The Dildorks

This week, we're having a risk-aware discussion of sex and altered states: doin' sex and kink stuff while drunk, high, sleepy, and more. Find out how we navigate these complex states and the scenes we like to incorporate them into! Consent Issues | Agency | Negotiation | High Sex vs. Drunk Sex | Trance | Consensual Non-Consent | Suggestibility | Pain | Masturbation | Harder Drugs | Sleepy Sex | Ar...

This week, we answer the question: how do you communicate well, and with love? Find out our “love languages,” our best tips for giving good compliments, and why we hate unsolicited advice from Twitter strangers. Communication Degree | Clarity | Empathy | Active Listening | Compliments | Love Languages | Problem-Solving | Texting | Strangers Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Beco...

Bex just launched his new porn store as Billy Lore , so this week we’re talking about making porn! What’s fun about doing cam shows? Which porn stars do we admire? How did we pick our porn names? Tune in to find out! ManyVids Store | Porn Names | CherryStems | Hella Positive Pinup | Spit | PervCave Productions | Dip Films | Ciné Sinclaire | Apprehensions | Crash Pad Series | Bonus Hole Boys | Quee...

CONTENT NOTES for this episode: consensually roleplaying as a little girl, little boy, daddy, mommy, or siblings; incest roleplay and actual incest; child abuse; adult baby roleplay and diapers; teenage sex; consensual and nonconsensual bullying; nonconsensual spanking; student and teacher roleplays; coerced sex; prison; homophobia and homophobic slurs; drunk sex; high sex; rape fantasies This wee...

It's our traditional yearly 4/20 episode! Hear us get blazed and debate the merits of clone sex, impact toys as zombie murder weapons, and whether or not we'd fuck Buzz Lightyear, among other things. Clones | Zombie Apocalypse | Sex Toys | Googly Eyes | New Kinks | Muffins | Parents & Porn | Aliens | Monsters, Inc. & Toy Story | Workshops | Ideal Porn Scene Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artw...

This week we’re gigglin’ with sex blogger Mx Nillin about their ingenious blog series “ Mx Nillin Fucks ,” wherein they masturbate with various weird objects. This conversation was so fun! Girl Cock | Mx Nillin Fucks | Apple Pie | Teddy Bear | Safety | Absurdity | Peanut Butter Sandwich | Pool Noodle | Lube | Jell-O | Hard Limits | Clone-a-Willy | Tom of Finland Dual Dicks | Future Ambitions | Woo...

This week we’re talking with Dawn Serra , sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and founder of the Explore More Summit ! We chatted about parenting, play, self-acceptance, and more. Explore More Summit | Watersports | Curiosity & Play | Barbara Carrellas | Sex-Positive Parenting | MakeLoveNotPorn. TV | Karen BK Chan | Sinclair Sexsmith | Coming Out | Self-Love & Diet Culture | Intervie...

In part 2 of our sex educator FAQ, learn how to get good at dirty talk, how we got so confident talking about sex, and what the Dildorks TARDIS would look like, among other things. American Idiot | Squirting | TARDIS | Dirty Talk | Yes/No/Maybe List | Sexting | Confidence Journey | Spicing Things Up | Normal | Sensate Focus BJ | Dark Odyssey | AltSex Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison...

This week we’re answering some sex-educator FAQs! Hear our Hot Takes on butt stuff, deepthroating, and dick size, among other things… “Educate Me” | Convincing a Partner | Disclosures | The Best Sex Toy | Invasive Creeps | Butt Stuff | The Butters | Njoy Pfun | Fun Factory Bootie | Tantus Neo | Dick Size | BigDickProblems | How to Orgasm | Deepthroating | 4/20 Episode Credits: Music by PROTODOME A...

Negotiation is a crucial kink skill, and this week we’re sharing our best tips! Find out our fave questions to ask, common negotiation pitfalls, and how to navigate awkward pre-scene discussions. Vanilla Negotiation | Trans Folks | Negotiation Cheat Sheet | Mid-Scene | Contracts | Blame Someone | Options | Kink Voices | Limits | When Scenes Fail | Marks | Aftercare | Doms’ Needs | Fave Questions |...

This week we’re giving you our two cents about financial domination, cash fetishism, and sugar daddies! Find out why we’re into these kinks, how you can play with them, and how to navigate awkward money situations on dates. Why Are People Into Cash? | Paying For Dates | Cheap Dates | Findom | Sugar Daddies | Bank Balance | Presents | Cash | Money Anxiety | Peepshow Toys | Cissplaining | Furniture...

We just got back from the Playground Conference in Toronto! Find out what we learned from the sessions we attended, what conference protocol is and why we like it, and what kinds of sex we had at the con! Cum-Covered Clothes | Opening Plenary | Overwhelm | Kevin Patterson | Turning Fantasies Into Realities | Psychology of BDSM | Polyamory & Masculinity | Intersectional Dating | Blowjobs | Ask...

Here’s the live show we recorded at the Playground Conference in Toronto! We talked about sex and travel: which toys are our suitcase must-haves, how we handle TSA snafus, why we love hotel sex so much, and more! Hellish Bus Ride | Bag of Dicks | Travel Locks | We-Vibe Tango | Tenga SVR | Crave Vesper | TSA Tips | Njoy Eleven | Packers & Collars | Tindering on the Road | Sexpectations | Protoc...

This week Kate interviews porn legend Joanna Angel , of the Burning Angel Empire , about her new venture: a choose-your-own-adventure erotic novel, Night Shift ! We talked masturbation, erotica ethics, tattoos, and more. Authorly Ambitions | Porn Scripts | Book Feedback | Night Shift | Varied Voices | Trucker Culture | Masturbation | Consent | Rachel Kramer Bussel | Sex Vocabulary | Pegging | Tatt...

Not all sex toys live up to their hype! This week we discussed some of the most overrated toys on the market, why they suck, and how they could be better. #SexToyReviewerLyfe | Toy Hype | Stronic Eins | Rabbit Vibes | We-Vibe Nova | Magic Wand | TooTimid.com | Discreet Sex Toys | Pink BOB Lust Silicone Rechargeable Wand | Pink BOB 10-Function Silicone Anal Plug | Sybian | Cowgirl | Beginner Kink T...

This week we talked to Kevin Patterson from Poly Role Models , a blog about the diversity of experiences and identities in polyamorous communities. We touched on jealousy, compersion, poly screw-ups, and more! Poly Role Models | Caribana Threesome | Cautionary Poly | Customer Service | Edu-Dating | Communication | Identities | Poly & Race | Love’s Not Color Blind | Thick Skin | Masculinity | G...

Relationships between kinksters and vanilla people aren’t inherently doomed! This week we discuss navigating these mixed-orientation connections: how to make compromises, assuage fears, and communicate clearly. Kink Without Sex | Service | Vanillas vs. Kinksters | Tickling | Inner Monologues | Why Do You Like That? | How to Get a Vanilla Person to Spank You | Media Hints | 50 Shades of Kink | Play...

This week we tackled some questions from listeners (and one from Kate). Hear us weigh in on cultivating a desire to masturbate, sex party etiquette, unpacking toxic masculinity, and more! Reid Mihalko | Barista Crush | Masturbation Motivation | Repopulate Your Sexual Fantasies | Erogenous Zones | Erotica | Toxic Masculinity | Sex Science | Play Parties | Non-Monogamy Credits: Music by PROTODOME Ar...

(NOTE: We've opted to leave this episode up because we still think the info in it is valuable – but we have heard the recent accusations levelled against Reid , and we believe them. We'll discuss this in more detail next week.) We were so excited to talk to one of our fave sex educators this week, Reid Mihalko ! He’s a communication mega-nerd like us, so we discussed flirting, consent, body langua...

For our 69th episode, we discussed the contentious sex act of 69ing! Find out why we usually don't like it, which factors make us like it better, and what other reciprocal sex acts we dig. Sex Robots | 420 | Distraction | Twitter Poll | Romantic Sex | Power Exchange | Positions | Insecurities | Overwhelm | One-Sided | Kink Game | Reciprocality | Dominant Bottom | From Above | Fuck 69 | Choking Cre...

Happy new year, babes! This week we took stock of how we did on our 2017 sex goals and set some new ones for 2018. Hear about dates we went on, good and bad decisions we made, and what kinks we want to explore this year. First Orgasms | New Year’s Eve | Kink Events | Quality Over Quantity | Dates | Twitter | Fisting | Vulva Stuff | Porn | Teaching | Intentions | Hypnokink | Being Loaned Out | Boot...

Did your 2017 sizzle or fizzle? This week's our year in review: we discussed our best and worst sex of the year, our favorite locations in which we banged, and the new kinks we picked up along the way. Sex Spreadsheet | Not Enough Sex | Permission to Come | Kink Katamari | Types of Pain | Locations | Group Sex at Camp | Partners | Romantic Kink | Bad Sex Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addi...

Happy holidays, dorks! Here's an episode about navigating this festive season as a weirdo/queerdo. We discuss wintertime traditions, family snafus, and the importance of jerkin' it as the year "comes" to a close. Festive Fucking | Christmas Music | Feast of the 7 Fishes | Holiday Kinks | Traditions | Baking | Birthday Blowjob | Stressturbation | Over-Gendering | Poly Quandaries | Self-Ca...

We're bringing our A-spot A-game this week to talk about the little-known anterior fornix erogenous zone! Find out how we discovered this spot, how we like ours touched, and what toys work best for this task. UTI | A Vs. G | Dr. Chee Ann's Study | Vixen Outlaw and Maverick | "Press Here For Orgasm" | Length Fantasies | Instructing Partners | Fingerbanging | Cervix | Orgasms | Overstimula...

Bex is sick this week so Kate is joined by her brother, Max Bornstein , drummer for garage rock band Goodbye Honolulu and co-founder/director of Toronto label Fried Records . We chatted about touring, dating fans, and our deeply embarrassing creative collaborations. Radio Free Calamity | Goodbye Honolulu | Introversion | Sideboard | No Chill | Fox Martindale | Dating Fans | Gene Simmons | Approach...