The Empowering Parents Podcast - Child Behavior Help The Total Transformation Way

James Lehman discusses how kids reject positive role models but willingly accept negative ones. He also discusses our kids' wishful thinking and how they try to put things off long enough that you, as a parent, just give up asking them to do things. Plus, James discusses several other characteristics of kids with defiant and abusive behaviors. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empower...

James Lehman continues to discuss characteristics of kids with abusive and defiant behaviors. In this episode he discusses concrete transactions, pride in negativity, anger with an angle, one-way training, and other concepts. There's so much to learn in this episode. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website:...

James discusses in-depth the characteristics and practices of kids with obnoxious and abusive behaviors. He explains the fallacy of victimhood, injustice, uniqueness, and what he calls one-way boundaries. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the important concept of the "good enough" parent. You don't need to be perfect, good enough is good enough. This is a critical concept for parents to understand when dealing with the most challenging child behavior problems. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://ww...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the myths about self-esteem and your child's behavior. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/low-self-esteem-in-kids-part-i-forget-what-youve-heard-its-a-myth/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subsc...

Listen to James Lehman discuss the real reasons for abusive, obnoxious, and defiant behaviors in your child. The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: https://www.empoweringparents.com/ Subscribe to our newsletter: https://www.empoweringparents.com/newsletter-signup/ Parent coaching: https://www.empoweringpa...

Parents who are going through a separation or divorce, or have already been through one, should be aware of the issues it may cause with their child’s behavior. Their child may withdraw. They may have frequent angry outbursts. Schoolwork may suffer. And teens, especially, may begin to take part in risky behaviors, such as drug and alcohol use. Understanding these problems and having effective tool...

When we hold our kids accountable, they learn to take responsibility for their actions. They also learn to think before they act. Here's how to create a culture of accountability in your home starting today. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-create-a-culture-of-accountability-in-your-home/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparen...

The morning routine is tough on a lot of families. If you’re struggling to get your kids off to school each day, you are not alone. At Empowering Parents, we hear this every day from parents just like you. Morning arguments, battles of will, and power struggles happen for families every day. The good news is that you can turn your mornings around. And although your kids may not thank you for it, e...

Parents don’t want to admit an ugly truth—that sometimes they don’t like their child. If you feel this way and are scared, it’s okay. Parenting is challenging and often emotional, especially when our kids are defiant, disrespectful, or not who we wanted them to be. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/calm-parenting-what-to-do-when-you-dislike-your-child/ The T...

Guilt and parenthood seem to go together. Maybe you lost control and screamed at your child today. Perhaps you blame yourself for your child's behavior. But know that no parent is perfect—and that's okay. Forgive yourself today for these six parenting mistakes and move forward with a fresh perspective. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/perfect-parents-dont-e...

Does your child mock or make fun of you? Mocking, imitating, and laughing at parents can be harmless fun, but it can also become an annoying behavior that undermines your authority. Here's what you can do as a parent. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-who-mock-imitate-and-make-fun-of-parents/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringpare...

We all experience anger (road rage, anyone?), but there’s a difference between punching a hole in a wall and counting to ten to calm down. As adults, we know the difference. Kids, on the other hand, need a little extra help. In this episode, we discuss the problem solving skills your child needs for good behavior. Added bonus: an audio clip from James Lehman in The Total Transformation Program. Ar...

Tired of arguing and debating the household rules with your child? Here's a tip: explain yourself once and move on. You usually can’t end an argument—or make a child do something—by trying to make them understand and agree with you. Parents can spend a lot of time and energy trying to make a child accept their logic. And it’s just not going to happen. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.em...

Even before you become a parent, you start forming ideas about how you’ll raise your child. You get advice about it from all sides—your own parents and family, your friends, and books by so-called experts tell you “the rules” of good parenting. But most people soon find out that some of these techniques are simply fads—and many of them don’t work at all. Articles referenced in episode: https://www...

Once you let go of trying to control your defiant child’s behavior and choices, you actually gain much more power. Putting energy into what you can control leaves you feeling empowered, confident, and stronger. Here's how. Article referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/your-defiant-childs-behavior-5-things-you-can-and-cant-control-as-a-parent/ The Total Transformation® Pr...

Have you found yourself asking the question, “Why is my child always so angry at me?” Do you feel like your adolescent surrounds himself or herself with a force field of anger and hostility? In this episode, we discuss child and teen anger and what you can do about it. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/why-is-my-teen-child-so-angry/ The Total Transformation®...

Some degree of backtalk is normal for adolescents and teens—it’s how they learn to assert themselves and become independent. But too often, they don’t assert themselves appropriately, and their backtalk becomes disrespectful and obnoxious. At this point, parents need to take action for their own sanity and for the sake of their kids, who need to learn to assert themselves appropriately to become w...

Once our children reach adulthood, their behavior patterns are very set. As a result, you need to know that adult children living at home won’t learn new behavior patterns unless they’re forced to. If you or someone you know is struggling with an older child living at home, this podcast is for you. Article referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/rules-boundaries-and-older-...

Focus on your child's behavior, not his — or your — feelings. Personalizing inappropriate behavior often leads to fighting with your children, with nothing to be gained. Here's how to do that effectively. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/disrespectful-child-behavior-dont-take-it-personally/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.co...

Blaming yourself for your child's behavior makes you feel terrible, and it doesn't help your child. A better approach is to focus on holding your child accountable. Here's how. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/parenting-truth-you-are-not-to-blame-for-your-childs-behavior/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-tra...

How can you stop all the over-negotiating and over-explaining as a parent and get your child to accept ‘no’ for an answer? Try these seven practical tips. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/no-means-no-how-to-teach-your-child-that-you-mean-business/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subsc...

Punching holes in the wall. Breaking and throwing things. Smashing your car’s windshield. Most of us never expect to face these behaviors from our children, but it happens all too often with defiant children. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/defiant-child-damaging-property/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-t...

Is disrespect a problem in your home? Here are 9 things you can do as a parent today to start getting respect back from your kids. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/do-your-kids-respect-you-9-ways-to-change-their-attitude/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-subscription/ Our website: http...

Does your child ignore every consequence you give him? In this episode, we discuss 10 specific ways to make consequences work—even for the most resistant child. Articles referenced in episode: https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/kids-who-ignore-consequences-10-ways-to-make-them-stick/ The Total Transformation® Program: https://www.empoweringparents.com/product/total-transformation-program-su...