The Deeper Love Podcast: For the Woman Healing After Betraying Someone She Loved

Most women in the aftermath of an affair are carrying a crushing story about themselves: I ruined everything. There must be something wrong with me. I’m broken. But what if the affair wasn’t a moral failure or a character flaw, but a mirror? In this episode, I speak to the deeper truth that so many women never get the space to explore: that long before the affair, many of us were already surviving...

There’s often a moment after an affair when the noise dies down and the adrenaline fades, and instead of relief you’re left with something far more unsettling - a sense that you’re standing in the middle of your life, but you don’t recognise it anymore. In this episode, I go back to New Year’s Eve - one before and one after my affair was revealed, when I did what I’d always done in social spaces a...

Christmas after an affair can feel unbearable. While the world expects joy, gratitude, and togetherness, you may be secretly surviving something that feels anything but festive. The aftermath of an affair has a way of becoming louder at this time of year. There are fewer distractions, more time together, more family gatherings, and an unspoken pressure to be “okay” when you are very much not. In t...

Most women in the aftermath of an affair try to heal alone. Not because they want to, but because shame tells them it’s too embarrassing to be seen. In today’s conversation, I’m joined by my close friend and fellow coach, Lucy Maeve. We talk about why healing on your own can only take you so far, and why women who have been betrayed someone they love need a community who support them as they navig...

Most women in the aftermath of an affair are drowning in questions they are struggling to find answers for: “Why did it feel so intense?” “Why did it make me feel so alive?” “Why did everything else in my life feel flat?” “Does this mean I’m broken or a bad person?” “Does this mean I should leave my partner?” In this episode, I speak directly to the secret most women who’ve cheated will never unco...

Most women believe their affair means they’ve destroyed their chance at love. But what if the moment everything fell apart was actually the moment your life cracked open? What if it was the doorway into the deepest love you’ve ever known? In today’s episode, I share the truth I wish someone had told me years ago - that deep love isn’t effortless or pretty. It asks more of you. It requires honesty,...

You told the truth, or maybe the truth came out. Either way, you’re in the fallout now. The shame is heavy. The guilt feels constant. And there’s a part of you wondering if you’re ever going to feel okay again. I made this episode for you. For the woman sitting in the rubble of her relationship, still trying to breathe while the world she built is burning. In this solo episode, I share the messy,...

In this episode, I sat down with women’s coach Diera Story , who, like me, had an affair that changed everything. We talk about what really sits beneath infidelity when you’re the woman who was supposed to have it all together. How shame begins long before the betrayal. And how losing everything becomes the moment you finally start to become yourself. Diera shares how early motherhood cracked her...

I remember sitting in front of my therapist, six months after my marriage ended, tears running down my face - “What if no one ever loves me again?” At that point, I’d been through a divorce, I’d cheated on my husband, and I’d made a mess of dating after it all. I felt broken, like damaged goods. And underneath that was the deeper fear: that maybe I was unlovable. In this episode, I share the real...

Six and a half years ago, I was carrying a secret that felt absolutely terrifying to say out loud. I was so scared that anyone would find out about my affair - I felt ashamed, sick with guilt, hiding behind the version of me that looked “fine.” Today, that same story has been printed across a double-page spread in The Daily Mail . And it proves to me, once and for all, that shame no longer runs my...

When I cheated on my husband, I didn’t just lose him, I lost my friends too. For years, those friendships had felt like family. We spent birthdays, weddings, holidays together - I thought they’d be there for life. But when my marriage ended, it all changed. Some drifted. Others ended overnight. And the loneliness that followed was unlike anything I’d ever felt. In this episode, I talk about what r...

This week I had the pleasure of meeting Kristina Joy - a devoted Christian wife and mother, until the secret she carried for seven years forced her to face everything she believed about love, faith, and herself. In this conversation, Kristina shares the story she once swore she’d never say out loud, the affair that became both her deepest shame and her greatest awakening. We speak about the loneli...

Ep 11 — The Phoenix Rising: When the Affair Becomes Your Awakening We think the affair is the end. The end of love. The end of trust. The end of who we thought we were. But what if it’s not the end at all? What if it’s the moment you finally wake up? Before my affair, I was sleepwalking through life. On the treadmill of doing everything “right” - the job, the marriage, the house, the plan. Smiling...

Ep 10 - You Can’t Heal What You’re Still Hiding From Yourself There’s the version of you everyone sees. Smiling. Functioning. Saying you’re fine. And then there’s the version of you no one sees. Carrying the secret. Numb. Anxious. Afraid of what would happen if the truth ever got out. I know that version well — because I lived her. After my affair, I didn’t collapse on the outside. I became “bette...

Content note: This episode contains references to sexual assault, harassment, and STI. Please listen with care and take the space you need. I thought the hardest part was over when my marriage ended. I’d told my husband I cheated. We’d tried therapy. We’d separated with kindness. I moved into my own place and thought: I’ve survived the worst of it. But what came next was what I now call the year o...

You can love someone and still betray them. You can be strong, independent, the cool girl… and still find yourself in an affair. In this conversation with Australia’s leading anxiety therapist, Georgie Collinson, we go deep into the ways anxiety and self-betrayal shape our relationships: How high-functioning anxiety becomes the mask of the cool girl Why silence and “I don’t need you” energy always...

Episode 7: Why Cheating Is a Pattern, Not a Moral Failure This one’s for the woman asking herself: “What is wrong with me?” “Why didn’t I just leave?” “How did I do this again?” In this episode, I explore why cheating isn’t just a one-off mistake, it’s often part of a deeper survival pattern shaped by emotional disconnection, shutdown, and unmet needs. We look at: How your nervous system drives th...

You didn’t cheat because you’re a bad person. You cheated because something in you was trying to survive. Your chest tightens. Your stomach drops. The shame rushes in. And you think: “Why did I do that?” Most people miss this part: Cheating isn’t always a conscious choice. It can be a nervous system response. In this week’s episode of The Deeper Love Podcast , I break down: ✨ Why cheating can be...

We’re taught to see cheating as a simple equation: one person betrays, the other is betrayed. End of story. But the truth is never that clean. In this episode, I share why an affair is never just about the moment it happened or the person it happened with. It’s about everything that came before - the silences, the unspoken needs, the glass walls that build up between two people - long before a bou...

Most women think they know why they cheated. “I wasn’t seen. I felt lonely. I felt unwanted. I was bored. He didn’t love me.” And while those stories are true on the surface, they are not the root. In this episode, I take you deeper. We’ll look at the why beneath the why - the patterns of silencing, perfection, and strength-at-all-costs that began long before the affair. The truth is, the affair w...

What does it really take to rebuild after betrayal? In this episode, I’m joined by fellow love & relationship coach Jessica Hayes, who shares her raw and powerful story of discovering her partner’s infidelity and the journey they took to heal together. We talk about: The moment she found out and how it shattered her world Why “just leave” isn’t the right answer for everyone The messy, non-line...

When a betrayal hits the headlines, like the recent Coldplay cheating scandal, the internet rushes to judge. The memes, the moral high ground, the smug commentary. But what’s really going on beneath the noise? In this episode, I sit down with fellow love & relationship coach Jessica Hayes and Therapeutic Coach Lucy Maeve to talk about what’s missing from the public conversation around infideli...

I never thought I’d be the kind of woman who cheated on her husband, and I’m guessing neither did you. In this episode, I share my story through the lens of a woman who’s had an affair and broken her own heart in the process. Not the surface version, but the truth beneath it: the silence, disconnection, perfectionism, and old wounds that led me there - long before the infidelity happened. If you’v...

In this episode: Alex Croxford sits down with Nastassia Marie, a trauma-informed educator and practitioner specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery. Nastassia’s journey of healing from a history of challenging relationships and family trauma fuels her powerful work, as she brings compassion, humor, and depth to complex subjects. Together, they explore the importance of recognizing inherited tra...

In this episode: Alex Croxford hosts Cody Mathieson Packer, a men’s transformation guide, to discuss the complex dynamics between men and women in relationships. Cody shares his personal journey of overcoming challenges, including a tumultuous marriage and career setbacks, to rediscover himself and step into his role as a guide for men.  Together, they explore how men can confront deep-seated fear...