The Enneagram Edge with Host Tracy O’Malley

Your Enneagram wings are like the bookends that hold together the core of who you truly are, reflecting the Divine's design for you — before the world came and kicked you in the teeth. That's right! But so many people get it wrong. Sometimes people say they are something like a 3w4 or a 5w6. But that's different from how it works. In addition to your core type, your wings are essential to the Enne...

It can be difficult for couples and business partners to stay on the same team, even when they're committed to each other. Often, as time passes, unspoken fears and anxieties build up, leading to unresolved resentment. You try to be compassionate and understand where your partner is coming from but that can be difficult when it feels like they aren't respecting your needs or understanding your fea...

"The best leaders are willing not just to have the hard conversations but navigate them elegantly." Difficult discussions are necessary for working well with others, but some people find it easier to have hard conversations than others. However, even though someone may be more assertive or unafraid of conflict, they may still need to be more effective in these conversations. But avoiding challengi...

Have you ever felt like you're constantly striving to check off boxes in your personal development journey? Do you find yourself thinking, "When I do this, when I have that, or when I go here, then I'll be happy and fulfilled?" When it comes to personal development, we can become fixated on achieving certain milestones, as if they will provide us with the ultimate sense of fulfillment and happines...

Are you in a rut? As we reach the midpoint of February, it's common to feel the weight of our unfulfilled goals for the new year. You might feel shame, fear, or anxiety, thinking you've fallen short. And the next thing you know, you're in a slump, which can feel very dark and lonely. But as humans, we all get into a rut. And for each of you, depending on your Enneagram type, that rut looks a littl...

What if you knew THE five words that were precisely what somebody you love needs to hear to feel your love? You would probably go out of your way to make sure they heard them from you, wouldn't you? Today is Valentine's Day, and I know we often think of it as a day for romance, but love encompasses all forms of relationships, including romantic, familial, and friendship. So, today, on "Lead With T...

"You approach sex from your viewpoint based on your Enneagram type. And where things go sideways is most of the time, we expect our partners to share our perspective and our views." But there are nine basic ways to view sex, and none is wrong! Understanding this can help you accept not only your approach to sex but can also help you accept the intimate perspectives of the partner you share a life...

"The Enneagram framework can be a tool that allows you to see through your romantic partner's lens. It's like the love languages on steroids." Love makes the world go round, and we're in the month of love. The truth is we're all here to connect, and one of the most profound ways we do that is through our romantic partnerships. But love can be hard to define because it means different things to dif...

You've probably heard the term relationship capital. It's the trust between two people that starts small and grows over time and leads to the types of relationships you've desired, dreamed about, and deserve. But what's the secret sauce to increasing the relationship capital in ALL areas of your life? You are! The truth is the more authentic you are, the more you attract the right people into your...

Have you set a personal growth goal, but you're having difficulty reaching it? The truth is, if you're trying to hit a target, you must know which target you're aiming for. We all want to improve our relationships, careers, and personal lives, but we often only make changes when things are seriously wrong, or the benefits are clear. The Enneagram is a valuable tool for personal growth but knowing...

Most of us are wearing many hats. We're parents and partners, we have our careers and great friendships we want to maintain, and we want growth in all of it while having time to stretch and grow in our own self-awareness. It. Can. Be. A. Lot. And things can start to pile up as we strive to balance our multiple roles and responsibilities, especially when we feel like we're all over the place or liv...

I resisted putting the word Enneagram in the title of this podcast because I like flying under the radar. But I want to make a bigger impact in 2023, so I changed the name to ‘Lead with the Enneagram.’ And just as I anticipated, the haters showed up on Day One. As an Enneagram 8, my first instinct was to fight. But because I spent the last decade integrating the Enneagram into my life, I made a di...

We all need support. But we may not know exactly what we need or how to ask for help. Whether you’re hiring support staff for your team or building new friendships, surrounding yourself with the right people is key to growth. And knowing your Enneagram type can help you choose the right people. On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain why certain tasks come easier for certain Enneagra...

Most of us believe that we are skilled critical thinkers. But if we’re being honest, we’re often reacting rather than responding. Leading by default, not by design. Allowing our past trauma or a belief system that no longer serves us to call the shots. So, how do you know when you’re seeing clearly and when you’re having a breakdown in critical thinking? And how can you use the Enneagram to improv...

"The best way to lead others is to be able to lead yourself effectively. And next level leadership is understanding yourself and the other person at the same time." We all love the perks of leading a team. But there's a catch. Each group we’re a part of is comprised of a diverse range of Enneagram types, each with their own instinctual response to life. And that's great because each Enneagram type...

15 years ago, I thought I was really self-aware. I saw myself clearly and understood how my experiences shaped my behavior. But in truth, I wasn’t nearly as self-aware as I thought. And the Enneagram showed me what I was missing. It helped me take my emotional intelligence to the next level. On this episode of Lead with the Enneagram, I explain how true self-awareness comes from understanding how...

"You can't have all the great parts of your life without polarity; you have to have some contrast. Sometimes the hard things, the endings of things, or the rejuvenation of partnerships is exactly the thing that needs to happen." Often, the holiday season brings up many of the cracks in the foundation of the most significant partnerships in your life, whether family, romantic, or even business part...

When I started this podcast 3 years ago, I was almost afraid to plant my flag as the go-to expert on the Enneagram. But NOT ANYMORE! Today, we're ushering in the new year, celebrating the show's third anniversary, and launching into all of it with a BRAND NEW name for the podcast—Leading with the Enneagram. But before we can venture ahead, we're going to take a little trek back. Today, I'm sharing...

Recently, we celebrated my daughter’s 26th birthday. We have a tradition where I make her a special cake each year. As an Enneagram 7, she doesn’t go for your everyday average birthday cake. She likes things more unique than that. So, with hours of watching baking show in my arsenal, I set out to make her a grand, unique cake worthy of her Enneagram 7ness. But, as I got deep into the assembly, the...

Here we are, about to kick 2022 to the curb. This is the time of year when we get obsessive. We've galloped through the holidays, and now we're looking toward the next thing—a new calendar filled with blank pages just waiting for us to write the story of 2023. As you're taking stock of all that 2022 was (or wasn't—I can relate), you might be itching to map out your new year or depending on your En...

Those inching closer to a big birthday can often struggle as they shoot toward a new decade—especially those in their late 20s reaching for their 30s while questioning where they are in their lives. My daughter Kasey is no stranger to this feeling, as she's turning 26 TODAY. Happy Birthday! It's been my tradition since I've been doing the Leadership Formula podcast to invite her onto the show to s...

There's a lot of controversy around people of faith using a tool like the Enneagram. But many religious leaders are becoming more open to the teachings of the Enneagram and how this tool (when properly used) can help you stay rooted in your faith. Some pastors are now even teaching the Enneagram. Fifteen years ago, my life was tough and I felt like everything was unfair, making it hard to trust th...

"Codependency is one of the hardest things to break even professionally." One of the things that comes up a lot when I am coaching is an admission of feeling responsible for other people's feelings. And that can sneak right in no matter which Enneagram Type you are. But allowing that into any relationship can create an element of inauthenticity and, worse, codependency. And when you feel it is you...

Episode 300! Can you believe it? I couldn't have reached 300 episodes without your belief in what I'm sharing with you and, by extension, your sharing with others. The fact that you choose to spend time listening to me means a lot to me, and I'm passionate about sharing the tools of the Enneagram with you to help you improve and thrive in ALL five areas of your life. Today, on The Leadership Formu...

"We were all designed with a unique, beautiful calling on our life with a unique personality and disposition. But if you're feeling blah, or like, you're not stepping into that version of yourself that you know is inside you, or you're not feeling fulfilled, you're stuck." 2022 is going to be ending soon. Having just experienced the BEST year of your life, you may be closing the calendar in wonder...