The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Being pregnant is vulnerable. When you're getting ready to welcome a baby, you want to feel secure about your future, to know that you're loved and desired, that you'll be protected and taken care of. So it's an especially scary time to feel rejected. Pregnancy messes with your body so much that it can also feel like you're not very attractive. Then if he's less physically affectionate, you could...

A coach recently shared with me that she decided to become a coach even though she didn't love her husband because she wanted to be kinder. She was actually guarded against falling back in love. Then she spent a year becoming an expert on the 6 Intimacy Skills, practicing them at the highest level with her classmates. She surprised herself and did start to notice what a great man she had married d...

It feels terrible when the guy who used to trip over himself trying to help you is now interested only in staring at his phone or staying at work all the time. What a disappointment. Especially when you have so much to do and so many responsibilities because you set out to be partners but now he isn't doing much to contribute. Why isn't he supporting you and what can you do about it? On today's ep...

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what to do when you find yourself thinking, "Hey, my husband and I have nothing to talk about." Because nothing feels lonelier than being married and just eating together in silence or living under the same roof but never having the deep conversations you're craving. I'll share 3 doable ways you can both become great conversatio...

It feels so rejecting when you find out your guy doesn't love you back, like you've been let down in the worst way when you least expected it. Your head races with terrible thoughts about how this could have happened, whether it's hopeless, and what it means for your future, which can seem so dark. Does it mean you're not lovable? I have proof it does not. And if what you want is for him to respon...

If you are trying to practice the 6 Intimacy Skills™ in your relationship and it feels like they're not working or you can't remember to do them or you're not sure how to do them in your situation, that's so frustrating and discouraging! You are not the only one. On this podcast, I interview women who have had success transforming their marriages because I want to talk about what's possible for yo...

It feels really bad when your husband doesn't care about your needs, even when you tell him over and over. But what if it's not that he doesn't care but that you haven't been well trained on how to communicate your needs in your relationship, just like I wasn't? I was a communications major in college, so I thought I was really good at communicating. I knew what I needed and wasn't afraid to say i...

Men are highly motivated to make their wives happy. Notice I didn't say "some men" or "most men" but just "men." That's because in my research where I asked thousands of men how important it is that their wife is happy, they ALL said the same thing. That it's the most important thing, everything, it's of utmost importance, or in the UK, they said it's imperative. In other words, they all wanted to...

It's terrible to feel like you can't trust the man you married, whether you don't trust him to be faithful, to take care of the kids, or to be responsible with money. It just feels bad. You don't feel heard because if he cared, he would listen to your concerns and try to support you by doing the things you want him to do so that you could trust him. That's depressing because if you can't get him t...

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to live with an addict. My guest Karyn was devastated by her husband's addictions to porn, alcohol, drugs and gambling. When she tried to address those issues, he responded with rage. She realized that wasn't working and learned a whole new approach to communicating her needs, and today she feels beyond blessed to laugh and...

I was the perfect wife. Right up until I actually got married. That's when it all went kablooey.  I worked so hard as a wife that I gave myself at least a nine out of ten. But I wasn't scoring so high on the wife scale with John. That's because I was actually an overbearing, prickly porcupine wife who thought she knew better than him about everything. My criteria of what made me good wife material...

There's no worse feeling than discovering your worst fear has come true and that the man you promised to love, honor and cherish has done the unspeakable. It's crushing. If most people knew what he did, they would tell you "He doesn't deserve you." Which feels validating because what he did was low and wrong, and you don't deserve that. But no one else can decide for you what's best for you. Women...

My guest Robyn was doing life by herself, lonely and disconnected from her emotionally unavailable husband. But then she did something that made her stop crying and made the arguments stop. Today she feels cherished and is her husband's "chooky" again. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too! On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about the secrets of ma...

For years, my guest Tilly's husband threatened her with divorce. They argued constantly and she was living in fear. Then she started doing some experiments, and the results were so positive that she says she has no fear because her marriage is now peaceful and strong. She's going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.  On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about w...

My guest Anne was separated for over two years, and her husband started seeing another woman. When Anne started with the Intimacy Skills, he responded very negatively. But today their marriage is passionate, loving, romantic, fun, goofy, supportive and better than ever. How did she do it? She's going to tell us so you can do it too! Download the FREE Adored Wife Roadmap now and start transforming...

Looking for a good marriage support group is so smart because we humans are social creatures who tend to do what we see others doing. If someone you know is getting divorced, that puts pressure on your relationship. But if you're spending time with people who are not only staying married but also talking about how they're improving their marriages, even if they're facing big challenges, that stren...

If you're trying to fathom how you could ever rebuild the trust in your marriage, it means you've had it broken in a big way. That's so painful and scary because it seems permanent! If he let you down, you may feel like you'd be a sucker to trust him again. Whether he lied, cheated or spent money recklessly, it's completely natural to feel like vigilance, not trust, would be the smarter route.  Or...

If you and I have been hanging out together for a while on this podcast, then you already know how I feel now about marriage canceling, I mean marriage counseling. So don't even get me started! Who even approved this topic for the podcast anyway? But there is one very specific kind of marriage counseling that I believe can help, which I'll tell you about. If you're wondering whether marriage couns...

I'm on a mission to end world divorce and know that you're with me! Now imagine how great it will be when the social norm is that couples stay together. I don't mean they suck it up and stay together in separate rooms for the kids. No, I mean they stay together because there's a culture that when you're going through a rough time, feeling lonely, discouraged, or unloved, there is also a stand for...

Being married to an angry man is scary because it's unpredictable. It's only natural to make like a turtle and retreat into your shell because it can really hurt to get the brunt of his anger. Your brain works overtime thinking of ways to protect yourself, which is exhausting and stressful. It can also make you feel like you need to figure out how to keep him from getting angry. Or that you need t...

When you're struggling in your marriage because you're getting hurt, neglected or criticized, it's so discouraging and draining. Maybe your husband has a big character defect that you don't see ever changing, so it doesn't seem possible to become a ridiculously happy wife. If you've been practicing the Six Intimacy Skills™ and they're just not working, you might feel like your situation is hopeles...

If only getting married made your finances as cinchy as economists make it sound. Sharing the rent or mortgage, grocery bills and utilities saves so much money, there should be less financial strain on you both, not more. Study after study shows that married couples are at the top of the financial heap for net worth and earning. But somehow money is also one of the top subjects couples fight about...

Getting married and expecting it to look a certain way then getting let down when it's not is so discouraging. It can even put your marriage at risk. These are the top 3 expectations I had in my marriage that STILL come up for me sometimes and for many of our students too. So see if you also identify with having these unrealistic expectations. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we'r...

If your husband is saying it's over or he's more interested in someone else, that's terrifying and painful. It's tempting to believe that it's not up to you whether your marriage will last. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about the top 5 signs your marriage won't last. I'll share the REAL question to ask if your marriage seems hopeless.  My guest Laura was ready to...

When you discover that your husband watches porn, it can feel really bad, disrespectful even. Here you're his only partner in the bedroom, but he's watching other women do nasty things on his phone. It's so disappointing, and so revolting. It can also make you feel pretty unspecial knowing that your husband watches an endless parade of strange women on the Internet. You wonder if he's even a decen...