The Conscious Couples Podcast

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about identifying when you are in a conditional love cycle. They discuss how sometimes you can’t see that the relationship you're in is holding you back from flourishing. Maybe you're afraid to do some things because your action will cause your partner to get angry...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about what’s the go-to action or reaction when a crisis happens in a relationship, how you treat each other during that time, and how you treat each other after. They also share such a time in their relationship and how they resolved and got through it together. Show notes:...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss how to determine if your partner needs therapy and how to give them a loving nudge in the right direction. They cover the touchy subject of men being more hesitant about going into therapy and what holds them back. They share the reasons for therapy and the ben...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the importance of being aware of the top three relationship killers and navigating around these to protect your relationship and grow with your partner. It is essential that you deal with these bugs in the garden early on or as soon as they crop up in your rela...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In a healthy relationship, everything just kind of works. Sure, you might disagree from time to time or come upon other bumps in the road. Still, you generally make decisions together, openly discuss any problems that arise, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company. In this episode, they ta...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss the importance of having your relationship’s rulebook instead of following what other people say are the “shoulds and shouldn’t.” especially when you’re in a new relationship; people often share the rules that made their relationships last. Unfortunately, their rules don’...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about the different attachment styles. They describe how you develop attachment styles and share a study about them. You can have more than one attachment style and tendencies, depending on your relationship with your caregiver or caregivers when you were a child....

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about being growth-oriented in a relationship and who is more future-focused between you and your partner. A lot of people believe that relationships are synonymous with discomfort. This is because a relationship represents a permanent sacrifice, an uncomfortable...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they talk about a higher level of goal-setting for couples. They share examples of couples who set goals together and achieved them. They also discuss how sharing your goals and dreams with your partner or friend can help make them a reality. They also add that it is okay t...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they talk about a not uncommon scenario in a relationship: when you or your partner tune each other out. Successful relationships are all about healthy communication and listening to each other. However, it's not uncommon for couples to experience periods when talking to each oth...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the vital signs of relationships and share their top five cup fillers. Alan describes how he put his finger on the pulse of their relationship one day. Then, they walk us through how they resolve a problem by talking and making the needed adjustment so that the...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. What is your experience with fighting in a relationship? Did you grow up where fighting is constant and regular in your home, or was there no fighting at all? Fighting in a relationship may result from exposure to fights growing up. It appears like a normal part of a relationship because we...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Have you ever felt helpless in your relationship? This usually happens when your partner needs help but they are not helping themselves or when a line is crossed. In this episode, they talk about what to do when you feel helpless in your relationship. They go into setting standards for your...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Your partner is your favorite person in the whole world – so why do you feel like you need time away from them? Today they talk about getting alone time in your relationship and whether or not you’re getting enough of yours. Being partners doesn’t mean you have to do everything together. Ne...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Essentially, wearing the pants in a relationship refers to dominance. The person who wears the pants in a relationship is the one who has more control. But that doesn’t mean that their feelings are stronger or weaker. You can still have a relationship where someone “wears the pants,” and it...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. More and more companies are trending to allow some, if not all, of their employees the flexibility to work from home, at least some of the time. The trend for one or both partners to work from home is definitely on the rise. And it comes with one or more challenges. Today they talk about th...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. It’s that time of year again. Christmas songs are playing on the radio. decorations are up. and the pressure is on to begin (or finish) your gift shopping. How can our memories of Christmas be so joyful and warm while our holiday reality seems so frantic and packed with things to do and obl...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Relationships are wonderful. And we know how exciting it is when you’re first starting to combine your life with another person. But that can sometimes become our whole world! You don’t connect with your friends as much, you stop doing activities you love, all because you’re totally infatua...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Whether you have common goals with your partner may seem easy to answer, but in reality, it is not. Today they talk about setting goals when you’re in a relationship, figuring out whether you and your partner have the same ones, and what you can do when you feel like you don’t. Show notes:...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Some people are naturally more emotional than others. That’s not a bad thing when those emotions lead to empathy and caring. But let's talk about those "over-the-top" emotional responses to what life dishes out. In today’s episode, they talk about emotions and whether or not...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. A trigger is something that sets off a memory, a sensation, or an emotion that belongs to another time and place in our lives and leads to an overreaction to what’s happening at the moment. In this episode, they talk about the importance of knowing your attachment style and your relationshi...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Talking about money in relationships is inherently awkward, especially when you’ve never done it before. Or if you have and it didn’t go well. Today they talk about the importance of having that conversation in your relationship. It can be an uncomfortable topic, but everyone has to start s...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Our comfort zone is the safest place we can ever be in. But that’s also where we find the least amount of growth if there’s any. In this episode, they talk about how you can grow by finding the balance or the messy middle in your relationship. They also share what you can do to find that ba...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. Today they discuss whether or not compromise is a lie in a relationship. We’ve all heard that “marriage or a relationship is about compromise” talk. It’s like a rite of passage that marriage veterans pass on to singles or couples who are considering tying the knot. But the truth is, blendin...

Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your hosts and real-life couple Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they discuss the expectation that one partner knows what the other needs or wants and how this can jeopardize a relationship. In a relationship, there is often a perception that nobody knows you better than your partner. The longer your relationship, the more that perceptio...