The Dauntless Grace Exchange

Carolyn Candela joins Megan and Deedra as they talk about all the parts of being an enneagram Four. They really dig into the nuance of how Fours are different from Twos and Threes, and Carolyn shares some parts she's discovered through her IFS work. Carolyn Candela is a Yoga Instructor and Life Coach located in Bend, Oregon. Carolyn's mission is to help disconnected humans live full and em...

Enneagram Three Lauren Vardaman joins Deedra and Megan on the podcast to talk about her journey being a Three and discovering some principles of Internal Family Systems (IFS) for her own healing. Lauren's story encompasses infant loss and miscarriage, and she reveals why learning about being a Three made so much sense as she looks at her grieving process and how she uses her tasking managers to ma...

Deedra's youngest daughter Lela joins the podcast today to talk about being an enneagram Two and some amazing Internal Family Systems (IFS) experiences she's had. The conversation flows from identifying parts of herself in her wings and connecting lines to how amazing God is at giving her a fairy tale glimpse of his love for her.  Lela Mager is an enneagram Two, a college student, and an arti...

Enneagram One Randi McSpadden joins Megan and Deedra to discuss the constellation of parts for her type and how she sees her wings and stress and security lines in action.  Randi and her husband Mike have been married for 25 years and have three amazing children. Randi has been in HR with Ascension Health for over 12 years and currently is the Manager of Associate Success. Her team focuses on...

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapist and podcast host Tammy Sollenberger is back to talk about one of her favorite topics: IFS and the enneagram! Tammy, Megan, and Deedra discuss using the enneagram as a map to find parts of ourselves. Every person has a constellation of parts that begin with their core enneagram number and include their wings and connecting lines. You don't want to miss this i...

This week we're dropping a day early to celebrate Valentine's Day with you! But we also choose to celebrate the gal pal holiday (thanks to Park and Rec) Galentine's Day. In honor of February 13, we decide to play an on-air game of Let's Get Deep: Friends Edition by asking each other questions from the cards!  Real talk: we don't get super deep, but we do get to tell some funny friendship stor...

Deedra and Megan do what they do best today: talk about something they've recently discovered and how it plays with the enneagram! Today is all about attachment styles. Attachment styles are part of relationship theories about how infants receive care, attention, and affection from a caregiver. But our attachment styles play out all the time in our intimate adult relationships. In this episode, we...

On today’s episode, Deedra and Megan discuss enneagram stances in a new way. In episodes past, they’ve taught stances as grouping enneagram numbers by which center of intelligence is repressed. While that’s still a true part of stances, they now also agree that stances can be defined by our relational energy. Also, as part of the discussion, they consider how stance energy can also be used in our...

Last year we offered an episode straight from Highway 44--a road trip recap for our listeners! But today we have for you a recap of our recent cruise to the Bahamas. But don't worry; we aren't here just to talk about paradise islands and having fun on the cruise deck. Instead, we're offering a vulnerable look into how each of us prepared ourselves mentally and emotionally, with IFS and enneagram w...

Megan and Deedra dive back into the roots of Dauntless Grace: discovering the narrative we script for ourselves to protect ourselves from pain. In this conversation, they unpack: what shame means according to Dr. Curt Thompson; Father Richard Rohr's description of "the cult of innocence" and repentance; how we stay asleep to our ego selves; and how we all strive to hide, not heal, our shadow selve...

We are continuing the words of the year discussion with some voicemails and messages from our listeners! Words of the year aren't magical; as Deedra and Megan have talked about each year, words simply provide a focal point as we move through our years. It's a way to focus on the Lord and on showing ourselves more compassion and growth despite the circumstances that come our way. Take a listen to w...

Megan and Deedra discuss their words of the year (dance and play, respectively) for 2022 and what they looked like for them. They also reveal their new words for 2023! Do you have a word of the year chosen? What is it?

Instead of the normally heavy Christmas episode you've come to expect from us, we decided to have some laughs this year! Deedra and Megan discuss their favorite Christmas movies--and which ones rank at the bottom of the list. Will you be surprised by what they each choose? Which obscure movies have you heard of? And most importantly, what's YOUR favorite Christmas movie? Let us know at dauntlessgr...

We're back with the finale of our subtype conversation. As we discussed in the introduction, there are three subtypes for every enneagram number, based on the three instincts (self-preservation, social, and sexual). In this episode, we talk through the subtypes and countertypes for Enneagram Fives, Fours, Threes, Twos, and Ones. Plus, Deedra and Megan process on air about their own subtype stackin...

We're back with a continuation of our subtype conversation. As we discussed in the introduction, there are three subtypes for every enneagram number, based on the three instincts (self-preservation, social, and sexual). We talk through the subtypes and countertypes for Enneagram Nines, Eights, Sevens, and Sixes. For more information (and the graphics Megan created), go to dauntlessgrace.org. 

It's finally that time--we are ready to talk about enneagram subtypes! Subtypes are formed around three instincts we all have: self-preservation, social, and sexual (or one-to-one). Listen as Megan and Deedra explore the following: What does each instinct mean? How do instincts stack? How do you know your subtype? Why is important (or not) to understand subtypes? As always, check out dauntlessgrac...

Approaching the holiday season can be difficult, but it's important not to gloss over those moments of grief with spiritual bypassing. Deedra and Megan discuss how important it is to hold the tension of the both/and in life, how shadows make the light seem brighter (chiaroscuro), and sitting with all the parts of ourselves in those moments.  In this episode, they referenced   Episode 25:...

Deedra and Megan work through happiness: what is it, how do we get it, and why do we need to be aware of it? Like any emotion, happiness is neutral. It’s an indication of what is going on beneath the surface. Happiness by definition is the feeling of pleasure or contentment as the result of favorable circumstances. Happiness can be found when our Spirit-led Self experiences moments of pleasure fro...

Dr. Alison Cook joins Deedra and Megan on the 100th episode of the podcast today! One of our favorite guests, Alison is an IFS therapist and author who just released her new book, The Best of You: Break Free from Painful Patterns, Mend Your Past, and Discover Your True Self in God. Listen as they discuss: the differences between selfishness, selflessness, and selfhood; how spiritual codependence m...

We are celebrating the last two years--and 99 episodes--of The Dauntless Grace Exchange with some of our favorite guests, Meg and Kami! They turn the tables on Deedra and Megan and interview the hosts for the inside scoop. Listen for a behind-the-scenes view into how they create the weekly podcast. They also recap their favorite series, amazing guests, and things they've learned along the way. Plu...

Dauntless Grace has been on a health journey through the podcast this year. We’ve discussed: emotional health; relational health; physical health; and mental health. Megan and Deedra share where they’ve found more wholeness and areas in which they still struggle. But overall, we agree, the journey is worth it, and we break down what each enneagram number needs to hear to get started. Also, episode...

Carolyn Whitney joins Megan and Deedra on the podcast today to talk about her journey through her husband's addiction and finding her own healing on the other side of that trauma. Listen as she encourages us to stand in community with one another as we walk through pain and struggles and to see the hope of Jesus through it all. As always, visit dauntlessgrace.org for more information.

Content warning: suicide Today’s guests are mother and daughter duo Carey Conley and Laurel Wilson. After losing two members of their family to suicide just three years apart – Carey's husband (Laurel's father) and Carey's son (Laurel's brother) – these two strong women chose not to just survive, but to thrive in the face of such adversity. Join us we discuss things like: finding your super safe p...

Kendall and Janell return to the podcast to talk about their business as coaches who take people on a journey of transformation. Besides working with people on the typical nutrition and fitness aspects of coaching, Kendall and Janell dig into what drives people under everything, using enneagram, emotions work, IFS, and embodiment practices. Deedra and Megan accidentally get a little too real as th...

Megan and Deedra talk with Peggy Scott about the outward expression of our inner work--specifically, the presence we are putting out into the world. Peggy Scott is a presence coach, author and public speaker. She is passionate about having people shine their very best through their personal presence, which then extends to every part of their life. She has 30+ years of developing and delivering tra...