The Dildorks

This week we’re discussing sleepy sex: how to do it safely and consensually, why it’s kinky as heck, and what additions can make it even kinkier.   Definition | Consent | What’s Hot About It? | Morning vs. Night | Negotiation | Intimacy & Connection | Hustler Hollywood | Packer Gear Harness | Inya the Rose | “Just Laying There” | Topping vs. Bottoming | Sex Toys | Inducing Sleepiness | Safewords |...

Many people wish they were better at dirty talk, so this week we’re discussing some of our favorite dirty-talk tips and tricks!   Revisiting | Separate vs. Integrated | Top vs. Bottom | Why Do We Like It? | Anxiety | How to Do It | Hypnosis | Leveling Up | Reading Aloud | Trying Stuff Out | Improv Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get acce...

Ever been turned on by receiving or giving praise? This week we’re discussing the ins and outs of praise kink!   Mean 4 Pay | What is Praise Kink? | Kink vs. Preference | The Power of Kink | Feedback for Tops | Praise vs. Service | Love Languages & Trauma | Brain Chemistry | Motivator & Reward | Calm & Connection | Praise as Humiliation | Types of Scenes | First Times | Solo Praise | Non-Gendered...

Fisting is an oft-misunderstood sex act, so this week we’re discussing the mechanics and philosophy of this much-revered form of hand sex.   Misconceptions | Muscle Tone | Brain & Pain | Fisting Technique | Pain from Topping | G-Spot | Closing the Fist | Extra Stimulation | Numbing Lube | Discomfort | Does It Feel Good? | Crying | Toy Training | Intoxicants | Fist Size | Lube & Gloves | Arousal &...

This week we’re answering sex advice requests from Reddit about masturbation, threesomes, vaginas, hookup etiquette, and more!   Jerking Off After Sex | Didn’t Come | Partner Doesn’t Masturbate | Massage Boners | Vagina Disgust | Threesome Inequality | First-Date BJ Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, month...

Kate’s debut book 101 Kinky Things Even You Can Do is launching in one week, so this week Bex interviews her about the writing process, the philosophy of the book, and how she hopes readers will use it!   Long Title | Why? | Experience Level | Narrowing It Down | Extreme Stuff | Intoxication & Sleepy Sex | Research | Fetishwear | Fragrances | Illustrations | How to Use the Book | Pen Choice | Hard...

This week we’re talking with Mx. Nillin , a sex blogger, educator, and erotica author, about their upcoming anthology of trans and non-binary erotica, Heckin’ Lewd !   Fanfiction | Heckin’ Lewd | Nillin’s Erotica Journey | Personal Experiences vs. Fiction | Blogging vs. Erotica | Own Voices | Trauma & Violence | Trans Representation | What is Trans Sex Like? | Aromanticism | Demisexuality | Sex St...

Bex just got back from Dark Odyssey kink camp, so in this episode he regales us with kinky stories and offers advice for folks considering going in future!   Con Drop | What is Kink Camp? | Shyness & Anxiety | Interesting Outfits | The Hunt | Suspension Scene | Swing Sex | Birdcages & Sarcophagi | COVID Precautions | Socializing Again | What to Bring | Camping Newbies | Demographics Credits: Music...

Many people worry about their sexual hygiene and grooming, so this week we’re answering listener questions on these sensitive topics!   Good vs. Bad Smells | Armpit Worship | Washing a Vagina | Don’t Like Their Taste | Anal Prep | Hygiene Supplies | Shaving the Butt | Kinky Shaving | Sweat Fetish | Toilet Paper Bits | “Pedophilic” Accusations | Injury or Illness | UTIs After Sex Credits: Music by...

Lots of people have learned new things about their gender and identity during the pandemic, so this week we’re discussing how to re-enter the dating scene as a newly-out trans person.   Pandemic Self-Reflection | Returning to Dating | Taking Time Off | Managing Expectations | New Gender Roles | Media Models | Second Puberty | Other Trans Folks | Dating Cis People | Boundaries & Comfort | Practicin...

With the recent news about OnlyFans fresh in our minds, this week we’re discussing sex work stigma, financial issues in the sex industry, and how to be a good customer to online sex workers.   OnlyFans | Supporting SWs Now | No Money Required | Sex Work Stigma | Becoming Their Favorite | Custom Clip Communication | Patreon Update | Are They Into It? | APAG Union | September 1st Banking Action Cred...

This week we’re joined by sex blogger and tarot reader Wendy Phillips of The Wench Works . We chat about blogging, self-esteem, and the intersections of kink and spirituality – and Wendy gives us each a heartfelt tarot reading about self-love.   The Wench Works | Sexy Tarot Spreads | Self-Reflection | Developing Self-Love | Post-Pandemic Prep | Tarot Decks | Reading for Bex | AudioDesires.com | Ki...

Our guest this week is the sex educator and author Allison Moon! Her wonderful new book, Getting It , inspired this deep-dive discussion of casual sex.   Getting It | Different Approach to Casual Sex | Gendered Assumptions | Communicating Desires | Modelling Behaviors | Is It Empowering? | Setting an Intention | Is Sex Inherently Good? | Platonic Touch | Hookup Apps | In-Person Attraction | Saying...

We’re celebrating our 250th episode by doing something a little different this week: our partners, Ashe and Matt, put us in the hotseat to interview us about our show’s evolution, what we’ve learned these past 250 episodes, and more!   How It All Started | Lessons from Guests | Changes Since Episode 1 | Dream Guests | Behind the Scenes | More Kink Talk | Another Format | Fan Interactions | Best Th...

Many people get nervous about sexually rejecting partners, or get sad when someone sexually rejects them. This week we’re giving advice on common sexual rejection scenarios!   Sex & Self-Identity | Period Sex | Responsive Desire | AudioDesires.com | Feeling Pouty | Kind Rejection Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private...

Being rejected is hard, and rejecting someone might be even harder. This week we’re delving into the intricacies of romantic rejection!   Soft No’s vs. Hard No’s | Rejecting a Date Nicely | Getting Over Rejection | Media Depictions | Letting Someone Down | Childhood Rejection | Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria | Comforting a Friend Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron...

Navigating polyamory can be difficult even in the best of times, so this week we’re answering listener questions about non-monogamy!   Polycule Crush | Converting a Newbie | Can I Kiss My Metamour? | What Type? | “Too Much Work” | Reopening Post-Pandemic Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus epi...

This week we’re answering questions from the /r/Sex forum on Reddit, on topics such as threesome etiquette, strap-on psychology, and the definition of infidelity!   WTF is Reddit? | Pegging | Sleeping with a Virgin | How Important is Sex? | Happy Ending Massage | Disparate Dick Sizes | About to Come | Squirting from Anal Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a patron to suppo...

Talking to your family about sex can be awkward, but we’re here to help! This week we answer your questions on navigating various sexuality-related situations in family dynamics.   Parents Don’t Like BF | Coming Out as a Sex Worker | Coming Out as Polyamorous | Queer Little Sister | Condoms for Little Sis | Sex Ed Additions | Kinky Uncle | Porn Star Sister | Bex’s Blowjob Class Credits: Music by P...

Lots of folks are struggling with libido issues due to pandemic stress, so this week we thought we’d discuss ways to rekindle your libido when it’s waned. Summoning Sex-Brain | When Does It Wane? | Responsive vs. Spontaneous | Motivation to Rekindle | How to Rekindle | Novelty & Flirting | Not Having Enough Sex | Partner’s Other Dates | Dysphoria | Newly on T | Bad Pain Days | Depression Meds Cred...

Whether your ex is now your best friend or your sworn enemy, it’s evident that relations with exes can be tricky… This week we advised listeners on their various ex dilemmas!   Party Full of Exes | Defining “Ex” | Staying Friends | How to Reconnect | Decoding Intentions | Sex with Exes | Worse Sex | Sex Toys | Go Away Please | Running Into Your Ex | Stop Bringing it Up | Writing About Exes Credits...

Hands and fingers and fists, oh my…! This week we’re talking about hand sex: how to do it, why some people are hesitant to do it, and what makes it feel so damn good.   Fisting on Camera | What’s Fun About It? | Uniqueness & Personality | Proper Technique | External Fingering | Anatomy | Ergonomics | Lube | Penis Tips | Balls | Hand Pleasure | Other Hand Stimulation | Hands Only | Fisting Anxiety...

We talk about kink a lot, but what about fetishes? This week, we’re discussing what it means to have a fetish, what to do if you’re sexually incompatible with a partner, and why hooking up with fetishists is super fun.   Kink vs. Fetish | Where Do They Come From? | Safety Pin Fetish | Media Influences | Playing with Fetishists | Incompatibility | Putting in the Effort | Watersports | Shame & Anger...

This week, we discuss our ever-evolving feelings about casual sex, hookups, and one-night stands!   Anxiety & Awkwardness | The Good & The Bad | Scarcity vs. Abundance | Demisexuality & Hookups | Romance vs. Intimacy | Negotiating a Hookup | Mismatched Expectations | Hookup Activities | Making Porn | Trans Pickup Tips | Getting Kinky Credits: Music by PROTODOME Artwork by Addison Finch Become a pa...

This week we’re answering more listener questions about public sex, including sex in locations like fitting rooms, graveyards, and a moving car!   Beautiful Days | Not Into It | Visible Bruises | Fitting Room Sex | Cemetery Sex | Road Head | Backyard Porn | Single-Stall Bathroom | Packing Under Clothes | “A Femme’s Guide to Hard Packing” | Dream Locations | Sex on the Beach | Makeout Point Credits...