The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast

W hat if I told you great intimacy was fully possible for you… even if you're totally single. Wait… what!? I know, I know. Here's the deal, my friend: intimacy is so often seen through only a sexual or romantic lens, but intimacy is simply about deeply, truly  knowing . Seeing. Hearing. Understanding someone deeply. And, that means you can have a fully intimate relationship with  yourself . With o...

E ver find yourself desiring deep, rich connections with your partner or your friends and family but have a hellova time letting your guard down? Maybe you even find yourself craving deep intimacy but you're absolutely  terrified  to really "be seen". I mean, isn't it just safer to stay walled up? Well… if the  other  party was vulnerable first… maybe then it would be safe. Maybe. Why is it so dam...

I f you have spent any time in the dating scene as of late, you know navigating those waters can be murky as hell. So what is one to do if you want to attract meaningful, rich, connected love in your life? Like, where the fuck are those folks? The ones who do the work on themselves, who understand their wants and needs, and who can actually use their god-damned words!!? Since I've been hangin' out...

I f I had a dollar for everytime I've heard someone express feeling unworthy simply because they are single, I would have, like, so many dollars. Seriously. Our society has a way of glorifying coupledom that leaves many folks feeling like finding "the one" is the sole/soul purpose of life. It doesn't help that our media (I'm looking at you, Disney) tells girls that they will magically be saved one...

I n the nearly fifteen years I've been working in the personal development space, I have to say that one of the most recurring challenges I see women face is reckoning with changes in their bodies and what that means for their sense of self-worth. Unless you were magically able to escape the messages we are inundated with in our patriarchal society, it's likely that you've had to navigate the cons...

W hen I was a little girl, I remember my super evangelical, conservative mama telling me,  "There's this sinful notion out there that if something feels good, you should do it. " I'm sad to say this was one of the first messages I received that all things pleasurable were actually of the devil. I shit you not. Of course this message certainly applied to sex and drinking and other debachery [she sa...

I f you operate in a femme body or identify as female, it's highly likely you've found yourself contending with a litany of body image "issues". I put issues in quotes because the things that we worry about, and subsequently own as our "issues", are purposely manufactured to commodify and exploit our bodies. In essence we're programmed to have "issues". They're given to us. For example, we used to...

O ne. More. Thing. One more thing and you may just lose your god-damn mind. If one more person asks something of you… If one more task gets added to your to-do list… You may just Lose. Your. Shit. We've all been in this crazy-ass-stressed-the-fuck-out place where we become, uh-hem, a little less than the best version of ourselves. We scream at our kids when they need something minimal. We lash out...

I t's no secret that our capitalist society places extreme value on how much we can produce and if we're not producing, then we simply aren't "enough". We're not worthy. We fucking suck. The message that many of us recieve is that we must constantly hustle, hustle, hustle in order to be valuable. You want to get ahead in business? You have to burn the candle at both ends. You want to have a family...

M any times when you are feeling either physical or emotional discomfort, it's a huge indication that there is a need you have that isn't being met. For example, let's say you've been feeling a sense of sadness, disconnection, and loneliness and when you dig a bit  deeper  behind that emotion, you realize you've really been  needing  connection and belonging. Time to reach out to the bestie you ha...

H ow many times have you silenced yourself from expressing how you truly feel to someone because you fear coming across as  needy?  Maybe you worry what your partner may say if you find yourself needing more alone time. Or perhaps you think your over-achieving sister will slam you in front of the fam and call you lazy if you take the time you truly need to rest and recharge. Like, god-forbid you a...

Y ou get super jelly that your partner gets to have extra time off work, so you say (in a snarky-ass tone), "Wow. Must be nice to have so much free time". Or maybe a work group you're a part of is trying to decide how to handle a specific project and instead of voicing your true thoughts you say, "We can certainly do it your way" and mutter under you breath, "And good fucking luck with that."  Wha...

S omeone does something that really bothers you, but you'd rather pull your own teeth out than have a confrontation… so you just stay quiet. Or maybe your family is so damn aggressive that you find it easier to hide in the shadows instead of "rocking the boat".  If you weren't properly taught how to advocate for your own wants, needs, and opinions [spoiler: none of us were], it's likely that you f...

T ell me if you can relate: Your partner does something that royally pisses you off, but when you address it, you blow a gasket and things seem to get worse. Or maybe you're so overwhelmed and stressed at work but can't find the words to share that with your boss. Or possibly your sister embarrassed you in front of your whole family, but instead of dealing with it, you sweep it under the rug and r...

S o, you consciously "know" that you should allow room to feel your emotions and cultivate vulnerability (Hi, Brené!) but why don't you actually practice accessing your emotional self? I'll tell you why. Logic, reason, and rationale are housed in the conscious part of the mind which is estimated to be roughly 10% of the mind power. Your beliefs and habits, however, are located in the subconscious...

Y ou know that thing where you consciously  understand  that you are worthy and "enough" but you struggle to actually  believe it ? Well, there's a very real reason for that, so no, you aren't uniquely broken. Like, at all. It has everything to do with the subconscious part of the mind and how it truly runs our life, behavior, and emotions. Our minds are roughly comprised of 10% conscious faculty...

Y ou're livid. Heads are about to roll. Maybe you found out that your partner didn't take care of an important issue at your child's school leaving you scrambling at the last minute. Or perhaps your sister went behind your back and shared something with other family members when you specifically asked her not to. Or maybe you can't listen to the news, get direction from *you know who* at work, or...

O n April 15, 2013, Jennifer Kauffman was standing approximately 15 feet from the finish line bombing at the 117th Boston Marathon. It goes without saying that surviving this terrorist attack left Jennifer with a litany of physical and emotional wounds to tend to. After addressing the emergent physical healing, Jennifer was left emotionally reeling from this event as she grappled with her extreme...

A t the start of every year, it's likely you get pumped up and excited to make some serious change. You decide on a handful of things that you are GOING to conquer this year, god-damn-it! But what actually makes those goals a  reality ? Throughout my decade-plus in this work, I have found that noble intentions have very little to do with bringing goals to fruition. Good ol' fashioned gumption and...

H ave you ever found yourself feeling like no matter what you do, no matter how hard you work, how "perfect" you may be, or how many damn boxes you've checked off it never seems to be enough? Your mind constantly spins with "I'm not smart enough… accomplished enough… pretty enough… good enough" or fill in the blank with some other "not enough". It's almost as though your entire life is centered ar...

FREE PLANNING GUIDE WITH THIS EPISODE ~> I f you're like most people, you have an overwhelming sense of excitement and ambition come the new year. Also like most people, perhaps you hit Jan with a fire under your ass, but when Feb rolls around you have slowly begun to lose steam, fervor, and action. Also, 2021 kicked many of our asses, so there's that to contend with. Many people (and maybe YOU) e...

FREE WORKSHOP ~> E ven though the holiday season is supposed to be all merry and bright and full of glad tidings, it's quite certain that you've found yourself engaged with total overwhelm, buckling from the stress, and dangerously approaching burnout. Although fun and festive, it can take a sheer act of god to keep you from losing your ever-lovin' mind during the chaos of this time of year, amiri...

FREE WORKSHOP ~> T here are certain words that get tossed around the personal development space and are often used without much thought or accuracy. It could be argued that one such word is "intention". It's not uncommon to hear someone say " What is your intention for the day ?" and often the question is simply implying " Where is your focus going to be today? " But, what if the concept of intent...

FREE WORKSHOP ~> U nless you had some kind of utopian upbringing, it's likely that you were taught how to use logic, reason, and rationale to dictate your choices and actions… to ensure you were doing the "right" thing. But, it's highly unlikely that someone taught you how to be still, listen to your internal knowing, and lean on your intuition for guidance. In fact, many of us receive a shit-ton...

FREE WORKSHOP ~> F ind yourself dreading holiday functions with your family because it's only a matter of time until your mom pesters you about why you don't go to church anymore… or you aunt gives you shit for not having kids or not being married… or your uncle gets in a heated (uncomfortable) "discussion" about gun rights? Or perhaps you're dreading the impending convo where your bro asks you fo...