The Connected Life

For many, the church has been a place of deep wounding rather than healing. Whether you've personally experienced pain or watched destructive behavior unfold, it can feel impossible to stay connected to faith when the place meant to embody love feels anything but safe. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the complexity of church wounds—why they happen, how they impact our sense of self-worth,...

Denial is one of the biggest roadblocks to living a full and abundant life—but most of us don't even realize when it's at play. It's not always intentional or malicious; often, it's an unconscious defense against pain, fear, and shame. But what we refuse to see, we can't heal. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore how denial quietly shapes our lives, keeps us disconnected, and prevents us from r...

Red flags get all the attention—but what about the green flags? We're so quick to call out what to avoid, but do we actually know what to look for in healthy, thriving relationships? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into seven green flags that signal someone is a great person to build connection with—whether it's romantic or platonic. They break down key traits that make relationships fulfilli...

Many have experienced a version of faith that prioritizes performance over authenticity, often leaving little room for emotional honesty or personal healing. In part 2 of this two part series, Justin and Abi continue their deep dive into the intersection of faith and emotional health, tackling the ways in which toxic forgiveness and spiritual bypassing prevent genuine healing. They explore how rel...

We've all had something we've wanted and found ourselves so desperate to obtain it, that we find ourselves compromising out of FOMO. In our anxiety, this ravenous hunger causes us to abandon our values and miss out on what we really want. The regret is real, but it doesn't have to stay that way. In this episode Justin and Abi dig into the desperation trap and the impact of that on experiencing the...

For many, institutionalized faith and emotional health often feel like two opposing worlds. This separation between spirituality and emotional intelligence has been a longstanding issue, preventing many from experiencing life to its fullest. But does it have to stay this way? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the essential partnership between faith and emotional health. They explore the la...

Life can often feel like it's happening to us. We can feel powerless to partners, children, friends, employers, and endless circumstances. We can choose to live like a pinball in a game we have no control over, or we can step out of the chaos and start playing the game with intention. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the impact of building a healthy lifestyle rooted in self-management. Th...

It's easy to feel stuck, endlessly looping through the same life cycles, and spinning our wheels. It can seem like we're barely making progress, leaving us exhausted and defeated. But what if mastering one skill could shift the trajectory of our growth forever? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah, to explore the transformative power of lear...

At some point, we've all felt like life is happening to us. Losses, betrayals, misunderstandings, and unexpected challenges can leave behind pain and destruction that feels out of our control. The result? A sense of powerlessness as we're left to clean up the mess. But what if we play a bigger role than we realize—and there's more we can do about it than we think? In this episode, Justin and Abi s...

For many, New Year's resolutions are a pact to change areas of our lives, hoping that those changes will make us more worthy and lovable. Pushing ourselves to transform from a place of lacking self-worth in hopes of gaining acceptance is unproductive and defeating in the long run. So, is there a better way to create lasting change? In this episode, Abi and Justin ditch traditional New Year's resol...

In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Abi discuss the profound impact grief and suffering have on humanity, exploring how the radical love of God can overcome the despair and hopelessness we all face during overwhelming and painful experiences. Justin shares his personal journey of nearly losing Abi to her illness, revealing how his breaking point became a turning point for hope and freedom. Abi r...

Chronic physical pain and illness have left many of us searching for answers, forced to navigate life with limiting circumstances. The experience can often feel overwhelming and hopeless. But what if there's a path to resolution that the medical industry hasn't accounted for? In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their friend and Life Consultant, Carly Kolbo, to explore her remarkable jour...

We've all had times where we feel like we've been hijacked and our actions don't line up with our values. Many of us have reactions to circumstances that we're not proud of. Maybe it's a sense of lashing out or pulling away that we know doesn't represent us well. Maybe it's an addictive behavior we're suddenly compelled to do. Whatever it may be, we don't have to be victims to these hijackings. In...

Do you ever dread talking to that "one person" at a social event? We've all been there. And, unknowingly, we've probably been that person at some point. While they didn't teach this in school, learning how to relate to others is essential—and we're here to help! In this episode, Justin and Abi address the social elephants in the room as they discuss seven keys to relating to humans that can drasti...

Few people imagine that their bodies play an instrumental role in the repair process on the journey to emotional wholeness. Most people see the body as a separate entity from everything else. Because of this, they can find themselves unnecessarily bumping into a glass ceiling for years. But what if that could all change? In this episode, Abi and Justin are joined by friend and fellow Life Consulta...

The secret to creating a fulfilled life often seems like a mystery everyone is searching for. We travel down countless paths, hoping to find something outside ourselves to quench an inner sense of dissatisfaction. But what if the answer we're seeking is as close as the nearest mirror? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the power of personal reconciliation. Justin candidly shares his journey...

In part two of this powerful series, Abi and Justin unpack what it truly means to feel regulated—and why it matters in every relationship. Discover how partners co-create a shared nervous system that affects everyone involved and get practical, game-changing strategies for building a space of love and connection through self-regulation. Plus, listen in as they share real apologies, acknowledging t...

We've all been in situations where conflict slowly builds between us and someone else, only to find ourselves acting in ways we're not proud of. Suddenly, we're asking, "How did I get here, and how can I stop this from happening again?" Yet, we often repeat these cycles, unsure of how to break free. It's challenging for everyone involved—but there are solutions! In part one of this two-part episod...

We're wired to seek love, approval, and affirmation—even when it pushes us to the breaking point. But what happens when life knocks you down so hard that performing is no longer an option? In this raw and eye-opening episode, Abi shares about her battle with PTSD and how it shattered her ability to keep up appearances. She dives into the toll of self-neglect, fueled by a 'can-do' attitude that led...

In Part 2 of this series, Justin and Abi are once again joined by Johnny and Pietze for an in-depth look at secure functioning and the power of collaboration in creating a balanced partnership. Johnny and Pietze introduce a powerful alternative to "lawyering" called "microscopic truth," a way to communicate authentically and honestly that deepens connection and trust. They wrap up the conversation...

Creating a secure, lasting partnership with someone we love is A LOT of work! It can be especially difficult when we don't have a roadmap. But don't lose hope, we've got your back! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their close friends Johnny and Pietze for a deep dive into the phases of a relationship. From the thrill of infatuation to the delicate dance of negotiating needs, they disc...

The battle between parents and their children is real! In many homes, parents either feel overrun by their kids, or they rule with an iron fist. But what if there was a way to create a balanced environment filled with mutual respect and love? In this episode, Habit Coach and friend Jenna Zint joins Abi and Justin for a deep dive into setting boundaries with your children and navigating the emotion...

It's common for people to ask, "What am I doing with my life?" There's a natural curiosity within us that seeks to understand our purpose on earth. The journey to discover what we're created for can often feel overwhelming, but maybe it doesn't have to be so complicated. In this 300th episode, Abi and Justin reflect on the humble beginnings of their marriage and the daunting challenge of trying to...

You probably know or have met someone with ADD, ADHD, or autism—or maybe you're one of those people. These neurological differences, known as neurodivergence, make up an estimated 15-20% of the population. Whether or not you fall into this category, it's likely to impact your life, and we're here to help you navigate it. In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their close friend, a fellow ne...

It's easy to fall in love with the idea of someone. The fantasy we create in our minds is often one of very few imperfections. Unfortunately, the perfect person only exists in our imagination. Building a relationship around a fantasy cannot only be disappointing, but it can be incredibly destructive.  In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to...