The Death of a Dream

how often are we just trying to fit. i spent too many years of my life hiding who i truly am to fit a mold not made for me. today we are talking through identities made for you and others not.

my daughter asked why there has never been a girl president. i was speechless which is rare. it got me thinking about the death of our dreams and are there more dreams projected on us as women than there are men. are we recovering from the death of dreams we never had, therefore, placing us in spaces of impossibility?

speaking of dreams. i do not want you to dream and not do. today we are talking about setting yourself up to take steps. those steps come from backing in to your dreams. break it down...all the way down.

sure accountability is a piece of you finding the right fit but don't lose track of holding the other side accountable as well.

hey there just living proof that not all journeys come without failure. i am telling you as i ate the nutella on white bread i remembered how i had just done so great and now i suck?....really. that is just it. you will not get it right 100% of the time it is about outlasting the wrong and doing the best you can given your current situation and build up. build up on a foundation of health.

sometimes it will take a grind. like a HARD one. your hustability (not a word) will carry your past anything but you have to be willing to show up as a sacrifice. a sacrifice of self. be willing to look silly. to get it wrong. to fail. and get back up.

the entire world prior to leaving school had wins built in every four to six months. you were celebrated you had a line in the sand and a level up opportunity. then you leave that and....nothing. no wonder we all wander feeling lost and disengaged and looking to belong and for purpose. we were built in a world that doesn't align with actual operation.

we put a lot of pressure on our 18-year-old selves to get it right for our life. choose right then and there and any deviation from that vision at that moment is perceived as a failure. i know my life as i saw it was going to be a golden ticket based on my athletic ability and i audaciously dreamed that path would unlock all the doors. when that didn't i shrunk in all forms. i didn't have a strong...

more than anything you have to be willing to shoot your shot. you never know how it might end up but start setting up these first steps in the pursuit of your dreams as opportunities to better navigate. be present as you move forward in this space not always looking for the monetization of the relationship but for the relationship and connection and opportunity to perfect your space in your craft....

the one with the work you are called to do. i know it is a challenge to stay with it. that space the one that is your life blood. the one you would wake up everyday for that is the one i want you to go after.

move toward that new life. dreams are what create new space. are you willing to deal with the death of your dream to dream again? start today.

there is space. for anyone and anything. you have unique gifts built to find space in this world. keep going. get started. push more. you can and should do whatever sets your soul on fire.

consistently show up for the suck. being able to outlast the newness of a habit is what will ride out the suckiness of it. you are not going to be good at something new. for those in the back, YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE GOOD AT SOMETHING NEW. 

yep. i know and you know the first steps are hard/seemingly impossible. you have to show up brave in the pursuit because you might just suck for a little while and during that phase, you might also be attacked. bravery in the pursuit will help you through.

ever have that moment when you feel like this just isn't worth overcoming. we are chatting about those moments today. what to do when the path is not forged.

there i sat waiting. trying to be patient. and here i still sit. transitioning out of a small space in to a big one (aka your dream space) takes time little one.

i just want everyone to be aware of all the things. your body. your body's reaction to things. and the fact that the industries filling our bodies are set up to make money.

the biggest dreams you have i want you to live. think big and then bigger. stop living small because of the norm built around you. be big and then bigger.

set your year up to win like never before. we even have a guide people. i do not want anyone to suffer in a place of untapped potential. you have a vision for your life time to start living it.

lets set up 2020 with a word that is set up to guide and save you.

oh just me. i just was practicing what i could see. everyone said write your goals down. overtime i have come to realize the mere practice of writing them down does not accomplish them.

are you even setting yourself up to win. would you even know what a win looks like. we can all write down a dream or goal the ones that win are the ones that practice it along the way. start gearing up for 2020.

I want you to start thinking about what 2020 looks like to you.

why would you ever think you wouldn't be equipped with what you need to pursue your dreams...seriously.

you win or you learn but there is never a loss. all of the journeys are built to take you where you need to go. it is up to you the path you follow because of those things. you are built for greatness.