The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide™️

New logo. New season. New misadventures and adventures for divorced dad, Eric Payne as he navigates post-divorce life and dating along with a good old healthy dose of self-awareness. In Season 3, Eric deals with:  acceptance true forgiveness lust versus love the power of rejection knowing better and ultimately doing better #datingafterdivorce ___________ Links For Ya:  My farewell to 202...

2020 is officially behind us now (GTFOH). Although currently, the only difference between 2020 and 2021 is one day, that is in fact the gift. You have TODAY. Then tomorrow you will have TODAY. And so on. Decide today to BE different, to BE better, to LIVE a purpose-filled life, and to do so on your terms, which means not in accordance with what social media or anyone else says.  Despite what...

Pimpin' ain't easy and neither is podcasting! It's been exactly one year and 37 episodes since I dropped the first trailer for The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, and what a ride it has been! Listen in for a very special Happy Birthday bonus episode where I go behind the scenes of the podcast to share how it's produced, the music that drives it, and of course, talk about relationship stuff. F...

In the conclusion of two-part Season 2 finale of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, everything comes full circle for Eric on his journey — he's discovered someone he wants to build a relationship with and he comes face to face with his past. What remains to be seen is if he can make it work with C-Sweet Lady and can he come to terms with his past. Episode Music: Wig Split by Epik the Dawn If...

Ready and willing for a change, in the Season 2 Finale of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide, I leave town and head to the Big Apple to spend time with an old acquaintance/coworker and together we explore new territory. Be sure to listen to until the end for fan tributes and a very special tribute. Episode Music: "Orange Cream" & "Not Quite" by Epik The Dawn "Food for Your Neo Soul" by SE...

Too much of anything, no matter how good it is, can become a bit much. In Episode Nine (That Pull-Out Game Weak) of the second season of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide Eric is weary from hopping around from woman to woman and tries his hand a dating again. Before it's all over he gets cornered by two women and receives a text message that stands to change his life. Episode Music: "No Luck...

Episode Eight of the second season of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide finds Eric off whatever high horse he was on and giving in to his sexual urges without remorse or concern that he is ruining his life as a Christian. He doesn't hold back and as he discovers that living a carefree and expectation-free existence gets him the attention, adoration and women with an ease that goes beyond wha...

Post-divorce trauma is real and it can show up in more than one place. Eric is not okay. Picking up where we left off at Episode 5, Episode 7: Joy and Pain — Soul Ties and Ho Cake packs a punch that hits: Putting your ex-wife on Do Not Disturb HBCUs Creating a spreadsheet to evaluate prospective dates Breaking soul ties Experiencing joy Being your own boss at someone else's job The power of choice...

Welcome to a special edition of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. I was personally impacted by the death of Rayshard Brooks as it occurred mere minutes from my house. In light of it being Juneteeth and with Father's Day 2020 only a couple days away I decided to break from the story line of post-divorce Eric getting his life together and discuss the racial and civil unrest of the past few we...

Eric has kept a trump card tucked away in his back pocket — a secret he doesn't even share with even his closest friends and his newly retained mentors who are helping him along his journey to new life post-divorce. It's something that give him brief pleasure but it is a source of great shame. What am I talking about? Married women who are ready and willing whenever Eric wants their company. In th...

In Episode 4 Eric continues on his journey of life, love and pursuing peace and joy. His relationship with Newroom Reporter Lady forces him to discover what is the stuff of relationships — what makes them work and what doesn't. About the Podcast: The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a biweekly, serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of a man in his fortie...

As Eric continues on his journey of life, love and pursuing peace and joy, he is forced to discover what is the stuff of relationships — what makes them work and what does not. About the Podcast: The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide is a biweekly, serial podcast that thoughtfully and often hilariously narrates the journey of a man in his forties - faced with the challenge of star...

Eric's dating journey continues, but not without its challenges. He has to deal with his ex-wife texting him a whole lot more than he'd like, showing up late for dates, and learning what to share and what not to share when meeting new people ___________ Visit DatingAfterDivorceSoundtrack.com and sign up for updates to hear the music that both inspired and was often played during the events describ...

As much as you try to move forward with your life sometimes the past won't let go. Episode 3 arrives this Thursday, 05.07.2020.

Eric gains a very powerful ally along his quest to better manhood: the Black woman. In this episode, he extolls his love for them and why black women matter — reasons that go beyond the basics of love and companionship. But Eric is still new on his journey into middle-aged, single life. He is contending with self-image a.k.a. his weight, and temptation awaits him around every corner — even at a bi...

In January of 2020, with the first season of The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide almost done, I was asked who I created the podcast for. The way I began my answer is not the way I finished it. Check out this short clip on what you get and why you get it when you subscribe to this bi-weekly podcast. PS - It's for everyone. ----------------------------- Download your Free 60 Minutes of Self-Care...

The story picks up where we left off at the end of Season One. It's January 1, 2017 and Eric begins to come into his own as a single man. He has a high-visibility job and he realizes he has more time on his hands than he's had in over a decade. What he does with both become the key factors that determine his year and the rest of his life. In this episode he addresses: being a divorced dad living a...

The road to Hell is paved with good intentions. Emotional pain pierces like small, constant drops of water. It's a dull beating that wears a path through you destroying everything in its path and leaving very little behind. Eric carries his pain as best he can — to the point of thinking he can keep it to himself, until he can't. Season 2, Season of the Wolf, begins April 9th, 2020. Please, subscri...

It's when things are most challenging that we begin to wonder why we are here or for that matter, do we matter? In today's Monday Motivation I share (for a limited time only) a guided meditation that I originally created based on affirmations I used to tell myself when I was going through the worst of times — divorce, unemployment, loneliness, my father's illness, to name a few. It's especially ap...

CORRECTION: The link mentioned at the end of the episode is incorrect see the corrected link below (before the dotted line). Today's Monday Motivation comes on a Tuesday. In this episode, I'm talking about creating quality time for ourselves now that we are in the Time of Coronavirus. Depending on where you are in the world, you may be days or weeks into self-isolating and quarantine due to the CO...

"Never Settle" is Eric’s personal mantra and he shares why now especially, during the Time of Coronavirus (COVID-19) and #ClubQuarantine it’s more important than ever to never settle in the following areas: in life in work in love If it turns out you have been settling, Eric offers suggestions on how to change things up — for the better. Domestic Violence Hotline Help (US only): 1-800-799-7233 Tex...

So here we are in the midst of a pandemic that has been months in the making, but took only a week's worth of media and peer pressure to turn life upside down here in the U.S. If you're home like I am take a listen and get your week started off right with some insights and tips on how to beat the COVID-19 aka Coronavirus Blues. Something I didn't mention in this episode: stay informed, but stay aw...

Welcome to Motivational Mondays 3.09.2020: Time does heal all wounds. This is probably the last thing you want to hear when you're at the start or in the middle of a thing that is challenging you, but if you ever want to get to finish it, or avoid repeating it, time is what you will have to trust in order to finish your race. Listen, subscribe and learn how I learned to trust time to accomplish an...

Here is your Monday Motivation, because it's Monday, somewhere. Welcome to a new segment, not to be confused with the new season of the Dating After Divorce Survival Guide. This week let's take a look at telling the truth. Telling the truth, no matter what the situation, can often be a scary thing when your truth is not in agreement with what someone else wants. But why? Why do we keep our truths...

In this, the Season One Finale , the highs and lows and straight up ridiculousness of single life begin to take their toll on Eric. The pain is REAL! Instead of being in love and being at peace, he finds himself emotionally drained, conflicted, and angry and confused as to what it is exactly he is doing when it comes to the opposite sex and maybe more importantly, what are his reasons for doing it...