The Devil You Don’t Know

Send us Fan Mail Anger can feel like armor, but what if it’s actually the thing that keeps you stuck? We talk about metta loving-kindness meditation as a real-world tool for emotional regulation, stress relief, and staying grounded when someone cuts you off, talks down to you, or brings out your worst instincts. This isn’t a “just be nice” lecture. We get honest about the people who tighten someth...

Send us Fan Mail Your house, your mortgage, your groceries, your utilities, your patience and somehow your adult kid still thinks they get veto power over your life. We get real about the strange new era of parenting where grown children stay home longer, contribute less, and bring big opinions about how the household should run. If you have ever felt like you are the infrastructure while someone...

Send us Fan Mail The fastest way to stay stuck is to keep asking, “Why did this happen to me?” We start with a very human story about rules, trust, and a car that ends up in Brooklyn, then use it as a runway into a bigger claim that shows up across spiritual traditions and modern psychology: we are never the victims of anything outside of us. That line can sound harsh, so we slow it down and make...

Send us Fan Mail Betrayal can make you question everything, not just the person who hurt you. We start with a deceptively simple line we heard from Krishna Das: “the lesson of betrayal is trust.” Then we pull it apart from every angle, because betrayal trauma isn’t only about broken promises, it’s about the moment your inner compass starts to wobble and you wonder, “How did I not see this?”  We co...

Send us Fan Mail You can have a job, a schedule, a social life, and still feel like you’re watching yourself go through the motions. We start with funny banter and real-life moments, then pivot into a bigger question that hits hard: are we actually awake, or are we just moving? From scrolling first thing in the morning to adopting beliefs because our “side” demands it, we talk about how autopilot...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt your stomach knot because someone you love keeps you guessing? We’ve been there, and we’re calling it out: when a partner is only “60% in,” you end up giving 100% of your peace. We dig into the quiet ways people get trained to accept less—cold feet before a wedding reframed as “nerves,” infidelity excused as “a phase,” and late-night vanishing acts dressed up as “freedom...

Send us Fan Mail Ever felt the room change and your gut tighten while everyone else kept laughing? We’ve been there. A trip that started light turned tense fast—boozy bravado, off-color “jokes,” and the quiet demand to be loyal to the group over loyal to yourself. We talk candidly about that pivot from fun to cringeworthy, what it cost us, and why sometimes the bravest move is to step back without...

Send us Fan Mail Want fewer circular fights and more honest connection? We dig into why so many conversations slip into blame and counter-blame, and how a small shift—pausing, getting curious, and validating impact—can transform the tone of a relationship in minutes. We share real stories from our own marriage and practice, from a shoes-in-the-closet blowup to the moment a straight-talking mentor...

Send us Fan Mail Joy isn’t a prize for perfect living; it’s a practice we return to, especially when life is messy. We dig into the courage to be joyful through a blend of ancient wisdom and lived experience—bhakti teachings from Krishna Das, the Bhagavad Gita’s call to renounce the fruits of action, the Dhammapada’s peaceful mind, and Galatians’ fruit of the Spirit. Along the way, we challenge th...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you’re doing mental gymnastics to “figure it out,” only to wind up more anxious and less present? From a windy couch in Naples, we unpack the modern obsession with certainty and why it keeps us looping instead of living. We draw a clear line between problems to solve and mysteries to live—think broken appliances versus identity, timing, love, and purpose—and share h...

Send us Fan Mail Healing doesn’t arrive with a ribbon and a theme song. It’s a gritty, everyday practice of choosing honesty over autopilot, boundaries over people-pleasing, and presence over numbness. We open up about the kind of courage that rarely gets applause: the quiet, internal work that changes how you meet your life, one small decision at a time. We start by reframing healing from a desti...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like life is happening on autopilot while you chase the next tiny hit of relief? We pull back the curtain on how consumer culture, constant comparison, and the productivity trap quietly sedate our attention and sell us a thinner version of happiness. Cleveland and Lindsay share candid stories—from quitting the 9-to-5 to navigating boundaries, from social media’s highligh...

Send us Fan Mail When the world rewards outrage, choosing kindness feels like swimming upstream. We open the door to a different path—one built on safety, presence, and small, deliberate actions that ripple through relationships at home, at work, and online. Drawing on Arthur C. Brooks’s research on contempt, Terence Real’s three spheres of change, and Tara Brach’s insights on trauma and mindfulne...

Send us Fan Mail A chilling premise sets the stage: what if murder became the purest form of communication? We invited author John A. Vines to unpack that provocation through his debut novel, “The World Is Angry,” a Houston-rooted psychological thriller that opens in New Orleans and peers straight into our collective nerves. John walks us through the craft choices that make the story thrum—why a f...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when your family’s secrets become the script your body follows? We invited author Wendy Correa to share the story behind her memoir, My Pretty Baby, and the result is an honest, generous conversation about childhood grief, domestic volatility, and the slow, steady work of healing. From losing her father at seven to navigating a stepfamily shaped by fear and intermitte...

Send us Fan Mail What if the loudest voice in your head—the one bargaining for “just one glass,” “I’ll start Monday,” or “I deserve this”—could be turned down to a whisper? We dig into the art of deciding once and following through, using simple rules, small wins, and default responses that remove the need for constant willpower. From morning walks that shrink from 45 minutes to 27, to “no fried f...

Send us Fan Mail What if the pain you feel isn’t the problem—what if the fight against it is? We dive into the quiet habit of saying “no” to our own emotions, how that creates the “second arrow” of suffering, and why radical acceptance can be the most practical, compassionate path forward. From grief and breakups to career ruts and body goals, we share real stories and useful tools for meeting har...

Send us Fan Mail Lindsay and Cleveland dive into the concept of toxic othering and how it affects our relationships and society at large, exploring practical ways to bridge divides through mindfulness and self-awareness. • The problem of "othering" creates division between groups based on race, religion, politics, and personal beliefs • Why we judge and isolate others: learned behaviors...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered why certain people or situations trigger such intense emotional reactions in you? What if those triggers aren't just annoying disruptions but actually powerful messengers trying to reveal something important about your unhealed wounds? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into the concept of turning reactivity into wisdom. Instead of the typi...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself on the verge of a breakthrough only to sabotage your progress? You're not alone. In this deeply insightful conversation with Dr. Albert Bramante, performance psychologist, talent agent, and author of "Rise Above the Script," we explore the hidden narratives that keep even the most talented individuals stuck. Our brains are hardwired for...

Send us Fan Mail Joe Dillon, co-founder of Equitable Mediation Services, shares how couples can navigate divorce with clarity, compassion, and collaboration rather than through costly, emotionally destructive litigation. • Divorce doesn't have to be a disaster or train wreck if couples choose to move forward amicably • Mediation promotes "win-win" scenarios instead of the "win-...

Send us Fan Mail Cleveland and Lindsay explore the problem of adult children controlling their parents' lives, sparked by overhearing a family vacation conversation about how "Jack ruins everything." They examine the balance between loving your adult children and preventing them from disrupting your peace and happiness. • Adult children are guests in your home, not entitled resident...

Send us Fan Mail We explore the concept of emotional acceptance and how confronting rather than avoiding difficult feelings is essential to healing from trauma. Transformation happens when we learn to accept our emotions and reframe our relationship with past pain. • Understanding why "you've got to feel it to heal it" • Exploring how trauma physically lives in the body as "iss...

Send us Fan Mail Lindsay and Cleveland explore the messy reality of parenting through recent chaotic events in their household, from a crashed car and shattered picture window to prom dress drama and boundary-setting with young adult children. • A car crash in the driveway leads to insurance claims and unexpected Enterprise rental experiences • The Queen Mom's prom dress saga involves orderin...

Send us Fan Mail Most people don't trust themselves, constantly seeking external validation and living unhappy lives despite trying to please everyone around them. • Self-trust means being comfortable with who you are rather than constantly seeking approval • When you don't trust yourself, you give up command of your life and surrender your agency • Setting boundaries aligns with self-tr...