The Connected Wife

Send us Fan Mail We all know the saying: "Don't say anything you'll regret later," especially during heated arguments. But in the heat of the moment, staying calm and collected can be incredibly challenging. If you've ever been there, you know exactly what I'm talking about. I certainly do. Sometimes, even as the words left my mouth, I knew I would regret them, and I...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like your spouse speaks a different language? Have you ever wished your spouse could just read your mind? Do you and your spouse argue more than you talk? As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Relationship Coach, I’ve encountered these issues with many couples. Most of these problems, I’ve found, could have been avoided if these spouses had grasped th...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wondered what it takes to make a marriage last with divorce rates soaring and fairy tales often falling apart or falling short? It's a question many of us ponder. I remember when I first got married in 1985. It's a very long time, right? I had some questions. There were some uncertainties. We were young and just getting into life, not fully aware of what life had to...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like your home is always filled with tension, like a battlefield instead of a peaceful sanctuary? Do little things seem to snowball into big issues, making every day a challenge? If you've ever felt this way, you're not alone. In this episode, we're diving into how to make your marriage more peaceful with three proven practices. Whether you've tried s...

Send us Fan Mail Marriage is undeniably wonderful, but let's face it, it can get a bit complicated at times, can't it? Have you ever thought about what are some of the distinguishing factors that set successful and flourishing marriages apart from the rest? What are the secrets to constructing a love that endures through time and how can one nurture it? Discovering the keys to building a...

Send us Fan Mail Do you feel that sometimes, you and your spouse are two roommates, or do you feel like you're like two ships passing in the night, but never connecting?  Or maybe,  you feel like your relationship is one where you wonder what's happening ... what's happening to our marriage?  And you feel lonely wondering whether your spouse still loves and cares for you ... Imagine...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling like you and your spouse are operating on entirely different wavelengths is a common experience shared by many couples. When partners struggle to effectively communicate, it can lead to misunderstandings, frustration, and ultimately unhappiness in the relationship. It's important to acknowledge that many couples experience these challenges, and you're not alone i...

Send us Fan Mail What's it like for you when you feel like your husband or wife is not willing to deal with an issue? It's almost as if you're left to pretend that everything is ok, right? That can be incredibly frustrating. I know because I've been guilty of that myself in my own relationship, my own marriage, where I find that in my mind, it's easier to just do the avoid...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever come across those signs or lists indicating that your marriage is doomed, or worse, already over? It can be quite disheartening, don't you think? When experts point out these indicators, essentially telling you to accept the reality and move on, it can feel like a harsh reality check. It begs the question: What more evidence do you need to acknowledge that it&ap...

Send us Fan Mail Creating an emotionally safe space takes work and requires skills that you might not be currently using. However, it is something that is desperately needed. Imagine a world where you feel safe and comfy in your marriage. It's like sailing a boat smoothly on calm waters, feeling happy and secure.  But what if your boat gets stuck and you feel scared and unsure?  That's w...

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you're bending over backward just to keep the peace at home? Yeah, we've all been there!  Maybe you call it "people-pleasing" and sometimes it can feel like the only way to avoid a fight. While it's totally normal to want things to be calm and happy, listen up: constant people-pleasing can actually hurt your relationship in the long run. Her...

Send us Fan Mail Imagine this. You've attended countless workshops, read numerous books, and practiced countless communication techniques, right? All in the hopes of improving your marriage. Yet, despite all of your efforts, you still find yourself stuck in the same frustrating cycle that you know of misunderstandings and arguments. This might sound familiar, right? But If you can relate to o...

Send us Fan Mail Do most of your conversations with your spouse end up in a fight? Have you ever wished,  that you could sit down with your spouse and just talk about what's bothering you, causing you sleepless nights, anxiety, and sadness without feeling fearful of ending up arguing more, or being gaslighted? Or for that matter, making matters worse. Of course, having this conversation is on...

Send us Fan Mail It's indeed crucial for couples to have meaningful conversations, regardless of how busy life gets and the responsibilities they may have.  If couples find it challenging to make time for even short conversations, it can indeed be difficult to engage in deeper discussions. Most of the time, drama interferes with deeper and more difficult conversations. There are pros and cons...

Send us Fan Mail Feeling neglected when your spouse is overly focused on work is a common struggle. It can leave you questioning the place of your marriage in their priorities. Have you been in this kind of situation? Maybe you felt a sinking feeling in your stomach when I mentioned this because you can relate. It's like his job has taken over, leaving you feeling sidelined as just the spouse...

Send us Fan Mail When you attempt to keep the spark alive when your husband is busy building the business can be challenging. No need to convince you. You know that. In addition to prioritizing the family's well-being, some husbands are also striving to build the "family" business. Can you identify with this? Challenges between you and your husband can arise despite your shared goal...

Send us Fan Mail In trying to revitalize your marriage, it is not uncommon that the advice given is to seek therapy. Therapy does have its place and for the most part, has proven useful for many people. It can reignite the spark in your marriage and other relationships so I want to emphasize that suggesting the possibility of doing that very thing without therapy doesn't diminish its value. ...

Send us Fan Mail A life of alignment of faith, family, and impact is something that many people aspire toward but not many have done so successfully as you'll hear in this episode. Having a good example to imitate can serve as a valuable guide and source of inspiration in various aspects of life.  No doubt, the first factor that comes to mind as having a significant impact on your life is you...

Send us Fan Mail In tough times, it might feel like your home is a bit like a war zone. The tensions and interactions with your husband could be making things challenging. And maybe as you're listening to this, your home feels like that. Take a brief pause for a moment. If you take a closer look at why things might feel this way, what recurring theme or issue stands out to you? Identify the m...

Send us Fan Mail “Success leaves clue”. Have you heard that before? A common perception is that success requires constant hustle, perpetual motion, and an unrelenting pace. There's often pressure to keep pushing oneself beyond limits, and the fear of falling behind if not continuously engaged in action. This perspective can indeed be exhausting and can lead to burnout or a feeling of inadequa...

Send us Fan Mail It's a new year, which means it's important for us to stay on track towards maintaining a happier marriage. Reflecting on 2023, how was it for you and your family? How were the experiences, challenges, and memorable moments that shaped your year? I hope you can reminisce about the joyful and memorable moments spent with your family. There might have been areas where you...

Send us Fan Mail As we close out 2023 and you look back over the months leading up to this point, I want to ask you this question, " Are you ending the year with regrets, fear, worry, or excitement, hope, and great expectation?" Maybe it's with a mixture of both because these two thoughts can co-exist. I hope as we turn the page on another year, you like me, can feel the whispers of...

Send us Fan Mail The concept of true masculinity, defined by strength, responsibility, and compassion, holds immense significance in today's world. Authentic masculinity is not about promoting aggression, disrespect, or the degradation of others. Rather, it revolves around qualities such as integrity, empathy, responsibility, and respect for oneself and others. What defines a strong man or a...

Send us Fan Mail Leadership redefined is necessary if we are going to get a different outcome in life and our work. Would you agree with that? So, if you are feeling exhausted from juggling work and family responsibilities, you need to know that it is completely normal for leadership. As the leader of your home,  there are moments when balancing everything feels overwhelming. So, how do you cope w...

Send us Fan Mail Taking your marriage from good to great requires a radical shift from the approach given to marriages today. Did you know that you could give your marriage an 80% chance of being successful?  Of course, we want to make it 100%, something that all couples desire, but based on the stats that 50% of marriage ends in divorce, 80% is a great outcome. When you as a high-achieving busine...