The Empowering Parents Podcast - Child Behavior Help The Total Transformation Way

You hear that you should let your child face natural consequences, but what exactly does this mean? Many parents struggle with this concept because they don’t fully understand what constitutes a “natural” consequence. And sometimes parents have difficulty relinquishing control because they feel they always have to get their child to obey. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparen...

A major cause of behavior problems is the inability of a child to handle life’s basic problems. So how do our kids acquire these essential life skills? Here's what you can do if you are dealing with today's smart but helpless kids. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/smart-but-helpless-kids-can-your-child-make-it-in-the-real-world/ The Total Transformation® Pr...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is the 7th and final segment of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James continues to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweri...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 6 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James continues to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/produ...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 5 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James continues to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/produ...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 4 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James begins to discuss in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 3 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James discusses the important concept of the "good enough" parent. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is part 2 of our free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. In this episode, James discusses the issues of self-esteem, learning disabilities, and other special challenges that are often used to excuse abusive and obnoxious behaviors in our kids. The Total Transforma...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. This is a free preview of Lesson 1 of The Total Transformation Program. You won't want to miss this. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsl...

Some kids act out by giving us the silent treatment. The silent treatment gives your child a feeling of power and control over you, and it’s how they push your buttons and get you to leave them alone. To us parents, it can be frustrating and hurtful. And for kids, it's a destructive way to learn to manage relationships. Here's what you can do as a parent if your child is giving you the silent trea...

Anger is a normal emotion in kids and adults alike. But how we express and deal with our feelings of anger is the difference between living in relative peace and feeling like we are at our wits’ end. Here are 10 essential rules for handling an angry child. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/angry-child-outbursts-the-10-rules-of-dealing-with-an-angry-child/ Th...

Consequences are important, but you need to know how to use them effectively. Kimball shares tips for listeners. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-give-kids-consequences-that-work/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subs...

Is your child’s answer to everything, “I don’t care” or “It doesn’t matter?” Parents often think that if they can find a new way to encourage their child, he or she will magically start achieving more. I don’t think it’s like that at all. I think the problem is that these kids are motivated to resist, to withdraw, and to underperform. They act out by acting in. Here's what you can do as a parent i...

Do you have a picture of what the holidays should look like? Most of us do whether we admit it or not. And when the reality doesn’t match the expectation you have in your head, it feels awful. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/9-ways-to-get-through-the-holidays-with-a-defiant-child/ The Total Transformation® Program: https...

Do you have an ODD child or teen who constantly argues and fights your authority, refusing to follow the rules of your home? When the number for their school shows up on your caller ID, do you cringe in fear of what trouble they’re in now? Believe it or not, some definite strengths go hand-in-hand with that challenging ODD personality. We will show you how to see your child through a different len...

Has your child been caught stealing from you or someone else? Have you found them using your credit card for online gaming, taking money from your wallet without asking, or even taking big-ticket items from your house? If so, this is the episode for you. ADDED BONUS: listen to a sample of The Total Transformation Program with James Lehman. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringpare...

Countless parents write to Empowering Parents and say, “I don’t know how to make my child behave. He’s out of control, and people blame me for his behavior. I feel guilty and ashamed most of the time and very alone. It’s the worst feeling in the world.” Here's what you can do to let go of your parenting guilt and parent more effectively. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparent...

The title says it all: here's how to manage tantrums, misbehavior, and meltdowns during this holiday season. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-manage-tantrums-misbehavior-and-meltdowns-during-the-holidays/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.em...

Every parent’s goal should be to teach and coach their child to better behavior. And the most effective way to change your child’s behavior—and assert your parental authority—is through clear and consistent consequences that are tied to that behavior. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.emp...

Does your child always insist that they’re right and everyone else is wrong? Some kids have a bad habit of asserting their opinions by drowning out everyone else in the room—regardless of whether or not they know what they’re talking about. Understandably, this overbearing behavior can be very annoying and frustrating for both parents and family members alike. Articles referenced in episode: https...

Sometimes you have to let your child fail. Parents often do their kids a disservice when they protect them from natural consequences when they take over for their kids to ensure that their kids don’t fail. While it’s natural for parents to worry about failure, there are times when it can be productive for kids—and a chance for kids to change for the better. Articles referenced in episode: https://...

For many parents, the peace of a child-free home is short-lived, if it even happens at all. At EmpoweringParents.com, we hear from many parents whose children either never left home or returned after a brief experiment with the adult world. This podcast discusses setting up a living agreement with your adult child living at home. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ar...

If your kids are like most, they are masterful at finding creative ways to wear you down to get their way. You might think, “My child is just too smart for his own good!” Listen for some great tips on how to deal with a manipulative child. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/manipulative-child-behavior-my-kids-are-too-smart-for-their-own-good The Calm Parent A...

When children use anger to get what they want, it can feel for all the world like they’re pointing a loaded weapon at you. As a parent, you dread the ugly and sometimes violent emotional outbursts that come with this type of behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/anger-as-a-weapon-when-your-child-points-the-gun-at-you/ The Total Transformation® Program:...

Kids learn at a very early age that if they get angry and act out—or threaten to do so—the people around them will give in. In effect, they’ve learned how to blackmail their parents to give them what they want. A child who uses anger with an angle looks like they’re losing control. But in reality, they’re using anger to gain control of their parents and the situation. The anger gets them what they...