The Encourage Over Everything Show

You meant it when you said it. You were excited. You worked hard for it. But now that you’ve lived with the decision, you want something different. Friend, we don’t need Maury to confirm your original enthusiasm was real. 😂 You know more now—and that gets to matter. If changing your mind leaves you feeling guilty, ungrateful, or worried you’ve wasted your investment, this conversation will help y...

You’ll research the tickets, rearrange the schedule, and find a way for somebody you love. But something you want gets “No time. No money. Never mind”—before you even check what’s possible. Welp, that was a short meeting. 😂 If you keep talking yourself out of things you want, we're getting underneath that automatic dismissal: self-sacrifice, fear of disappointment, and the guilt of giving yoursel...

An old song comes on, and there she is—the woman who danced, laughed with her whole body, and had something she was excited to do. You miss her. But do you really want the club days back—or just the freedom you felt? Friend, we can keep the dancing and retire the next-morning investigation. 😂😂 If you’ve been feeling lost or wondering how to feel like yourself again, this conversation will help y...

You’ve built a life you once prayed for—so why does it still feel like an audition? Friend, you can’t even enjoy the vacation without explaining how hard you worked to earn it. Every accomplishment comes with another assignment, and you’re preparing a defense for criticism nobody has even made. Whew. When do you get to enjoy being you? We’re getting into the pressure to keep proving yourself, why...

Some things get heavy because you’ve been carrying them without telling anyone what’s really going on. You can handle business, laugh in the group chat and say “I’m good”—then feel the full weight of it all when the house gets quiet. Let’s make room for the version of you who hasn’t found the lesson or figured out what comes next. We talk about why the dependable one can feel she has nowhere to be...

You can get eight hours of sleep, sit down, take the break—and still feel completely wrecked when your mind never actually clocks out. We’re getting into the mental load behind that exhaustion: the open tabs, overthinking, unfinished decisions, old conversations and tomorrow’s problems trying to get on today’s agenda. Because sometimes your surroundings change, but your brain brought the luggage....

There’s a special kind of exhaustion in knowing everybody you love by heart while feeling like they need step-by-step instructions to know you. We’re talking about why “Just tell me what you need” can feel like one more thing to manage—and why receiving the care you’ve wanted can feel just as uncomfortable as asking for it. WE GET INTO: Wanting to be considered, not simply helped Asking once versu...

Ever have a day when every inconvenience starts feeling personal—and even the door handle is testing you? 😂 After back-to-back hard moments and hours of tech problems, I was at a solid 9. The frustration was real, but I knew letting it spill onto everyone around me wouldn’t make anything better. So, we’re talking about how to manage overwhelming emotions without denying, suppressing or letting th...

You know everybody’s favorite meal, backup meal, shoe size, allergies, schedule—and exactly who will need a poster board at 9:47 p.m. But when somebody asks what you want? Cue the Jeopardy music. We’re talking about what reading the room can cost you when everybody else’s feelings, preferences and possible reactions keep arriving before your own answer. Because you may not be indecisive, friend. Y...

You handle the responsibilities. Keep the commitments. Consider everybody else's needs. But when it comes to something you want? Suddenly, everything is negotiable. We're talking about how easy it is to become optional in your own life—not because you stopped caring about yourself, but because somewhere along the way, you stopped being intentional about including yourself. I'm sharing how I protec...

There will always be a perfectly reasonable reason to wait—more money, more time, less responsibility, the right relationship, or simply a season when life isn't quite so LIFE-Y. But when does waiting become a pattern of always putting yourself last? So, I'm taking you back to the solo trip that changed the way I experienced my own life. I still wanted love, partnership, and those romantic weekend...

You can love somebody deeply without taking responsibility for their choices, emotions, healing, consequences, or growth. But when you’re the dependable one—the fixer, helper, problem-solver, and person everybody calls—it can be hard to know where supporting someone ends and carrying them begins. We’re talking about emotional boundaries, over-functioning, people-pleasing, and why constantly fixing...

You know something doesn’t feel right anymore…but you have absolutely no idea what you’re supposed to do about it. And suddenly your mind wants answers to EVERYTHING. Okay, but then what is right? What are you going to do? What happens next? What if you regret it? Ma’am. 😂 In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between not knowing what comes next and not knowing anything at all. Beca...

What if nothing is terribly wrong with your life…and you still want something else? The job is fine. The relationship may be good. You’ve built things you once prayed for, worked for, and genuinely wanted. And yet something inside you keeps whispering: “Is there another menu?” 😂 Friend, wanting something different doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful or the old dream was wrong. And it certainly doesn’t...

Before you spin the block, friend…be honest about what you’re actually going back to. 😂 Because enough time can turn your memory into a highly skilled video editor—cutting out the arguments, loneliness, broken promises, and all the moments you knew something wasn’t right while playing a highlight reel of the good times. And suddenly you’re thinking, “Maybe it wasn’t that bad.” But missing someone...

What happens when you finally choose what feels right for you…and someone you love doesn’t like it? Maybe they’re disappointed. They question your decision. The relationship changes. And suddenly, the guilt, people-pleasing, and self-doubt kick in: Maybe they’re right. Maybe I’m being selfish. Maybe I should just go back. Friend, this is where self-trust and self-leadership get real. We’re talking...

You keep saying it doesn’t bother you—but you’ve replayed the conversation, swallowed your feelings, and found another reason to excuse what happened. Sometimes keeping the peace only keeps everyone else comfortable while you quietly carry the hurt. We talk about what pretending does to your relationship with yourself, why understanding someone’s past doesn’t remove their responsibility for their...

Sometimes you’re not confused. You’re afraid of what knowing will require you to do. Because as long as you “don’t know,” you don’t have to make the decision, set the boundary, leave the relationship, change careers, admit you want more—or face what comes next. But friend, sometimes clarity shows up with an invoice…and action is due upon receipt. 😂 We’re talking about self-trust, self-leadership,...

What if where you are right now isn’t proof that your dream isn’t happening? When the career hasn’t moved, love is taking the scenic route, the plan falls apart, or you’ve been waiting longer than you ever expected, it’s easy to turn “it hasn’t happened yet” into “it’s never going to happen.” Friend, those are two very different things. In this episode, we’re talking about self-leadership, self-tr...

Friend, I know you can handle it. That’s not the question. The question is: why are you? When you’ve spent years being the strong one, the dependable one, the responsible one, and the woman everybody calls when something goes wrong, it’s easy to confuse “I can handle this” with “this belongs to me.” And those are two very different things. So, we’re talking about self-leadership, setting boundarie...

What are you waiting for permission to do? Change your mind? Want something different? Choose yourself? Make the move before everybody understands it? Sometimes we think we’re gathering more information, getting another perspective, or seeking wise counsel when deep down, we already know—we’re just waiting for everyone else to agree. We’re talking about self-leadership, self-trust, decision-making...

Have you ever noticed that the promises you make to everybody else become appointments, but the promises you make to yourself somehow become suggestions? You’ll show up for the meeting. Get the kids where they need to go. Answer the emergency call. Handle the deadline. But when it comes to you? You start negotiating harder than an Agent during the NBA trade deadline. Saying things like: I’ll final...

You've Been Outsourcing Your Own Leadership If you've ever asked "What do you think I should do?" way more than you've asked yourself — texted your best friend, then your sister, then your coworker, then somehow ended up on TikTok taking advice from a complete stranger — friend, this episode is for you. We're talking about self-leadership. Not the kind that comes with a title. The kind every woman...

You know that Yosemite Sam moment — face red, stomping around, hooting and hollering, wearing yourself completely out and never actually getting what you were aiming for? That's unprocessed anger. And if you've ever been tagged the angry one who goes zero to 100, or you're over here as the calm, non-confrontational one who swallows it until it explodes six weeks later — this episode is for you. To...

Overthinking But You’re the X Factor | Stop Overthinking and Trust Yourself Do you struggle with overthinking every decision, big or small? In this episode, we’re breaking down why overthinking isn’t really about finding the right answer — it’s about control. If you find yourself spiraling before every decision, replaying conversations that haven’t even happened, or asking everyone’s opinion excep...