The Empowered Wife Podcast: Marriage Help with Laura Doyle

When your husband is miserable and grumping around the house or hiding in his man cave, naturally you want to help pull him out of it somehow. But what if he's really committed to his suffering and your efforts don't seem to do any good? What if you get exhausted trying to cheer him up? It's lonely and irritating to be married to Mr. Misery, especially if it's been a while and it doesn't look like...

How do you keep a marriage alive after 20 years or more but also keep it sizzling? This is the secret sauce. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about what keeps a marriage together. I'll share 3 simple methods I use every day for lasting peace, playfulness and passion. My guest Leann was lonely because her husband always had a hobby he was more interested in than spend...

When your kids are getting yelled at, insulted or called terrible names by their own father, it's very hard to handle without interfering. It's hard to watch any kid treated harshly but almost unbearable when they're your babies. It's heart-wrenching to see their little faces fall and the tears start when clearly none of the treatment they're getting is warranted or fair. How in the world can you...

If you're longing for intimacy with your man like I used to and not getting it, you may not feel like there's a key to creating it. If it's just been so long since you felt emotionally, physically and spiritually intimate, you may have steeled yourself so you don't even feel the longing anymore. That's a logical thing to do if you keep hoping and keep getting let down. I felt the same way in the b...

When everything in your marriage feels like it's on your shoulders, it's pretty exhausting and stressful. If your to-do list is a mile long but never gets you any closer to feeling relaxed, supported, and taken care of, then I'm excited to share a connection and intimacy superpower that will. On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we're talking about how to accomplish more by doing less...

Getting what you want in your marriage is important. The whole world depends on strong families, which means strong marriages, which means it's important to feel that your desires are being met. Because life gets tedious when day after day you go without feeling like you're getting what you want. It makes everything feel gray, and your husband can seem like a giant disappointment for not caring wh...

It's so lonely and exhausting to feel like the only one responsible for everything at your house. I remember how stressful it was when I was the sole breadwinner at our house and felt like I was doing all the housework and bill paying too. Talk about overwhelmed! And resentful. Not anymore though. Now I marvel at how my husband does so much and I do so little! It feels like he does 90% and I do 10...

If there really are sure-fire secrets to a long and happy romance, wouldn't you think somebody would write them down and teach them in every high school all over the world? Is there anything more important to learn in life than how to make your marriage last and thrive? I can't think of it. Couldn't they throw in a few tips about how your husband will react to certain things you do alongside the p...

When is it too late to stop a divorce?  It's not too late for you. How do I know? Well, if you're still married and finding this podcast, that tells me you want your marriage to last and also that you still have hope, even if sometimes you forget where you put it or it's so small you can't find it. That's okay. You're so committed to your marriage that you're doing your research on what you can do...

Imagine you could wave a magic wand to make your marriage the way you want it to be. How would it be different? Maybe your husband would do a lot more chores or be more attentive and affectionate, seeking your company and kissing you whenever he got the chance. He wants to be all of that for you so he can make you happy. All men want to succeed–especially with their wives. So what's stopping him?...

When you live with someone who loses his cool, it's very scary and draining. It seems logical to try to minimize those blow-ups however you can. You try to keep the kids quiet or keep quiet yourself or just agree with him or remove yourself when you feel the tension rise. It's exhausting to always be thinking about how to keep the drama from happening. Even worse, it doesn't always work, which mak...

Do you wish your husband would help out around the house but, no matter how nicely you ask, he's too busy binge watching Breaking Bad ? Have you begged him to spend time with the kids, but he's still more interested in his phone than his own children? Or asked him to have sex–or just spend time with you, period–but he'd rather work all hours than be with you? If you're going through any of this, i...

Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if saying "We need to talk" made him gaze into your eyes and describe all the ways he's so in love with you? Or if telling him he needs to be more affectionate and attentive made him turn off the TV and gallantly sweep you off to the bedroom? Unfortunately, calling him out doesn't work. But if he's not taking initiative to be romantic and you can't tell him to do s...

Does your husband always have friends over? Or talk to his best friend more than you? Whether he's a social butterfly or a barfly, not being his number one is downright disappointing. It can feel hopeless, lonely, and make you angry too! Going it alone surely isn't what you had in mind when you said "I do." On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about 3 moves for becoming h...

My guest, Matthew, is not a student on our campus but rather the husband of a new coach. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I'll get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife using the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills™. He's also going to answer anonymous questions from students on the husband's perspective. Get ready to hear...

My guest, Dr. Ben, is not a student on our campus but rather the husband of a student--and the father of two of our coaches! He agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I'll get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife and two daughters having the Connection Framework and the 6 Intimacy Skills™. He's also going to answer anonymous questions from students on...

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about insights from the husband of a ridiculously happy wife (part 2). My guest Antonio is not a student or a book reader but rather the husband of a coach trainee. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series! He'll share his perspective on the changes in his marriage as a result of his wife using the Connection Framework a...

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I'm sharing insights from the husband of a Ridiculously Happy Wife. My guest, Len, is not a student or a book reader but rather the husband of a recently certified coach. He generously agreed to be part of our Man Panel series, and today I'm going to get his perspective on the changes in his family as a result of his wife using the Connection Frame...

It's lonely to be married to a workaholic. If he's not at work, he's sleeping or working from home. Or he's too tired from working so much to be much fun. He neglects not just you but also the kids. You feel like a single mom going to get-togethers without him, always for the same old reason: he has to work. If only you could get him to spend more time with the family. Well, you can. On today's ep...

On today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast we're talking about whether you should fake it. When I say "fake it," of course I'm talking about pretending you respect your husband even if you're not feeling it because he doesn't seem to deserve your respect. Wait, what did you think we were going to talk about? Oh, faking it in the bedroom!  Funny you would bring that up while we're talking abo...

Can you think of someone you have a difficult time with? Whether it's a family member, colleague, or someone in your circle of friends, who in your life is driving you buggy? If you have someone in mind, good! Because today's episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast is about using the Six Intimacy Skills™ with everybody. You get to be a fly on the wall in our monthly storytelling meeting, which is no...

When you have unpleasant things happening at your house, things that seem embarrassing or shameful, you tend to keep them a secret. At least that was my strategy early on and that of many of my students. We didn't want anyone to know that our marriages were dysfunctional, distant, and falling apart. There aren't many places you can go to share about the painful, scary parts of your marriage withou...

Let's say you get a diagnosis for your husband. So you finally know What's Wrong with Him. But what if his being passive aggressive or bipolar, exhibiting adolescent syndrome, or having ADD, OCD or NPD is not what keeps you sleeping in separate rooms or has every conversation turn into an argument? Imagine that the real issue were something completely unexpected, like it was in my lonely marriage....

If you're having a breakdown in your marriage, you may just be playing out a pattern you learned in your family. Whether your parents are divorced, never married or are married to this day, maybe they don't have the kind of marriage you want to emulate. There probably was no Relationships 101 at school, so where were you supposed to learn how to have a good marriage? Most of us do get our early tr...

If you're anything like I was, some fights come up in your relationship more often than a hit song plays on Top 40 radio. You don't want to have the same fight over and over, but it keeps happening. You're just talking about the leftovers from dinner and next thing you know, your mother–who isn't present–is involved, and you're both yelling things you would be embarrassed to repeat. It makes you q...