The (Complex) PTSD Guy

If you tend to be hard on yourself, remember to give yourself a break. I decided to be kind to myself and share something that I had originally talked myself out of sharing; which is a perfect example of being hard on myself or judging myself. I finally found my favorite philosopher: Jose' Ortega y Gasset.

Advice on ways to decrease anxiety, based on things that have worked for me over the past few years.

Examples of my own self-defeatest behavior in the past, which stems from my CPTSD, and how I am approaching situations differently, particularly in regards to dating people. My difference in approach is based on my own 4 Rules to Life, and is actually working!

How, I think, that logical thinking is an important part of getting away from emotional thinking. Complex PTSD and emotional thinking seem to go hand-in-hand. How I've been increasing my ability to think more logically and engage with day-to-day events in a healthier way, which has brought me a lot of happiness.

Recently have stopped isolating and sought social engagements. The positive results of seeing both of these situations from a new viewpoint. I've followed my own 4 Rules to Life and they are working! Important to see things from a logical perspective.

"Why me" and "I'm being wronged" are the overwhelming feelings when we unknowingly approach life from a survival mode mindset. These are simply other words for Unjustness. It's rooted in our long-term abuse and feelings of incompetence that stem from that. I provide my own 4 Rules to Live By that help me reverse this toxic approach to life.

Why I think the concept of job security is a myth that only stresses us out, and what I realized is a healthier and more realistic approach to finding what actually resembles security. How to build this.

Share from an article on why identity crisis might be a good thing. Talk about my own identity crisis I've been in lately. Big decisions can equal big changes.

Remedies for when you feel emotionally hijacked. Similar to my short-term memory tornado from yesterday. Found an article with 4 remedies for this. Did you know doing math problems can help? I'm going to try this.

Making a list of situations where I'm triggered, such as car problems, health insurance, accumulative tests, etc... This way I might see it daily and might get it into my long-term memory for future reminder to not beat myself up when I become frustrated. Remedies included.

Triggering situation that happened today and how I reminded myself of the remedies for it. Also, briefly mention a book by Joyce Meyer, "The Battlefield of the Mind: Winning the Battle in your mind" and some chapter titles you may find very relatable.

How growing up with a CrazyMaker can thwart our creativity in our youth, and how that can negatively impact our adult relationships by causing us to lose touch with our interests. Also, a remedy for coping with CrazyMakers; just wish them the best because they probably need it.

This is one of the most challenging things for so many of us with Complex PTSD. I share my Golden Rules of what TO do when seeking a healthy relationship and what NOT to do. Do not seek out a Rescuer!

A few notes on changes I've recently made, that have brought me joy. Having boundaries and cleaning up my environment in ways that work for me. Maybe they will work for you too. Time for some spring cleaning/purging!

Single review of how the mother, Corrine, in the 1987 movie "Flowers in the Attic" turns into an abuser, just like her own mother.

Know that the lessons an abuser teaches you are/were taught by what I refer to as a "Thoughtless Teacher" because tying in abuse with teaching is counter intuitive. What to watch out for to protect yourself from self-destruction or becoming an abuser yourself...In my opinion.

Short podcast about a few small things that I think have brought me a lot of happiness recently. Also mention what my next podcast will be about.

My thoughts: I think Saffy turns into her mother in certain ways, which is sad but very true to being raised by a narcissist. And Sarah (played by Naoko Mori) is my new favorite character on Absolutely Fabulous. Sarah may seem "crazy" but I believe she's a reflection of how crazy she's been treated. Team Sarah 😉

More on my views of why Saffy from Absolutely Fabulous is a good candidate for a youth who would develop Complex PTSD. Season/Series 4, First three episodes directed by Bob Spiers and Christine Gernon. Written by Jennifer Saunders. Script Editor, Ruby Wax. Premiered on BBC One in 2001

Recent events that remind me to keep up on my survival skills. Don't let one bad apple ruin your day. Mention a survival training manual that I recommend. Next podcast will continue my review of the character Saffy from Absolutely Fabulous.

My thoughts on the role that wearing rose colored glasses and/or a parent who is "sick" (or both) play in a youths developing Complex PTSD. Upcoming podcast discussions.

Stepping out of my comfort zone and building my ability to fix things I know nothing about. Briefly mention the book Zen and The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. This book is about the importance of quality. Finding beauty in what irritates me, my car breaking down, and understanding the importance of quality in life.

What happened in my life today that is a pet peeve of mine, and how I turned it into a positive. Also, today would have been my grandmother's 104th birthday. Her name was Lavora Gray and she was an expert at keeping a calm head. I value having had her in my life into my adulthood!

Review of Saffy in regards to three episodes from season 3. Again, this is my own personal opinion based on my own Complex PTSD and my opinion of Saffy. Favorite scene ever is mentioned. I'll be doing more on this character, in about a week, based on the other seasons they did years later.

Further review of the character Saffy, from the comedy TV series Absolutely Fabulous, in relation to Complex PTSD. Why I think if this were a real person Saffy would have developed CPTSD. Episodes from season 2.