The Empowered Divorce Podcast; Navigating Divorce After Betrayal Trauma and Abuse

What happens when the life you imagined falls apart? When the timeline you worked so hard to follow unravels—through betrayal, divorce, loss, or just life being life? In this episode, I’m getting real about what it feels like to grieve the life you thought you’d have, and how to start living the one you’re in. I’ll share stories from my own healing journey, including how a game of M.A.S.H. shaped...

Have you ever felt your empathy was a problem? Or wished you weren’t so empathetic? If you've ever been told you're too emotional, too much, or too sensitive—and you've been carrying the emotional labor in your relationships—this episode is for you. In today’s powerful conversation, I’m talking directly to the women who have had their empathy used against them —those of you who’ve trie...

“Amie, does it really get better?” In this episode, I’m answering her directly—and tenderly. If you're stuck in that foggy, aching space where hope feels out of reach, this conversation is for you. I’m not here to offer toxic positivity or polished promises. I’m here to speak the truth: what better actually looks like after betrayal, why it often doesn't feel believable at first, and how you can s...

You didn't ask to do this healing work but you are doing it anyways- THAT is going to make you resilient! What if the idea of self-love just makes you tired? Or even angry? What if you're still trying to bloom in the aftermath of betrayal? In this final episode of the Summer Song Series, I’m diving deep into two songs that speak directly to the raw truth of healing after betrayal trauma— Self Love...

Today’s episode is for the woman who stayed far too long in a relationship where she was never truly seen. Where she loved deeply, showed up fully, and kept hoping that maybe one day… he’d really know her. But that day never came. This episode is about the ache of being emotionally invisible—and the beauty of finally turning inward and saying, “I see me now.” We’re exploring two soul-stirring song...

Welcome to my Summer Song Series ! 🌞This month I’m sharing songs that speak directly to the heart of healing after betrayal, abuse, and life-saving divorce. These songs aren’t just background noise—they’re lyrical lifelines. Songs that help us access emotions, reclaim our stories, and remember who we really are. We’re kicking off this series with two powerful anthems from one of my favorite artis...

Happy 4th of July, my amazing listeners! I’m re-airing one of my favorite episodes today—The Freedom to Choose—because this message hits deep, especially if you’ve experienced betrayal, abuse, or a life-saving divorce. While we celebrate external freedoms in our country, I want to invite you to reflect on your internal freedom—the kind that no one can take away. The power to choose how you think,...

Have you been caught in the loop of everything you've lost since the betrayal or your life-saving divorce? It’s so easy for our brains—especially when we’re still in survival mode—to focus on what’s gone and what may never be again. In this episode, I want to gently shift that lens with you. I’ll help you see that healing and growth don’t come from ignoring your pain —they come from reclaiming wha...

If you’ve ever wondered why calm feels uncomfortable—or even wrong—after living in chaos for so long, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m talking about what happens when your nervous system gets wired to expect betrayal, emotional abuse, and survival mode… and how real peace can actually feel threatening at first. I’ll share a personal story from my own healing and walk you through why this hap...

Feeling overwhelmed or stuck in survival mode? In this episode, I share why creating a simple, intentional healing routine can help calm your nervous system, ease ruminating thoughts, and rebuild a sense of safety after betrayal and divorce. We’ll explore: Why your brain and body crave predictability after trauma How small routines (like brushing your teeth with intention) can become powerful heal...

If you’re scared to date again, you’re not broken—you’re wise. After betrayal or toxic relationships, your nervous system remembers. And it’s doing everything it can to protect you from being hurt again. But here’s the thing: You’re not meant to jump back into dating before you come home to yourself first. The real work isn’t swiping or dressing cute for someone new. The real work is this: 🌱 Unde...

Why does healing after betrayal feel so exhausting? Why does it take so long? In this episode, I unpack what’s really underneath the question, “Why is this so hard?”—and why trying to rush your healing is actually working against you. If you’ve ever thought, “I should be over this by now” or “Maybe this is just how life is now,” I speak directly to that part of you. I’ll help you reframe hard not...

I diving deep into one of the most painful emotional experiences— rejection —and how it uniquely impacts women healing from betrayal trauma, emotional abuse, and divorce. This isn’t just about getting ghosted or overlooked. For betrayed women, rejection is a body-level experience , echoing decades-old wounds and signaling danger to the nervous system—even when there’s no immediate threat. If the t...

In this deeply personal episode, I’m opening up about the kind of grief no one really talks about— lonely grief after divorce . Whether it’s parenting alone, sitting through holidays that don’t feel the same, grieving anniversaries in silence, or watching your kids grow up without a partner to share the emotional weight, this kind of grief is real and valid. If you’ve ever felt unseen in your grie...

In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful teaching from one of my live Q&A sessions where we unpacked the real reasons grief still shows up—even when you're the one who initiated the divorce or knew it was the right thing. If you’ve ever found yourself asking, Why am I still grieving? Shouldn’t I be over this by now? —this is the conversation you need. I walk you through five core truths abo...

If you've ever thought, “I’ll never be that vulnerable again” after betrayal—this episode is for you. In this deeply personal solo episode, I explore the complex layers of vulnerability after betrayal, abuse, and a life-saving divorce. Building on my last episode and conversation with my husband, I take you further into the impact of betrayal trauma—what I call vulnerability shock, hesitation,...

Dating after a life-saving divorce isn't just dating—it's navigating a minefield of triggers, fears, and deep vulnerability. In this powerful and honest episode, Today I am joined by my husband Scott to explore one of the most asked questions in my Dating from Within workshop: When should I share my past trauma, betrayal, or abuse when I start dating again? Together, we unpack what emotional safet...

In this empowering episode, I dive deep into the profound differences between a typical divorce and a life-saving divorce. If you’ve ever felt guilt, confusion, or shame because your divorce doesn’t look like the amicable, co-parenting stories on social media, this episode is for you. I explore why leaving an abusive, toxic, or harmful relationship is not a failure but an act of courage and self-p...

In this follow-up episode, I dive into the remaining 3 defensive driving principles and how they mirror the emotional terrain of divorce and healing. From life’s constant distractions (yes, even those triggered texts or your ex’s latest antics) to adjusting your internal GPS and setting the right “music” or emotional tone—you’ll learn what it means to stay grounded and aligned, even when life feel...

Life after betrayal or a life-saving divorce can feel like driving through a storm without a map—and often without much light. In this episode, I’m breaking down the first 3 principles of defensive driving and showing you how they hold deep wisdom for your healing journey. We’ll talk about how rushing through pain can actually delay healing, what it means to keep both hands on the wheel of your li...

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a loop—replaying the same painful memories, trying to make sense of what happened, wondering if you'll ever stop thinking about it? If you've been through betrayal or abuse, rumination can feel like it's taken over your mind. But you're not alone, and there's a reason your brain is doing this. In today’s episode, we’re going to unpack why rumination happens, w...

After betrayal, abuse, or a life-saving divorce, the idea of “creating the life you want” can feel overwhelming—or even impossible. In this episode, I’m answering the quiet question so many women carry: How do I even begin again? I’ll guide you through the first steps to rebuilding your life using the power of awareness, acceptance, and agency. You’ll learn how creativity is part of your true self...

In this episode, I dive deep into understanding and escaping the Karpman Drama Triangle—victim, persecutor, and rescuer roles that harm relationships. Learn how to identify these destructive patterns, especially with your ex, and discover empowered ways to respond for healthier interactions. This episode is dedicated to becoming aware of these roles, gaining self-empowerment, and stepping out of t...

Trust after betrayal can feel impossible, especially after a life-saving divorce. In this episode, I explore the real question behind, “Will I ever trust again?” —which isn’t just about trusting others, but about learning to trust yourself again . If you've ever blamed yourself for trusting the wrong person, doubted your intuition, or felt stuck in fear, this episode will help you: Understand...

In this episode, we dive deep into a common but rarely talked-about issue—how we sometimes use healing tools against ourselves. If you've ever found yourself meditating, journaling, or practicing deep breathing not to listen to your body, but to silence it—this episode is for you. When we override our body’s signals in an effort to feel “better” or “regulated,” we risk gaslighting our own intuitio...