The Divorce Devil Podcast

Well, here it is - the New 5 Minute Subject Slam with Rachel and David.  She doesn't know the subjects until I start the timer.  Let's see how it goes!    Co-parenting Boundaries Practicing what you preach We are real Love when your kids leave, it's ok Girls night out Don't be petty Bi-polar Don't use the kids as pawns They feel guilty Try to make it work Love them more that you hate your ex Read...

Closing up the three part series of the Divorce Recovery Survival Guide was fun as always.  Getting a little off tract, like we do, we do understand that the third phase is actually where most of serious healing starts.  Discussions of Stella getting her groove back, hoe phase, don’t sit in the silence, no is a complete sentence, ‘I’m done’ is a boundary, self-care, and doing it all by yourself ar...

Well, here it is - the meat and potatoes of the middle of your divorce journey.  We love doing these multiple part episodes.  We tend to have something  for everyone!  Plus, without much preparation and after over 180 shows, our OJT advice, tips, trick and methods are flowing throughout the show.  Discussions of legal separation, divorce permits, ride the clutch, you have a purpose, don’t rule out...

Well, here it is - what to do when the divorce is fresh or hasn’t even started yet.  Even though we are not professional therapist, we have a list of things, looking back, we wished we would have know about and/or done.  We would ask for forgiveness with the crazy start -but that is just part of the show.  That’s the way it starts sometimes!  Discussions of a divorce song, sex on the beach, 30 sec...

Believe it or not, this is the first show we have dedicated to boundaries.  We all have been there.  Not enough at first then maybe too much in the end.  It is definitely problematic when healing.  Discussions of your truths, accepting my sh*t wholeheartedly, Everybody is not your friend, they know my blood type, and start with the walls up all are broached in this episode.  Listen closely, you ma...

This is a continuation from the last podcast of forgiveness, contentment and happy.  This is final prize - accepting your new reality.  I know it is hard to fathom that for some people.  Discussions of not letting the past define you, pay attention to your past, see you next Tuesday, don’t be afraid to ask for help, we only have one life.  There off-the-cuff topics turn out pretty good.  Thinking...

How do we start?  Talking about the complex relationship between forgiveness, contentment and happy was a tough one.  We still agree that forgiveness still have a not giving a f*ck component.  Discussions of waiting for someone’s sorry, forgetting time is a thing, Soul Train, See you next Tuesday, communication, heal in hell, grudges take a lot of work and happy is the goal.  We were slightly more...

Sorry for the two week hiatus.  Rachel was vacationing and I was down right lazy!  But we are back with another electrified session.  Friendships - before, during, and after your divorce….  What a such complicated subject.  We discussed topics of tour or tour, no stake in the game - judge away, trifecta - friends before, during and after, unrealistic expectations, quality over quantity, levels of...

Well, here it is!  The final installment of the Divorce Storm.  And with all its collateral damage.  Your life is definitely changed - what you probably perceive as no for the better.  But, this is your time to finally realize you have to embrace this time and the efforts of the storm showing you the path to your new positive reality.  There may be smaller storms along the way, but the biggie is o...

Well, here it is! Part two of the series.  In this podcast, we discuss the challenges and unpredictability of going through a divorce.  Using the metaphor of a storm to describe the emotional turmoil and chaos that can occur during the process.  Watch out for the calm eye, it sometimes sends a false sense of security of the process. Discussions of: ABBA Category 1-5 divorces Bring the dogs in It’s...

Here we go with another series.  We actually love doing this.  Part one of the three part series of the Divorce Storm - getting your sandbags ready.  With all the three stages of divorce being important, this one is significant - it can lay the foundation for your recovery later.  But, you are not ‘married’ to it.  You can still recover with missteps in this stage.  It’s never too late to make a c...

In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, David and Rachel interview therapist Dawn Wiggins, a licensed marriage and family therapist who shares her holistic approach to helping people recover from divorce. They discuss topics such as childhood trauma, the importance of failure in the recovery process, loneliness, and the role of grace in healing. Dawn explains the concept of Eye Movement Dese...

Well, what can we say?  That’s quite a mouthful - uncommunicated expectations are premeditated resentments!  Rachel takes the reigns early and we finally come back to earth.  Communication is the key in this podcast.  It’s just that simple…..  DO IT! Discussions of: Get thehings  Rachel’s birthday Men and women communicate differently Rachel is a planner Mother’s Day is canceled Putting up walls M...

So, I took my spare time to create the new eBook ‘It’s OK to Hate Your Ex’.  It took a while to complete it.  It’s way different than people think it would be.  Rachel and I discuss the book and a bunch of other things - as we do!  Discussions of long term relationships count too, fertilizer stinks, give yourself grace to heal, people do better and ‘you is beautiful and you is smart’.  There is so...

This is the most impromptu podcast we have tried as of yet.  We both came to the studio with no plans of a topic and pulled one out of the sky.  And, it turned out pretty well.  Guild and blame can derail your divorce recovery in many ways.  Conversations of self-retrospection, guilt can enable you,  it’s ok to take some blame and be wrong sometimes, and take a pause.  This episode is kinda all ov...

One of our favorite subjects… the X factor.   In our divorce recoveries we have both experienced different X factors.  We do agree that you have some sort of compass in order to start healing, and that X factor(s) are them.  What is yours?? Discussions of: Finding your funny Co-parenting dogs Can’t let her win Pulled the trigger twice Looking down the road What is pulling you out of the ditch Shar...

It’s another fun Divorce Devil Podcast.  Our subject today is the interesting wins and fails in dating during divorce recovery.  So many things to cover here.  We feel we only scratched the surface.  Discussions of you are never really ready to date, phone a friend, there is always some baggage, Rachel swiped her thumbs raw and you need to go through the sh*t relationships.  Basically, Rachel and...

Well, we are finally at the last episode of the 10 part series of feeling better in your divorce recovery.  It is so important to celebrate you every now and then.  You deserve it!  Taking time for you is paramount.  Your value is intrinsic even though you take one step forward and two steps back sometimes.  We hope that the 10 part series was of some value to you and your journey in your divorce...

We are almost done with the 10 part feeling better in your divorce recovery.  Today is day 9 and it’s all about owning your divorce story.  We feel you should not be ashamed of your divorced status and we provide tips not to.  Your divorce story becomes less important as time goes on.   We also discuss how the perception of our own divorce stories has changed over time and how it has become less o...

Day 8 people - are you learning from your past?  We feel that it is so important to do just that.  You need to reflect on what your marriage has taught you (good or bad), don’t let the past define you and on your journal prompt…. What do you need to leave behind?  What version of your past do you tell people?  We agree that letting things go, eventually, is less of a burden, self-care is most impo...

In this episode, David and Rachel discuss the financial changes that occur after divorce. They share personal experiences and insights on topics such as living a comfortable life, making financial decisions as a couple, and considering the future. They also discuss the challenges of surviving financially after divorce, the importance of financial awareness and responsibility, and the emotional asp...

In this episode, we discuss the topics of anger and embracing change in the context of divorce recovery.  While exploring the positive aspects of anger and how it can be used as fuel for personal growth, we also discuss the concept of venting anger in a controlled environment, such as a smash room. Rachel and I emphasize the importance of processing anger in a healthy way and not projecting it ont...

In this episode, David and Rachel discuss the importance of establishing and expanding your support tribe during and after divorce. They talk about the different roles people play in your village and the need for both positive and negative influences. While emphasizing the importance of letting go of unhealthy friendships and evolving your village as you grow, they conclude the episode with a remi...

Here we come again with day three of the challenge.  The subject of self-care is one that is near and dear to our hearts.  Unless you’ve been under a rock, LOL, you’ll know that it is a subject that is precious to us.   As we introduce the concept of the 'F*ck-It Bucket' as a way to let go of things that don't serve you - we also emphasize the need to prioritize oneself and engage in small acts of...

David and Rachel are podcasting about day two of the ten day challenge to feel better in your divorce recovery.  Day two deals with your new beginnings.  In this episode of the Divorce Devil podcast, David and Rachel discuss the process of envisioning a positive future after divorce. They share their personal experiences of healing and processing, emphasizing the importance of embracing both the p...