The Divorced Dadvocate: Strategic Defense for Fathers - Members Podcast

Jude led a discussion about new coercive control laws being implemented in family courts, particularly highlighting Colorado's law going into effect on August 12th. He explained how these laws expand the definition of domestic violence from physical abuse to include subjective categories like financial control, isolation, and emotional abuse, creating new opportunities for false allegations a...

This meeting focused on discussing parental alienation and coercive control behaviors with Charlie, a guest expert from Great Britain. Charlie explained how coercive control behaviors manifest in parental alienation cases, including loyalty conflicts, negative narratives about the targeted parent, and grooming techniques that create false choices for children. He discussed how these behaviors ofte...

This was a support group meeting for men going through or recovering from high-conflict divorces, where participants shared their experiences and challenges. Jude facilitated the meeting and introduced new members, including Andrew from South Carolina who is currently navigating a difficult divorce with a 7-year-old daughter and dealing with allegations of domestic violence. John, Brad, and other...

This was a support group meeting for men going through or recovering from divorce, where participants shared their experiences and discussed coping strategies. The conversation centered around morning routines and how establishing daily structures can help manage emotions and set a positive tone for the day. Peter discussed his struggle with low energy and lack of motivation on weekends, while Joh...

This meeting was a monthly session where Charlie McCready, a Parental Alienation coach, provided guidance and support to fathers experiencing parental alienation. Charlie discussed the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents, including grief, guilt, shame, isolation, powerlessness, injustice, anger, fear, and anxiety, and emphasized the importance of self-healing and working on personal tr...

This was a support group meeting for divorced fathers where participants shared updates on their ongoing divorce processes and discussed coping strategies. Peter shared his progress on a collaborative divorce, focusing on financial settlement preparations, while Brad discussed balancing boundaries with his children post-divorce. Jude and Naveen described ongoing challenges with their divorce proce...

This meeting was a support session focused on navigating narcissistic behavior and false allegations during divorce proceedings, with Jude and John providing guidance to Greg, who is dealing with custody issues involving his infant daughter. Jude outlined five critical points for handling false allegations by narcissists in family court, emphasizing the importance of creating an airtight forensic...

This meeting was a support session focused on parental alienation, where Charlie McCready, an expert coach on the topic, provided guidance to Jude, Chris, and Henry. Charlie shared his personal experience with 10 years of pre-alienation and 5 years of full alienation before rebuilding relationships with his children. The discussion covered strategies for handling alienation, including when to give...

The meeting focused on parental alienation, with Charlie McCready, a parental alienation coach, sharing his personal experience and professional insights. Charlie explained the concept of pre-alienation and discussed strategies for recognizing and addressing alienation behaviors. He emphasized the importance of understanding the child's perspective and adapting parenting styles to support the...

This meeting was a support group session focused on discussing false allegations in divorce cases and sharing experiences. Participants including John, Peter, Miguel, Brad, CJ, Hans, and Andy shared their personal situations and discussed strategies for navigating false allegations in family court. The group explored how the preponderance of evidence standard in family court (51% threshold) create...

The meeting focused on discussing parental alienation, with Charlie McCready explaining the triggers that alienators use during separation and divorce to increase alienation. Jay shared his personal experience of being alienated from four of his six adult children after his divorce, while the group explored strategies for maintaining contact with estranged children and the importance of consistent...

The meeting focused on supporting divorced fathers navigating complex family dynamics, with particular emphasis on a father's journey through divorce and co-parenting challenges. Andy shared his experience with the legislative process regarding equal shared parenting and time restoration bills, while James discussed his ongoing divorce proceedings and concerns about his ex-wife's behavio...

The meeting focused on discussing the five primary triggers for individuals with narcissistic personality disorder during divorce proceedings, including relationship separation, court dates, financial issues, improving child relationships, and introducing new partners. John shared his personal experiences with a high-conflict divorce involving a partner with Cluster B disorders, emphasizing the im...

The meeting focused on supporting men navigating divorce and custody issues, with Doran sharing his recently published book "High Conflict Playbook" and offering to gift copies to the group. Andy provided an update on his advocacy work in California, where he is leading efforts to pass three key bills related to parenting rights, including equal shared parenting and time taken/time back...

Jude and John, the co-hosts, discussed their experience with high-conflict divorces and the importance of recognizing personality disorders like narcissistic personality disorder. John, who has experience running a narcissistic abuse recovery group, was introduced as the resident expert on the topic. The meeting was set to cover the playbook on how narcissists operate in relationships and the divo...

Website Updates and Podcast Planning Jude and Dallas discussed their ongoing work on website updates, email campaigns, and a podcast landing page, with Jude noting that the designer would be available next week to work on the landing page. They also mentioned their weekly podcast "Dads Dating After Divorce" and the possibility of offering a free year of dating coaching to someone who fin...

The meeting brought together several individuals who shared their experiences with high-conflict divorce and custody battles, discussing the challenges of navigating the family court system and the importance of emotional regulation. Participants explored strategies for co-parenting, personal growth, and self-improvement during difficult times, emphasizing the need for small, incremental changes a...

The meeting focused on parental alienation, featuring Charlie, a Parental Alienation coach who shared his expertise and personal experience with the topic. Charlie explained the different stages of alienation and provided guidance on how to handle situations when children start asking questions that create loyalty conflicts. He emphasized the importance of showing unconditional love and support to...

Quick recap The meeting focused on discussing patterns of behavior in ex-partners during divorce, particularly cluster B personality disorders, and strategies for managing such situations. Jude Sandvall shared his experience of enduring physical abuse and navigating the challenges of divorce, including limited parenting time with his children and dealing with his ex-wife's tactics. The group...

Quick recap The meeting focused on parental alienation, featuring an expert discussion between Charlie McCready, a parental alienation coach from the UK, and the group participants. Charlie shared his personal experience with pre-alienation and provided insights on how to recognize and address alienation behaviors. He emphasized the importance of creating "airtight" parenting plans and a...

Smart divorce planning doesn’t start with a refinance—it starts with the right words and the right timing. We sit down with a veteran lender and Certified Divorce Lending Professional who explains how settlement language, court‑ordered support, and servicer policy can open doors most people think are closed. From pre‑decree purchases to releases of liability and buyout refinances up to 95% LTV, we...

Family court can feel like a maze where logic gets replaced by procedure, and the loudest story wins. We pull back the curtain on how high‑conflict exes leverage control, projection, and “victim” narratives to tilt the field—and how you can respond with calm facts, clean records, and a strategy that actually holds up. Mark joins us with a real, thorny dispute over non‑urgent orthodontic costs push...

Swipe culture promises abundance, but most of us feel drained by low-quality conversations and mismatched first dates. We wanted something that actually works—so we dug into the nuts and bolts of meeting women in real life, making confident invitations, and following through without feeling needy or pushy. Dallas from Black Box Dating joins us to break down why in-person approach outperforms datin...