The Conscious Matchmaker

Who's Really Going on That Date? (Hint: It's Not Just You) In this episode of The Conscious Matchmaker , Sophy Singer and Justin Wilford unpack what happens when all your INNER PARTS show up on a date—whether you invite them or not. Using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework, your hosts reveal what’s really going on when you're swiping, flirting, chatting and ghosting. Ever feel like part o...

‘The Materialist’ serves up drama, glamour, and a Hollywood take on the matchmaking world— but real-life love stories are a little less scripted. Your hosts and Pro Matchmakers Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster pull back the curtain on the film’s glossy version of their profession, exploring what it gets right, what it misses, and why it matters. From letting go of “perfect partner” checklists to...

Sophy and Elizabeth are back in this raw and resonant episode, pulling back the curtain on what true success in dating and in love really looks like. Unpacking what separates their most successful matchmaking clients from the rest, they share powerful stories— including one-and-done love stories, red-flag reversals, and power-couple fantasies gone sideways. Tune in to see how the real magic happen...

Let’s talk pre- and post-date texting. Okay, so there aren’t any hard and fast rules—just tools. From the fun and flirty to the overanalysis, texting in the dating space can be as much of an existential crisis as it is a tool for connection. Should you text first? Drop an emoji? Wait three hours or three days? How do we move from a thread to a date? Things can get… prematurely judgy— and suddenly...

Is it really a RED FLAG or is it actually PINK? Elizabeth Foster and Susanna Matthews deep-dive into FLAGS in modern dating and the importance of differentiating between RED and PINK FLAGS, and how to break the pattern of confirmation bias-- when we look for those RED flags before seeing the GREEN. With a mindset shift and a healthy dose of curiosity, we go beyond FLAGS and begin to peel back the...

Your host, Elizabeth Foster, and fellow matchmaker, Susannah Stengel, layout the pros, cons and realities of datings apps vs. dating in the wild. In the apps or in the field, dating can be a daunting experience leading to fatigue, frustration, and burnout. Drawing from client stories and personal experiences, Elizabeth and Susannah emphasize the importance of intentionality and boundaries when it...

In this episode of The Conscious Matchmaker, your host, Elizabeth Foster, along with guest Paige Barlow, delve into the secret of connecting on a first date. Let's face it, between first date nerves and the hope that this person will check all the boxes (or at least SOME of them), grounding into authentic connection can be difficult. This episode explores just how important presence and true curio...

If find yourself desperately searching for Mr. Right (Mrs./NB)... this one is for you. Your hosts, Sophy and Elizabeth, share two client stories from the dating field that highlight the complexities of emotional connections that form from trauma bonding and a crucial shift in mindset that will alchemize that "desperate dating" energy. Plus a new announcement! Ever wished for that 90s-feel dating h...

How many dates and apps have we been on searching or scrolling for "The One".... or someone....or ANYone? How often have we felt empty, misunderstood, unseen, or even hopeless after a date? In this potent Words from the Wise episode, Sophy sits with Dr. Justin Wilford in a candid conversation about Internal Family Systems, Attachment Styles, and their transformative upcoming workshop, "Becoming th...

Ever feel like dating is an endless succession of interviews? Sometimes you're the interviewer and sometimes the interviewee. This is what happens when dating becomes transactional rather than transformative. In this From the Field episode, we dive into 3 juicy ways to breathe life back into your dating life, so that it becomes a point of fun and growth for you both! With real life and real relata...

We all have the question we dread being asked about ourselves; the part that we tuck deep down inside, hoping it won't be poked or prodded until we feel secure enough in the relationship...or maybe...never. This deeply personal episode encourages us to peel back those layers of fear and dread in order to create more intimacy with ourselves and in our dating life. In this 'From the Field' episode,...

Your hosts, Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster, share their top 3 conscious ways to overcome dating fatigue and prevent or recover from burnout. We've all experienced the dating dread and boredom that leaves one feeling...uninspired. If you are looking for a way to reclaim freedom and fun in your dating-swipe-life, you don't want to miss this episode...it's for you. And don't forget to hit that sub...

When you can't seem to find that person that checks all of your boxes.... A From the Field intimate inside look into navigating dating woes and transformations with Sophy Singer, founder of Sophy Love. A peek into one client's transformative journey from a toxic relationship, followed by a rough breakup, to a vibrant and joyous dating life. Tune in to find out how! Visit Us: https://sophy.love/ Th...

In this episode of The Conscious Matchmaker, Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster discuss the fifth practice of Authentic Relating-- Honor Self and Other. They explore the concept of The Platinum Rule, and how to use this tool to transform your dating life, which involves treating others how they want to be treated rather than assuming they want to be treated the same way we do. Emphasizing the impor...

Enrich, enliven and uplevel your dating life with this one tool: Own Your Experience. The fourth practice of Authentic Relating, Own Your Experience, is the tool that sets you free to express your authentic self. "No one is coming to save you," a tough truth that Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster explore within the dating space, sharing examples of clients who have used this practice to find deepe...

Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster have an illluminating conversation with Ryel Kestano, the author of, 'Authentic Relating.' .They discuss the challenges of dating in the modern world and how to navigate them utilizing Authentic Relating practices. Not only will they touch on the best way to use dating apps to enrich your dating life, Sophy, Ryel, and Elizabeth also explore the importance and free...

In this episode of The Conscious Matchmaker, Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster discuss the 3rd Pillar in Authentic Relating: Revealing Your Experience. They announce an upcoming course called Closer to You, the Art of Conscious Dating. They explore the challenges and fears associated with revealing oneself in the dating scene, but the benefits this act of truth brings to connection and intimacy. T...

In this episode of The Conscious Matchmaker, Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster discuss the second practice of Authentic Relating: Assume Nothing. They explore how assumptions can get us into trouble, especially when meeting new people. They also discuss the cause and effect of assumptions in the dating space. The hosts emphasize the importance of slowing down, checking assumptions, and being curio...

Summary In this episode of the Conscious Matchmaker, Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster discuss the concept of Authentic Relating. They introduce the five practices, focusing on the first practice: welcome everything. Authentic Relating is a framework for deeper connection and a tool for bringing unconscious thoughts and feelings to consciousness. They emphasize the importance of welcoming everythi...

Summary In the pilot episode of The Conscious Matchmaker, Sophy Singer and Elizabeth Foster introduce themselves and discuss the concept of conscious matchmaking. They emphasize the importance of turning inward and focusing on personal growth and healing in order to create meaningful connections. The vision and mission of Sophy Love are also shared, highlighting the goal of transforming dating int...