Savannah Hauk, Author and Julie Rubenstein, Style Consultant

The Fox and the Phoenix

Society EN ↓ 298 episodes

Understanding the Feminine Crossdressing ExperienceTo de-mystify, humanize, and celebrate the crossdressing trans community, providing a positive and realistic understanding through conversation between a crossdresser and a cis-ally.

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Author

Savannah Hauk, Author and Julie Rubenstein, Style Consultant

Category

Society

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Latest episode

Oct 21, 2026

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Episodes

277 - Pursuit of the Perfect Woman 21.10.2026

In this episode, Julie brings Savannah all sorts of tips, tricks, and advice for how someone can find success in finding their most fierce, confident, femme self. From defining one's personal aesthetic, to mastering the craft of presentation, to protecting self peace with solid healthy boundaries, to building deep self-trust, to nourishing the body and mind, to stepping bolding into a confiden...

276 - The Cox Paradox 14.10.2026

In this episode, Savannah goes rogue again and invites friend Leigh Anne to the show to chat about their weekend in Asheville at The Odd for the Party Foul drag show, to discuss Leigh Anne's transition journey from crossdresser to womanhood, and to discuss the things that men understood about being a woman until walking an actual mile in their heels. Plus, what is the cox paradox?! Housewarmin...

275 - Now You Know! 30.09.2026

In this episode, Savannah and Julie decide to spend some time together, after 274 episodes and seven year together, to ask each other a series of questions they have never asked nor knew the answer to. From "What would your friends immediately assume you were arrested for?" to "Name your death row last meal." to "What frivolous one million dollar thing would you buy if you...

274 - Unlabeled Love: A Crossover Event 23.09.2026

In this episode, Savannah goes solo and invites Violet Lee from the Unlabeled Love podcast onto the pod for a chat about her journey as the spouse of a gender-expansive person and the decision to create a podcast with co-host McCartnie Rose that focuses on real talk about identity, connection, and acceptance where love meets lipstick. Unlabeled Love is a supportive, judgment-free podcast hosted by...

273 - The Soul Kink of Crossdressing 16.09.2026

In this episode, Julie talks to Savannah about the small percentage of male-to-female crossdressers who dress strictly for the purpose of kink. From private bedroom play to fantasy role play, from forced-feminization to sissification, from dominance to BDSM, some men who enjoy dressing in a feminine way don't need a feminine presentation or a public-facing identity ... they enjoy the thrills o...

272 - Getting Back Out There 09.09.2026

In this episode, Savannah tells Julie about her mysterious Copper River Grill server, Rose, who she mentioned a couple episodes ago. Going back to the restaurant, Savannah was finally able to connect through social media with her, opening up an impromptu opportunity to chat with Rose on DM and getting to go hang out at a local dive bar later that night with Rose, and meet her coworker, Trinity, an...

271 - The Dating Game 26.08.2026

In this episode, Savannah tells Julie the story of talking to a restaurant server as to how would they feel about dating a man who also loves to dress as a woman. The server was polite, professional, and pondering about the likelihood of compatibility with a gender-diverse person in an ongoing relationship. Savannah and Julie discuss the top ten tips for gender-diverse individuals, either newly si...

270 - Expanding Horizons 19.08.2026

In this episode, Savannah shared with Julie an impromptu decision to take herself (Savannah) out for a solo date. Savannah pushed herself outside her comfort zone and faced her own anxieties about being out in the world beyond Starbucks Sunday. Julie tells her own story of her own anxiety of opening her home to her friends and her hesitation of organizing and entertaining others. Both face their f...

269 - Fairy Tales & Cautionary Tales 12.08.2026

In this episode, Savannah talks to Julie about a comment on the "Hey Judy, The Exit Interview" podcast episode, where one listener was concerned about sharing the podcast with their wife because of Savannah and Judy's breakup after 262 episodes. What happens when you follow the public adventures of someone whose life resonates with you? What happens when that life you were following...

268 - Happy Medium 29.07.2026

In this episode, Julie talks to Savannah about how every person deserves to be 100% authentic in who they are and how to navigate a relationship where that authenticity is challenged by a partner. Whether the cis-partner is coming to terms with understanding the identity and presentation of their gender-expansive mate or setting up ground rules to limit them so a level of comfortability is achieve...

267 - Smarty Pants 22.07.2026

In this episode, Savannah asks Julie the question, "Why do women get to wear pants and men don't get to wear skirts?" In Western Culture, the idea of men wearing feminine clothes is considered outlandish and fetishistic, while women wearing pants or more masculine articles of clothing is normalized and not seen as out of place. From the necessary changing fashion styles as humans fou...

266 - You Got The Look 15.07.2026

In this episode, Julie talks to Savannah about how best to find how your look in photography. From glamour girls to goth goddess to girl next door, we all have a vive we are looking to embody. How do we bring that to life? Julie gives tips and tricks for how best to take selfies, from body posing to tilts of the head to lighting. All of it helps to make any figure softer and more feminine. ----- S...

265 - Girl Talk 08.07.2026

In this episode, Savannah chats to Julie about the power of girl talk, especially as it relates to the strong bond between girls like Savannah and the vulnerable and deep conversations that results through and with those that share similar experiences and personal journeys and self-assessments over the years. It creates a lovely shorthand that allows those in the sisterhood a way to connect and co...

264 - Mirror, Mirror (part 2) 24.06.2026

In this second of two episodes, Julie chats with Savannah about the profound "first time" that one sees their true femme self in the mirror... that first fateful time when the reflection in the mirror stops being just a biological male and starts being the more authentic and grounded female spirit. Julie and Savannah read listener letters and comment about how often there are commonaliti...

263 - Mirror, Mirror (part 1) 17.06.2026

In this first of two episodes, Julie chats with Savannah about the profound "first time" that one sees their true femme self in the mirror... that first fateful time when the reflection in the mirror stops being just a biological male and starts being the more authentic and grounded female spirit. Julie and Savannah read listener letters and comment about how often there are commonalitie...

262 - Fraud and Failure 10.06.2026

In this episode, Savannah discussed with Julie the struggles she is experiencing in the aftermath of her breakup with her long-time partner, Judy (as revealed in ep 261). In light of the breakup, Savannah worries that she is not as credible as she should be because as an author, advocate, podcaster, and speaker, she should have been able to make the relationship work. The discussion goes into the...

261 - Hey Judy! The Exit Interviews 27.05.2026

In this episode, both Savannah and Julie separately interview Judy. In these interviews, they discuss the trials and tribulations , the ups and downs of being in a long-term relationship with a crossdresser and gender-expansive person. And while love was always present, the drive in syncing with a person of this breed is sometimes not enough to keep the relationship together. So, in this way, Judy...

260 - In The Family Way 20.05.2026

In this episode, Savannah lets Julie in on a little secret. That admission involves revealing herself to more members of her immediate family through a text chat. Stemming from a sad and regretful remembrance on the anniversary of Savannah's father's passing, Savannah decided afterward to reveal herself to sisters and nieces and nephews that there was more to Chuck than just Chuck. Savanna...

259 - Bimbification 13.05.2026

In this episode, Julie asks Savannah to talk about the probably-already-cooling news about Bryon Noem, the husband of the former Director of Homeland Security, Kristi Noem. Bryon was outed by leaked photographs of him wearing a massive breast form and pink hot pants as he paid to converse with online personalities who also had exaggerated feminine features. What happens when a political figure who...

258 - I Wish I Would Have Known 29.04.2026

In this episode, Savannah asks Julie one of the most foundational questions people in the queer community tend to hear or strive to find an answer to, "I wish someone would have told me...". From the fact that our younger selves would rarely listen to advice from the future because they would not have the world experience to understand the advice or warnings, to using that understanding gained thr...

257 - Do You Validate? 22.04.2026

In this episode, Julie talks to Savannah about social media and its effects on how we, as gender-expansive people, use the digital platforms as a benchmark to find external validation. From the cycling of posting and the wait for the dopamine high, to dressing for performance versus authenticity, to looking for external reactions versus just dressing for one's own sake, to using social media as a...

256 - Integration Testing 15.04.2026

In this episode, Savannah lets Julie in on a bit of an experiment... one where Savannah has been testing to see at what point of her presentation she feels complete in her feminine persona. Does Savannah only come out when the wig is finally donned? When undressing, at what point does Savannah disappear and Chuck returns? If Chuck and Savannah are integrated from a mental perspective, why is there...

255 - To Keystone and Back: A Podcasters' Tale 08.04.2026

In this episode, Savannah and Julie regal the listeners with another riveting tale of danger and adventure, of heart ache and heart's song, of sleepless days and endless nights, of red eye flights and the meowing of cats. Savannah and Julie retell their adventures attending this year's Keystone Conference in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossd...

254 - Better Than Average 25.03.2026

In this episode, Savannah shares a reel from Instagram with Julie, forwarded to Savannah by a close friend of the podcast. In the reel, the influencer talks about how most human beings are simply ordinary and average in their looks. Sure, there are some wh might be considered as fugly and others who seemed to have achieved Adonis and super-model status. Yet, the vast majority of people live somewh...

253 - Things They Didn't Tell Me (part 2) 18.03.2026

In this second of two episodes, Julie and Savannah read your listener letters! This time, Julie reached out and asked the question, "What didn't you know about or what didn't THEY tell you?" before or as you embarked on their transgender journey. From the difficulties of dating in a post-transition world, to the switch from clothing being euphoric to the transition being euphoric...

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