The Coach's Notes

The dance between I and Me lives right at the heart of selfhood—it’s the movement between the actor and the mask, the subject and the object, and the experiencer and the experienced.  William James started the split: I as the knower, the pure subject of consciousness; Me as the known, the self that can be observed—my body, my history, my reputation, my roles. George Herbert Mead later turned this...

I read this morning from a philosopher that we are "misliving." Basically he was suggesting that in our current lifestyle, we often misread, misinterpret, or misconstrue various aspects of our lives, which keeps us from living a truly meaningful life.

You know, there's this quote by Gabriel Marcel that goes like this, "Life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be experienced." And honestly, I think it's such a cool way to look at life.

Is the choice of Hercules a trick question? Which would you choose?

In this episode, we explore the realities and emotions of being over fifty, acknowledging the poignant truth that we may have more days behind us than ahead. Join us as we dive into the complexities of life's finite nature and the impact it has on our perspectives. My guest today is Nicola Jones.

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The art of noticing has me noticing.

For today's Coach's Notes, I want to share a conversation I had with Sarah back in May 2022. I was originally going to use this interview along with others to revive the Wisdom Experience podcast, which focuses on spirituality and inner wisdom. For whatever reason, I decided not to pursue the relaunch. But I did have some great conversations with a few people, and given the direction and mission o...

The journey to uncover our authentic selves is an ongoing process, marked by moments of self-discovery, growth, and transformation. By pulling back the layers of persona and examining the depths of our being, we can forge a deeper connection with ourselves and live more authentic, fulfilling lives. The authentic self is not a fixed destination, but rather a constant exploration of the ever-evolvin...

The notes for this episode are just under 2500 words.  I would post them, but I want you to listen to the episode instead. I know you're a busy person, so I'll be kind and share a stripped down list of what I talk about in this episode. It's a long episode, so you might want to listen to it on your commute or while you're out walking or doing your chores! Here's what I talk about today: Some facto...

Going Small When setting out to achieve a big goal, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking that bigger is better. However, sometimes it's better to think small. In fact, thinking small can actually be the key to achieving a big goal. Here are some reasons why: Small steps are easier to take: When you break down a big goal into smaller steps, it becomes much easier to take action. Instead of f...

Hello! Both holistic living and systems thinking are ways of looking at the world that acknowledge the interconnectedness of all things. While holistic living is a lifestyle that involves taking care of your whole self, systems thinking is an approach to problem-solving that considers the relationships and interactions between different elements in a system. Let's explore the similarities and diff...

In our fast-paced world, it can be difficult to find moments of stillness and calm. However, I believe that it is essential to carve out time in our lives for moments of reflection and introspection. One of the best ways to do this is by establishing a solid morning routine. A morning routine is a set of habits or practices that we do each morning before we begin our day. It can be as simple or as...

Excellence is not just a goal to be pursued; it is a way of life that we can cultivate in everything we do. It is a commitment to the highest standards, to the pursuit of our full potential, and to the continual refinement of our skills, abilities, and character.

In this episode, I share some thoughts on personal power. I talk about how we limit ourselves by sinking our personal power into habits that are either bad or less than optimal.

Fear, doubt, and disbelief can be powerful emotions that can hold you back from reaching your full potential. However, with the right tools and strategies, it is possible to overcome these emotions and lead a fulfilling life. By facing your fears, practicing self-affirmation, focusing on the present moment, seeking support, embracing failure and developing a growth mindset, you can become more con...

In this episode, I explain why it's important to keep your belief maps fresh and up-to-date. Our belief maps are how we navigate reality. Reality is subjective, of course, so how do we make sure our current view of reality is the most up-to-date?

Alfred Korzybsky, a philosopher and mathematician, is known for his concept of "the map is not the territory." This idea refers to the idea that our understanding of the world around us is limited by the language and symbols that we use to describe it. In other words, the way that we perceive and understand the world is not the same as the actual world itself.

Merely writing down your goals is not a guarantee of success. To increase your chances of achieving your goals, it is essential to set an intention, examine your intent, establish a significant ritual related to your goal, and take action. Check out the show notes for more information.

The Logical Levels framework is a model for understanding how different aspects of a person are interconnected and how they influence one another. The model was developed by Robert Dilts, a pioneer in the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Logical Levels are a way of looking at how different aspects of our lives are interconnected and how they can influence one another. Click here to see...

I know how it feels to be a procrastinator. I've been there, and I've woken up with a long list of things to do and nowhere near enough time to get them done. To combat this, I have a few tips for you.

In this episode of the Coach's Notes, I share two rituals with you. One old ritual that I have been doing for years, and one new ritual.

I love it when you can dip back to the ancient Greeks and pull out a bit of wisdom. Speaking on emotional intelligence (of course they didn't call that back then) Aristotle had this to say about anger:  “Anyone can become angry – that is easy. But to be angry with the right person to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way – that is not easy.” The thing abou...

"The paradox of feeling that matters of extreme importance are occurring, whilst at the same time nothing seems to matter, is a part of the atmosphere of existential themes. Within the desert, we can search and search for something we sense is there, only to uncover more sand." Crossing the border into existential territory on this one. Join me. Points of Reference Transpersonal Dynamics: the rela...

I spent some time out in nature reflecting on the gift of being human. It's easy to take our existence for granted. We wake up in the morning, do some stuff, then call it a day. We wake up the next day and do it all again without pausing to marvel at how truly amazing it is to be alive. In this episode, I share with you what I am most grateful for about being human.