The (Complex) PTSD Guy

Three key things to help overcome self-destructive behavior (self-sabotage)... having a support group for the changes you are making, having healthy coping mechanisms that you can incorporate along with the changes, and asserting personal boundaries.

Tips on what environments can trigger you to shut down and lack self expression, or lose sense of who you are. How to get back your identity, and some reminders to keep in view in case you feel lost in the future.

Recent developments regarding financial stability and why trust is an important factor. Also mention how stress and hopelessness can hinder financial success, and the importance of giving yourself a break and forgiving yourself if you haven't reached your goals yet.

The importance of asking for help with things that you struggle with or need assistance with. How isolating hinders this. I give some recent examples from my own life, including that I just signed up for a money management class.

Reminder about the importance of nurturing yourself and how Complex PTSD can impair your money management.

The frightening feeling that is systemic abuse, and something that recently triggered me regarding this (which I mention). Also a small reflection on systematic abuse.

List of a few great benefits that have materialized recently in my life due to sticking to my routine, and the importance of keeping a calendar for yourself. Has helped with communication, receiving positive attention, and I feel more confident in myself.

I think the Holy Grail of a joyful relationship is finding someone who has an essence that matches your own. I explain what I mean and the importance of having boundaries when you find this type of relationship. I've realized my own essence is that I'm an absurdist, and it makes initiating a relationship so much simpler.

I discuss the enormous importance of embracing your essence and how this allows you to enjoy life. There are six key qualities that I think come from embracing your essence, and they are confidence, experience, ageing with grace, being witty, being raw and being interesting. Sometimes with trauma that essence is shutdown, and it's important to get it back by embracing it!

How denial plays a key role in long-term abuse, and that's what Complex PTSD is... long-term trauma. It creates the effect of focus being wiped away or as I call it the incredibly disappearing memory game.

I list 15 symptoms of Complex PTSD and put them into 3 groups. By grouping them based on their similarities, I think it's easier to find possible solutions to help cope with them.

Importance of putting out good vibes, showing people you care. Health and wellness is important to focus on and share, and it's just as important for you to receive that same positive feedback.

My own experiences with catastrophic thinking and how I cope with it. I give specific examples of how I have thought this way, and I also noticed a pattern when searching for remedies; same remedies for different situations.

My opinions about how to be less impulsive and increase our forethought. I give a few examples of how bad I used to be about problem solving, strategy and planning ahead. This can get better over time.

Helped support a local charity today, giving back to others in a specific way. It really helped me realize how to brighten someone's day with such simple things. I was also reminded of things that I had forgotten that I tend to take for granted and they've helped me more than I had remembered.

I share a tip about a reminder, we could have in our home, to help if you struggle with a distracted mind in the evenings. I'm going to try it out this coming week and will report back.

I give examples of what I did wrong, after I woke up to the reality of how bad my trauma really was growing up; I call this waking up "The Event". I provide tips on how to reverse that reactionary approach and engage in a healthy approach.

Results from my past 7 days of journaling what the most overwhelming feelings popped up most often. The main thing was situations where other people's behavior didn't make sense to me, and I would end up being hard on myself. I realized the remedies in how to address this moving forward, which are empathy and being a better listener.

Profound way of looking at life that I heard about yesterday and today. Learned how to live in the moment and bond with people by using gratitude. I explain how to do this with people who you don't like too, and it may not be what you think.

Do you receive condescending feedback? I explain why the stress/anxiety you feel around someone (which leads to an unfocused mind) can lead to putting your foot in your mouth and feeling like an idiot. This can result in condescending feedback. It's not your fault, but good to know where it comes from and how to build your ability to focus.

How solving issues from a short-term thinking (impulsive) mindset has led me into current positions in my life (along with the feelings that come with it). Important to remind myself how that isn't a bad thing, and once I figured out how it began I realized the long-term solution to it.

Update related to finding answers to questions and how important it is to find the right person to talk to. I also share some new things I learned and the importance of engaging with your interests, especially if you grew up in an emotionally toxic home.

The importance of having a support group or various people who support you in different aspects of your life. I didn't do this on my own, I had to seek out support too and am glad I did.

Getting some perspective that's long overdue regarding unhealthy habits, and getting some feedback regarding those divine moments I mentioned.

Knowing the right word for why we shut down and why we feel a lost sense of self, that's half the battle. It's not just that trauma leads to these things, the trauma started it, and the shutting down is the result, but the middle piece is so important because it can be invisible and just lingers unnamed...but it has a name and it's called STRESS.