The Bougie Dating Coach Podcast

In this episode, I open up about my journey with softness, vulnerability, and discovering my fearful-avoidant attachment style. I share how those patterns showed up in dating—especially with one man I really wanted but pulled away from—and the self-sabotage loop I didn’t even know I was stuck in.   We’ll talk about what softness is (and what it’s not), how femininity is rooted in our relationship...

For years, I believed a lie that left me chasing after the “perfect” man who didn’t exist. The truth? No one gives you 100%. Even the healthiest relationships are an 80/20 split—80% of what you need, 20% of what you won’t. In this episode, I share how letting go of that lie shifted my dating perspective, why character matters more than butterflies, and how to identify your core values so you stop...

There’s a shift happening in me—and maybe in you too. A divine nudge to slow down, pull back, and let go of the checklist I’ve clung to for most of my life. In this episode, I’m sharing what it feels like to sit in the in-between: the space where desire is loud, but God’s instruction is “rest.” Where everything in me wants answers, timelines, and action—but God keeps inviting me into stillness and...

Sis, here’s the truth: God is specific. So why are we still being vague when it comes to what we desire in a man? In this episode, I’m inviting you into the exact conversation I had with God about my desires—no filters, no shame. From the pressures of the invisible clock to the temptation to "settle just a little," we’re talking about it all. We’ll walk through: Why vague prayers lead to vague res...

You’ve been praying… faithfully, tearfully, hopefully. But let’s be honest—it’s starting to feel like your love life is on permanent do not disturb mode. If you grew up in the church, you’ve likely heard, “Just pray and trust God,” but when it comes to your romantic desires, the silence can feel deafening. In this episode, we’re reviving your prayer life—not with empty platitudes, but with purpose...

Girl, if you're waiting for a man to start living your life—you’re doing it backwards. In this episode, I’m breaking down the one date that will change your confidence, your magnetism, and your standards—and it doesn’t involve a man at all. We’re talking about solo dating —what it is, why it matters, and why you might be avoiding it. Whether it’s lack of time, not knowing where to go, or lowkey be...

Tired of hearing “Just wait—God will bring him when you least expect it”? Sis, let’s be real: that phrase is starting to sound more like a band-aid than a breakthrough. In today’s episode, I’m unpacking why your wait on God might feel frustrating and how to actually shift into a season of magnetic, aligned action—without losing hope. This isn’t about striving, performing, or being busy for the sak...

Are you staying in again this weekend, hoping love will just knock on your door? Sis, it's time to get up, get dressed, and get in position. In this episode, I’m sharing three intentional places to go EACH DAY this weekend that will help you increase your chances of meeting a man who actually matches your lifestyle and values—without having to sacrifice your standards or your sanity. This episode...

Sis, are you confusing friendliness with flirtation? If you’ve ever left a conversation wishing you’d shown your interest instead of freezing up—this episode is for you. In this juicy and practical lesson, I’m teaching you how to flirt like the bold, bougie, and God-aligned woman you are. We’re talking soft eyes, gentle smiles, and the flirty finesse that invites the right kind of masculine attent...

In this episode, we’re calling out a silent saboteur in your dating life: hyper-independence. That “I’ll do it myself” energy and go-go-go lifestyle might be great for your career, but it could be quietly blocking the very relationship you’re praying for. We explore how your money mindset and overworking habits are linked to unhealed wounds—and how those wounds are dimming your magnetism. You’ll l...

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Episode Notes: It’s Okay to Take Your Time In this episode of The Bougie Dating Coach Podcast, we’re tackling the pressure to rush your dating journey and settling into the peace of God’s perfect timing. Stacey Bessard shares biblical insights, real-life truths, and practical advice to help you embrace patience while remaining intentional and confident. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The impor...

✨ Listener Challenge: Write down your top three non-negotiables. Reflect on whether you’re honoring them and identify one action you can take to uphold them starting today. 📢 Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Dating Glow Up Masterclass : Ready to elevate your magnetism and create a dating life that reflects your highest self? Join us for this transformative experience! Registration Opening so...

Key Takeaways: Why focusing solely on marriage can lead to frustration and neglecting yourself. How prioritizing your growth and fulfillment enhances your magnetism and clarity. Practical steps to focus on you, including setting boundaries, detoxing your life, and pursuing your passions. Encouragement to trust God’s timing and embrace the beauty of your current season. Vision Board Material Links:...

In this episode, we dive deep into the reasons why we feel the urge to reconnect with an ex and how to build resilience to move forward with clarity and confidence. Whether it’s about overcoming emotional habits, breaking unhealthy cycles, or standing firm in your decision to move on, this episode is packed with practical advice and heartfelt encouragement. Key Takeaways Why We Reach Back to an Ex...

Episode Title: Red Flags and Green Lights in Dating: How to Spot the Difference and Choose Alignment Episode Overview: In this episode, we’re exploring the subtle yet powerful signals that guide our dating journeys. From recognizing the red flags that disrupt our peace to embracing the green lights we often overlook, this conversation will help you navigate dating with clarity, confidence, and int...

Episode Summary In this episode of The Bougie Dating Coach , Stacey Bessard explores what it means to date boldly and confidently in your 30s. She shares personal stories, practical advice, and faith-based insights to help single Christian women navigate dating with clarity and intention. This episode covers how to own your journey, the power of clarity, and how faith can be a guiding force in dat...

In this episode of The Bougie Dating Coach, Stacey Bessard dives into the power of dating authentically and unapologetically—on your own terms. With societal and family pressures all around, it can be challenging to stay true to what you genuinely want in a relationship. Stacey explores how to define your unique values and standards, recognize and set boundaries, and confidently ignore external ex...

Welcome to The Bougie Dating Coach with Stacey Bessard, where we empower successful, single Christian women to date boldly, embrace their colorful individuality, and attract the love that truly aligns. In each episode, Stacey combines insight, faith, and real talk to break down common dating challenges, shatter limiting beliefs, and inspire you to hold out for high-quality connections. With practi...

Welcome to The Bougie Dating Coach with Stacey Bessard, where we empower successful, single Christian women to date boldly, embrace their colorful individuality, and attract the love that truly aligns. In each episode, Stacey combines insight, faith, and real talk to break down common dating challenges, shatter limiting beliefs, and inspire you to hold out for high-quality connections. With practi...