The Connected Wife

Send us Fan Mail Are you struggling to effectively communicate with your spouse?  Do you feel like you're talking to the wind, with no response in sight?  Don't let communication issues ruin your marriage. Good communication is crucial in any relationship, especially in marriage. It helps to build trust and create a lasting, happy partnership. But if communication breakdowns are causing...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever heard the saying, "It's better late than never"? While it's true that it's never too late to make a change, it's always better to realize mistakes before regret sets in. That's why it's important to say, especially as you pursue a happier marriage, that "It's better to realize now than regret it later." As imperf...

Send us Fan Mail Rules are an important part of any relationship, and this is especially true in the context of a marriage.  In a marriage, rules serve as protection and guideposts for a happy and lasting relationship.  By following these rules and putting in the effort to make your marriage a priority, you can create a strong and lasting relationship that brings you both joy and fulfillment. It i...

Send us Fan Mail What's Love Got to Do with having a Happier Marriage? Is it necessary? Does it make a difference? Whatever we are doing, it’s always easier to work on something new if there is an example in front of us that we can follow. Married couples who have successful marriages that we can emulate and be mentored by make a world of a difference. It could mean the difference between a h...

Send us Fan Mail What's Love Got to Do with It   (Tina Turner, 1993) In your opinion, what is love, and how does it work?  Humans have different perspectives when it comes to explaining what love is. Some people change their view on love as they grow older and their experiences redefine love. Others simply have no clue what love is. They are confused. Is it any wonder many marriages never exp...

Send us Fan Mail Rescue Your Marriage Now! I know you are familiar with the acronym "ASAP," which means As soon as possible. When someone suggests you do something ASAP, you tend to feel pressured and the need to respond almost right away. Right? It's the same as marriage, and we cannot deny that sometimes there's an urgency to act quickly to solve problems and in some cases, r...

Send us Fan Mail Your wife wants these needs met by you! Yes, you have needs as well but meeting the needs of your wife will have significant ROI (return on investments). Don't believe me, try these and see what happen. You'll thank me later. In the previous podcast episode, the focus was on what it is you as a husband need most from your wife , but here we're unpacking what she nee...

Send us Fan Mail More than love! This is hard for you when you have so much love to give. And the person to whom you want to give it - your husband - seems to not care for it. You're now hurt and disappointed. You may have heard that “Love is the key to everything”, which sounds good on the surface because we all want and need to be loved, right? But love alone is not enough especially when i...

Send us Fan Mail A happier marriage that lasts. No longer possible? Is that your belief? How did you come to this conclusion?  Yes, many marriages are not last "until death do us part" anymore. This is so unfortunate. It's become the norm. What if your marriage could be the exception? Not only lasts but also be happier. If it is going to be so, there are a few things that you must d...

Send us Fan Mail How is it possible that you can have a happier marriage if you feel like you've tried everything and your spouse isn't making any effort to do the same? Perhaps, you feel like giving up because of exhaustion, painful experiences, or simply discouragement. The responsibility for a happier marriage/life/home is mutual. Both spouses are responsible. Because the needs are di...

Send us Fan Mail Keep it nurtured! To make a plant, strong, you have to water and nurture it frequently. Without it, the plant wilts and will eventually die. Of course, you don’t let that happen. It’s also true for relationships. It is not enough to develop a deep connection with your spouse at the beginning of your marriage and do nothing more about it. No, you have to "water" and &quot...

Send us Fan Mail Need to exchange your currency! Imagine going to a foreign country that does not accept the currency of your native country. And so, you get there and try to transact business. The first thing you need to do is obviously exchange your currency for that country's currency so you can transact business in that country. Right? That will be the only way to do business there. Simil...

Send us Fan Mail How to Fix it! If you were sick, you need to go to the doctor and request the doctor to help you overcome your sickness, right? That doctor will offer you a prescription, and you have to choose whether to accept the prescription or not. Your response will be an indication of how badly you want the sickness to end. Restoring a broken marriage is not an easy one, but it’s not imposs...

Send us Fan Mail Be the solution, not the problem A couple is like a team who has the same goal and plan to achieve it. And that goal is none other than having a lasting and happier marriage.  Unfortunately, due to imperfections and differences, the words and actions of you and your spouse might not likely reflect your goal. And that is where the conflict starts. Surely, you don’t want to be the c...

Send us Fan Mail There is a key. Do you know what it is and how to find it? When you’re trapped in the excitement of your wedding, it can be undeniably hard to imagine that you and your spouse might not have a happier marriage. But a marriage based on Love, Maturity, and Mutual Respect doesn’t just happen by chance. You and your spouse have to do something or even change to cultivate it. Here’s wh...

Send us Fan Mail Don’t make it years, live with it forever! How long have you been married? A decade or more? When you read that question, did you feel a sense of excitement or was it mixed emotions? Here's what I know: all couples want to have a lasting and happier marriage . But the road to that destination is never a straight line. If you've been married for a few years, you would agr...

Send us Fan Mail “Do not cross the Line” What image does this phrase conjure up in your mind?  Are you one of those who automatically think of restrictions? It sounds negative, right? But could there be another way of looking at it? Let's take the phrase "do not cross the line" into that of marriage and setting healthy boundaries. Do you and your spouse have agreed upon boundaries? ...

Send us Fan Mail What have you predicted lately and how did it turn out?  If you are anything like me, most of the things I have predicted haven't turned out the way I thought they would.  Some of my predictions were emotionally driven and that is not a good way to make predictions. Would you agree? Suppose I told you that based on a 20-year study and over 2000 couples, it has been predicted...

Send us Fan Mail Keep it alive ... Revive! Working through marriage problems in a healthy and productive way can be very difficult.  Has that been your experience? Here's what I know: working through them can either draw you closer or push you apart, depending on how you and your spouse handle the challenges you face in your relationship. You and your spouse have different ideas of what it wi...

Send us Fan Mail Don't ignore the signs In a relationship, who do you think is more instinctual husband or wife? I know sometimes wives are. However, guys in general, and there are always exceptions, tend to overlook the small issues in a relationship. Intentionally pursuing a "happier marriage" marriage status is not something they readily do.  Wives on the other hand see every lit...

Send us Fan Mail Are you only treating the symptoms? Do you know the cause? What if the reason you aren't having that happy marriage is simply because of something from your childhood that you aren't even aware of? In this episode, our guest - Goumah Conde, and I, peel back a few layers of what lies beneath and is holding you back from experiencing a happier marriage and it might just su...

Send us Fan Mail Smooth Sailing, you thought! Right? Imagine you have planned a family trip. You organized and considered everything to have as smooth a trip as possible.  But the weather was uncooperative and you had to cancel your trip. What is the first emotion that comes your way? If you say feelings of disappointment, you and I would be on the same page. That's my first thought as well. ...

Send us Fan Mail Empathic, not Empathetic! When some people hear me say the word "Empathic," they tend to say, "You mean empathetic, right?" And I'll say no, it is Empathic. In this episode you will hear me talk about Empathic Communication as the singular most effective communication skill for a happier marriage and why that is so. The word empathic is not used as much in...

Send us Fan Mail The secret is revealed! How often do you receive this question, "How are you guys doing?  When asked, do you feel awkward? Nervous? Anxious? Would you like to answer with the words "we're happy and  doing well?" Every couple, including myself, dream of a happy marriage, right?   I know that there are numerous resource being used to promoted ways to achieve a ha...

Send us Fan Mail Many couples are desperate to have a happier marriage but the way they are going about it isn't getting them what they want.  In their desperation, they will resort to saying and doing things hoping for a change. Here are 5 Top mistakes they make. See if you are making any of them and listen to see what you can do differently. Top 5 Mistakes; Trying to change their spouse Gan...