The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if marriage came with an easy-to-follow instruction manual? But since it doesn't, most women bumble along trying out relationship advice from the hair salon, well-meaning friends or even strangers at bars. There's a lot of bad relationship advice floating around disguised as "common sense." Maybe that's why so many marriages are falling apart. On today's episode of...

An affair is a betrayal that hurts like crazy and seems impossible to recover from, both personally and as a couple. It's human to want to make him hurt too, to yell and throw things. As you desperately seek relief from the sharp ache, the doorway marked "End this relationship!" will look like the fastest way to stop the hurt. Unfortunately, the hurt won't die with the end of the relationship. For...

Over twenty years ago I was shocked to find out that I could single-handedly make my crumbling marriage thrive using the 6 Intimacy Skills. I felt a strong desire to share this information with other women, the only way that I could get myself to stick to the new practices myself. A lot of women reached out for help, but without a team of coaches or any structure at that time, I got completely ove...

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about the weirdest, scariest--and probably most indispensable--ingredient for creating intimacy. I'll share how to inspire others to help and protect you, take care of you and support you--without being weak, submissive or acting like a doormat. My guest Ch'vaun's marriage was deeply lonely and felt like a rollercoaster ride. She knew...

When I started fixing my marriage, I really didn't want my husband to know! And I know I'm not alone here. It's nice to have the freedom to experiment without your husband asking about it--or being your armchair coach. The last thing you want is having an experiment go wrong and hearing "I told you so!" Especially from the very person you so want it to go right with!  If you too are experimenting...

In the bad old days, when my husband John and I used to fight all the time or have cold wars, there was plenty of drama. It wasn't much fun, but I was used to it. When I finally discovered The Six Intimacy Skills, along with the Connection Framework of a community and paying forward what I was learning, our house became peaceful but strangely quiet. I was uncomfortable and felt like something was...

Whenever a student tells me that she's having a lot of conflict in her relationship or feeling hopeless about it, there's one question I always ask. It's the same question I ask myself if my husband is bugging me. Then he doesn't seem so bad; in fact, he seems pretty funny and sweet. And I forget what I was irritated about. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about the...

If you're anything like me, you love having deep conversations with your husband. They're probably part of what made you fall in love with him. If they've gone missing, you may have wondered how to get those started again at your house. And there are two common tactics that you've probably been told are healthy but that may actually be backfiring on you. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Po...

You've been working really hard on your relationship. The bad news is you may have been working on fixing the wrong things. The good news is that, no matter how bad it seems now, it's not too late to save the relationship—and get the fulfilling one you set out to have when you first fell in love. So how do you restore the peace, passion and connection you once shared? On today's episode of The Emp...

Having your best relationship may feel impossible if your marriage is struggling. You might think, like I once did, that you'd need to start over with someone new in order to have a good relationship. When you're in a lot of pain because of fighting or feeling abandoned, it's easy to dread the future, hard to picture your marriage becoming its best. Yet here you are, and I admire that. On today's...

Today we'll talk about three ways you can help end world divorce and get advanced self-help for your own marriage at the same time. My guest Magenta was still a newlywed when she started wondering what had happened to the wonderful guy she married! Instead of talking to her, texting her and video chatting, he just was not paying attention to her and she didn't know why. He also refused to join the...

If you've never had a coach except in school sports, then counseling is probably your point of reference for what you think of when you picture any conversation with a professional for help with your relationship. That's all any of us had for a long time. Whether it was through your place of worship or a professional counselor who had a particular education, marriage counseling was all there was f...

Last week you heard Part 1. This week, I'm sharing the rest of the Empowered Wife Session on "How to RSVP 'Not Attending' When you're invited to an Argument" from my paid program. If you missed What is a Ridiculously Happy Wife Part 1 last week (episode #83), check that out first to get the most value from hearing the students in my programs share how they're applying the skill in their unique sit...

What is a Ridiculously Happy Wife and how do you become one? One of the things that feels nearly impossible to do when you're really struggling in your marriage and feeling like it's hopeless, is to make yourself happy.    Unless… Unless you have the thing that I stumbled on early on in my own marriage journey. Words alone couldn't explain what I want to share with you. You have to experience it f...

Being part of a group of women who are all committed to making their marriages last, sharing authentically and standing for each other's marriages is the most powerful way I know to quickly get the transformation that I experienced, and that now tens of thousands of students have also experienced. That's why group coaching is a critical part of all of the programs on our campus--The Ridiculously H...

Maybe your marriage is painful right now, and you have a hunch that training to become a coach would put it right again. Or maybe your marriage is doing better than it has in a long time, and you just want to keep it that way. Maybe you're like me and you just want to stay in the fascinating conversation with women like you who make marriage a priority. But what does the process look like? On toda...

If you've ever wondered if your husband even loves you anymore, then you've experienced him being distant and cold, or more interested in his phone or the TV than spending time with you, like my husband was. How can get your husband's attention and fix your marriage for good? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 4 steps for making your cold marriage hot. My guest Ka...

Sometimes your marriage looks bleak. You wish it were the way you imagined when you said your vows, but you didn't imagine having cold wars, without speaking for days. When his latest hurtful words and neglect are still stinging, you can feel like a sucker for falling for a man who isn't who you thought he was. But that doesn't mean you have to either be miserable-ever-after or get divorced. On to...

When your husband lets you down again and again, it's discouraging. You don't want to feel so resentful, but how can you help it when you can't count on him to do what you know would make things so much better for your marriage. What if it's been years that you've felt resentful toward him? How are you going to just wash that away? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking abo...

Ending your marriage is a huge decision, and if it's a question you're considering, it's probably weighed heavily on you for a long time. And that's very tiring. Nobody considers divorce unless they're really hurting and hopeless that things will ever get better. You'd like answers. What's the best path? Which choice will make you happier in the long run? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife P...

When your man is making bad decisions, it drags you down. It's like he's broken, and since your fates are tied together by matrimony, that's a lot of weight you're pulling when your hands are already full. You probably think there isn't anything you can do, right? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 3 secrets for fixing your husband. My guest Janice had been marrie...

When you're fighting, bickering and snapping at each other, you just want it to stop. You want him to understand where you're coming from and make him realize that it's ridiculous to keep arguing. Most of all, you want a peaceful house. But how? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 3 ways to resolve conflicts quickly. My guest Clara didn't feel loved or appreciated...

When you're falling in love, it's like you're temporarily insane, but over time you may lose sight of whatever it was you saw in your man. You wish you could admire your husband and feel excited about your relationship. But how can you if you're feeling repulsed? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 2 steps to bring back the sizzle even if you're not feeling it. Alm...

If your man says things that are subtly insulting and hurtful but then acts like you're the one who is overreacting, it can be crazy making. At times you wonder how you can ever win when he mopes around and won't say what's wrong. If all you're getting is the silent treatment, how do you respond to that? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 3 ways to solve a passive...

If your husband criticizes you, it hurts. You're doing so much, yet somehow it's not enough. No matter how hard you try, your parenting, your housekeeping, or your work just don't measure up–or so he would have you think. How can you fix your marriage when you're in this lonely place? On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about how to deal with disrespect in marriage. One...