsel is caught at Starbucks dressed as Savannah by a patron who only knew Savannah in male-mode! Witness an avenging guardian angel who swoops in to save her from that uncomfortable situation! What happens next? Listen in to find out! ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Livin...

In this episode, Julie asks Savannah about how to find positivity in one's femininity in a time when the world seems bleak. What can be done when one loses their sparkle and the want to dress? Julie and Savannah discuss some of the ways Savannah has overcome those challenges, and offer a number of ways to stay positive, grounded, filled with gratitude, and living in the present. Show Notes:   http...

In this episode, Savannah shares her experiences with the wonderful ladies of a recent Atlanta girls' weekend. Part of what Savannah discovered was more confidence to simply be herself around others. Beyond that, she realized that oftentimes, and most amazingly, crossdressing as a woman is just only one of many colorful and delightful commonalities that sisters can share. We come for the crossdres...